what is the best solution to my long distance relationship now...?

Question

I met my girlfriend when I studied aboard one and a half-year ago, we stayed together for two months, it was our most enjoyable and unforgettable 2 months we ever had. She came back to her countries in Feb 2006. After we dismissed, we still keep our long distance relationship until now. In last 5 months, due to her graduation thesis and new job in her home country, we have less chance to talk to each other. She told me she has less feeling on me after she started to work. She even told me clearly that her thinking and feeling on our relationship has changed. It was out of my expectation that I feel nothing at all when I heard about it. I believe that our feeling towards each other has declined due to the problem of distance and time.

Does anyone think that we still love each other? Is there any solution to our current situation? I am very confused now; she is the same as me. I feel that she is looking for my response?

here is some more details on us:
-we haven't met each other since we dismissed in feb 2006
-i bought the ticket to go to her place last week, and she told me she has less feeling on me after i paid the money
-i don't feel angry and sad on her response, i still decide to go, just consider it as a travel, i still want to consider her as my friend...(i think we feel like pen pal for half year already...)

Answer 1

Just keep in touch.

If distance were the only issue - distance does not always make people grow apart.

What might have made you grow apart is right now you are both going through big life changes - graduating from college, etc. and there are so many other changes that bring new perspectives quickly. Being a career woman and not a student anymore, she is also meeting new people everyday and may really yearn to have somebody who is there with her.

Also, being citizens of two different countries may make her assess at how much cost is she willing to pursue the relationship. If she took the relationship to the next step, she may have to give up regular contact with her family, her career if all of her schooling doesn't "translate" in a new country (or have to go to school longer), and everything else she knows. If she likes you a lot and cares for you but doesn't see you as the love of her life, I can see why she would demure from continuing with you. Especially if there really is no plan to find a way to be together in the same place. And besides, depending on what country each of you are from, she may not be able to come/you go there without a student visa

That is the tricky thing with long distance relationships. I was in one with my husband - but we had an exit plan. We got to a point and said - someone has to move to continue this relationship. If one of us was never willing to make that leap, and there was no possibility of it, then there really would have not been a point of being together as a couple. It would have continued for a time, and then we would probably have both knew it wasn't going anywhere/wanted more.

If you didn't make an effort to meet up with eachother 2 months after you parted, then she may see no point.

I would just keep in touch with her, but as far as a girlfriend you might want to pursue a relationship with someone from your own country who is available to be with you

Answer 2

It sounds like you are both ready to move on with your lives. Of course that doesn't mean you can't keep in touch and stay friends. Long distance romances are very difficult even when in the same country, but are about impossible when in separate countries. It sounds like you haven't seen each other since she left and that you aren't thinking about visiting each other at any time in the future, so perhaps it is time to call her and tell her that although you still care for her and you know she still cares for you this relationship just isn't working out.. If you decide to end the long distance relationship make sure you let her know that you still want to remain friends and keep in touch once in a while.. Good luck and God bless..

Answer 3

Well long distance relationships are hard and take much work and commitment to stay together. If you two truly love each other then it will work but you have to be there with her because the distance can easily be the excuse every time. Ask yourself " do you love her" if the answer is yes then go to her, let nothing stand in the way and if she wants you too then earn her love and spend the rest of your life together. Don't grow old thinking about what might have been; nothing is more expensive than regret.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Sounds to me it's time you both move on with your lives without one another. Long distance relationships are very hard and most of the time don't work out.

Answer 6

I do not think that the relationship can survive the distance, unless something changes that can bring both of you near each other I would say it is time to move on.

Answer 7

I believe that you two should just cut the relationship and either keep contact with each other or cut it all out because if you felt nothing then you really don't care anymore

Good Luck:)

Answer 8

I will tell you like this...
Long distances relationships do not last because the two are seperate from each other and eventually grow apart =/
Sorry

Answer 9

no there is no solution, time and distance makes you changed + you didnt spend too much time with her, so that's makes it easier for her feelings to change. you should let her go, and you have to move on, go out with other girls. have fun.

Answer 10

let her go........if its meant to be youll see each other again in time. trust me.