Okay, I really like this guy a lot. Yesterday, his best friend told him that I liked him and now he knows. I really want to go out with him, but I'm afraid to ask! I have a big fear of rejection and I would rather him ask me. I really need to know what I should do!!! The formal is nearing and I need a date and I want it to be him. OMG, help! Thanks.
2007-05-11 04:08:25 · 20 answers · asked by stormiRIOT! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If i was in the guy's situation...i really wouldnt care if you came up and asked me out. Sure you dont want to be rejected but think about it if u two didnt do anything at all....You would not only be alone...he would also be alone...and when you spot him itll be awkard...so do you want that...You should take action cause if you dont you might regret it tmr
2007-05-11 04:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by Kayne C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a big fear of rejection and would rather have him ask you....think about that for a second...what if he feels the same way you do..and both of you end up quaking in the corner too afraid to ask the other?
Honey life is too short. If you want to go with this boy ask him. If he says no...big deal. Ask another boy and keep asking until someone says yes, and if no one says yes put on your dress and go by yourself.
Young women need to stop depending on the BOYS to have all the courage and all the power.
I know it is hard to believe right now, but in the big picture of life your teen years are just a teeny blip on the radar, however what character you manage to build now just might stay with you...think about the women who have the courage to face Donald Trump in the apprentice..the most fierce and tough of all business men...do you think they developed this courage overnight?
Risk taking is best learned young. If you want it go for it. If you fail, try again.
(and for heaven's sake don't be so eager to have a date with this fellow that you would "do anything". Girls should only do THAT if they really REALLY want to.)
2007-05-11 11:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by Terri M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*Hey you need to be a big girl, and step up your game.
.The word is out and he knows that you like him, so if you act all shy and timid and stand offish about it...then he'll probably think you're weird.
.Whereas if you were to just approach casually and use the age old "Hey we have never officially met...my name is ___, what's yours?"
...Be a smooth talker, in fact you don't even have to mention the whole you liking him thing when you first start talking to him. Keep it casual-simple and short. Guys don't like talking forever and ever.
.....So I think you should just approach him and befriend him first...don't even mention the whole crush thing. Just take some time for you two to get to know each other, and then you both will really see if you two like each other enough to date.
.Get to know him first on a friend level and see if you really like what he's about and vise versa.
.By going about it this way, and NOT mentioning that you like him or saying anything about you liking him, you are letting him know that you aren't desperate or anything and that you are cool with just being "friends" or whatever.
.Good luck and keep me posted please. I want to know how this all turns out.
2007-05-11 11:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can play Chicken all your life and miss out on the biggest experiences of your life. What are you going to do in your career if you are a chicken. Stay in a stagnant position the rest of your life and live a lie that you are happy where you are.
Start small, ask the boy first. Guys love strong minded, decisive, self loving girls.
Your career will fall into place if you start small.
2007-05-11 11:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by jebby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his friend had informed him that you like him and your sure of this; than you need to let him come to you. unless he's super shy or something, if he knows you like him and he likes you, than there should be nothing stopping him. If you think he is shy than just start a conversation with him, see how he acts. Flirting may make it easier for him to tell you how he feels or his reaction to your flirting will give you some insight into the way he feels, just don't overdo it! and don't think to much about it!
2007-05-11 11:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by sarah b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do here kisses is ask his best freind what his reaction was when he told him you liked him-if he laughed then he is not to be taken seriously but if he made no real comment or expression then its worth asking him-at the very worst all he can do is refuse politely-and the chances are he will say yes-us guys get flattered at being asked out every bit as much as you ladies!!-so go for it.
2007-05-11 11:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by tony c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a big believer in facing your fears, I would say go for it ask him I understand the fear of rejection I use to have it but I gritted my teeth and went for it ( I was turned down but it wasn't all that bad)
so gather your courage and go for it.
P.S
There is nothing to fear but fear itself
2007-05-11 11:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by gohanss464601 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection is hard, but it only makes you stronger. Take a chance and ask the worst that can happen is he says no and you feel embarrased. If he sats no, then ask someone else.
2007-05-11 11:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by cyran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you afraid of him? You had his friend tell him you like him. He knows. You have nothing to lose now.
The worst thing he can say is NO. But, what if he says yes? Think about that!
GO ASK HIM NOW!
2007-05-11 11:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by javarick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! just freakin ask him and stop acting like a baby, no one likes ot be rejected so you are no different than the next person, just ask him!
2007-05-11 11:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋