same first and last name as me. She used to live here....and now there have been inportant pieces of mail that I have NOT gotten because they were forwarded to here stupid house. We have a post office box that we use (here in PA.......me and my family) but if someone sends something to our PHYSICAL ADDRESS, it doesn't get to me. She should not have changed her last name. That was really stupid. She knows I'm not dating anyone, so I wouldn't be able to get married and change my name like she did. What should I do about this?! I asked her to send me the mail that she got of mine.....its been over 2 weeks.....haven't gotten it. I need to do something better about this!!!
2007-05-11 04:28:31 · 20 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Here's an idea on how to get your future mail (I don't know what to do about the mail that she already has).
Fill out a change of address form yourself. Put the old address as your street address and your new one as your PO box. The risk here is that YOU may start getting HER mail but since you know how that feels, maybe you'll be better about getting it to her than she was to you.
Good luck!
PS. I don't know what your relationship is like with her but you might tell your brother and see if he'll send yoru mail to you, OR tell him or her that by keeping YOUR mail she is committing mail fraud, which is a federal offense, and would she please send the mail right away.
2007-05-11 04:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if she is your sister-in-law then saying she should not have changed her last name is selfish and thoughtless on your part. She married and respected him and loved him enough to take his last name as his own. It has nothing to do with you!!
I too shared the same name as a cousin for a few years and although it did cause some problems we worked them out.
As far as getting your mail back from her you should send her a package of 10 or so preaddressed and prestamped manila envelopes that she can just put your things in and drop them in the mail back to you. That way it is not inconvenient for her at all. If you get her things I would send them back to her at your own expense since this would show good faith on your part and she will be more likely to continue to send you your things even if she runs out of the prepaid envelopes.
2007-05-11 11:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should both start using your middle names, or at least the initial in your mailing address. Call any companies you do business with and have them change your name to include your initial so that there's no confusion. have her do the same. or you could just let them all know to send your mail to the post office box.
2007-05-11 11:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by kra_z_nic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe adding your middle name to your address will help. Call everyone you receive mail from and change the way your name is set up on file. Assuming you don't have the same middle name. Don't forget to change this with the DMV as well. I know it's time consuming, but at least she won't get your mail anymore.
2007-05-11 11:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put in a mail forwarding order in your name to forward the house mail to your post office box. Maybe that will override her forward and you can just send her the mail you get thats for her.
2007-05-11 11:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its not your SIL's fault by any means that your mail got routed there...no rules or law says that just because you are married you have to change your name and she by far doesn't have to do it to make YOUR life easier....
Yes, I do think its her issue that she's holding up your mail. That's a different story.
What you can do is call up local post office and speak to them about this mishap and find a solution. It is their error to fix...next contact all the companies whose mail has been forwarded and ask them to either send you an e-bill or confirm if your payment is overdue...cause sweetheart...bill collectors wont care of your dilemma...they will just see that as an excuse of you not paying your bills...
2007-05-11 11:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by Madd Scientist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all - she had every right to change her name even though you happen to have the same name as her. I understand it would be very annoying to not get your mail but I'm assuming you give your sister-in-law attitude about it, maybe if you spoke to her like an adult she would be more likely to send you the mail timely. If not, ask your brother to send it to you!
2007-05-11 11:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
try talking to your brother, he may be able to send the mail to you. Also, she had every right to change her last name to that of her husband. In a few years you will look back at this and find it funny. You are just a little pissed at the moment. Don't over react and cause a family rift.
2007-05-11 11:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't do anything about the name change. That is just the way of the world, Just tell people to send mail for you to the PO box otherwise you will not receive it.
2007-05-11 11:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by jbark8831 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u need to call those places and have them change the address...and u need to physically go to the post office and let them know what is going on. THey need to be aware of this, and hopefully something can be done about it.
Do u have a middle name...maybe u should start putting your middle initial in your name, to differentiate u both.
2007-05-11 11:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by true_wahine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋