What happened, why hasn't he called?

Question

I met a guy through a chatroom, seemed like we had many things in common, started talking on the phone and he was awesome, he told me that he was looking for a serious relationship, just like me...he would text and call me constantly. We eventually met, he told me that he was very interested in me, he said that we needed to go out. Well, he didn't call me the next day after we met. I decided to call him, because I was worried something had happened to him, because he never spends so much time without contacting me. He didn't answer my text or my phone call. I wonder what happened. Everything had been good. Just wondering why he stopped calling...

I met a guy through a chatroom, seemed like we had many things in common, started talking on the phone and he was awesome, he told me that he was looking for a serious relationship, just like me...he would text and call me constantly.We exchanged pictures.I think i am a worthwhile person, he is also going to college, I am a teacher, pursuing my masters degree. He is going to college, has a great paying job. We eventually met, he told me that he was very interested in me, said that he was the best woman he had ever met,he said that we needed to go out. Well, he didn't call me the next day after we met. I decided to call him, because I was worried something had happened to him, because he never spends so much time without contacting me. He didn't answer my text or my phone call. I wonder what happened. Everything had been good. Just wondering why he stopped calling...

Answer 1

The plain and simple truth is that he stopped calling because he no longer is interested in you. He had a good time on the phone but once he met you in person he lost interest. A real gentleman would have called back and explained that to you. Next don't be so willing to meet strangers from the net or phone. You're putting yourself in a very dangerous situation. Try to meet and date people you or someone you know is familiar with.

Answer 2

Similar thing happened to me about two years ago. A friend and I had found out some people we knew were on yahoo personals, so we signed up. I met this really attractive, sweet, witty guy (and he had a picture of me, so there were no unpleasant shocks), we met up for lunch and planned to go on an "official" date the next night. He even asked if he could kiss me before we went our separate ways for the afternoon but was turned down for anything beyond a hug; and I was soon glad about that.

The time of the date came and went. After waiting for three hours, I called him... only to find out that he was in a town which was two hours away, and knowing that his job required traveling I gave him the benefit of the doubt. During the phone call he didn't bother to suggest an alternative time, simply said where he was and that he couldn't make it that night after all (would've been nice if he'd bothered to tell me that three hours earlier), and that was it.

To this day, I'm not sure what put him off. Maybe in real life our personalities just didn't click. Maybe by asking to kiss me he was testing how "easy" I was, and was disappointed with the results (it isn't like I shoved him away in disgust or anything, just politely stated that I'd be more comfortable getting to know him first). Either way, it wasn't like I was in love with him, so I gave myself a couple days to get over the disappoint and went on with my life. You should probably consider doing the same.

Answer 3

He was calling and texting you constantly before you all met. Some people like the thrill of not really getting to know the person they are talking to in chat-rooms. It is thrilling to them and mysteries. So when they met you the excitement is go and they start up a knew relationship in the chat-room. Many are in the chat-room just to chat. They have no intention on being serious. Don't take things people say serious so fast. It take a really long time to get to know someone. And then you really don't know them. Enjoy your life. Don't try to move into a serious relationship right now. That will all come for you soon enough. I don't feel you will meet this person in a chat-room. You are a very interesting and loving person. You like to have fun and care about others. This is why it is so easy for you to trust others. It's good to trust but you have to be careful. Don't rush things. Take care!

Answer 4

I say relax, guys are funny like that. Did you guys exchange pictures or something before you met? If that was the first time you guys had seen each other than physical attraction might have been an issue, but I say relax about it. If he calls he calls, if he doesn't he doesn't. You really can't worry about it. Be glad you didn't waist a lot of time on him and move on.

Everyone has their personal preferences on how to meet people, but I don't think a chat room is the place to be looking for love.

Answer 5

A little bit of honesty on his part would be nice. Honestly, I think he enjoys your personality but for some reason doesn't think you are the person that he wants a serious relationship with. I think you need to contact him via internet and ask him to be up front with you. I know I had a blind date once, I really liked the way he looked in his pic and the way he talked (typed) and we had nice conversations. But when I met him (and I hate if this sounds shallow) he had horrible breath and really bad teeth. I never told him why I stopped seeing him. Just see if you can get him to fess up to why he's treating you this way. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Well I guess us guys follow this code of dating thing too, or so people have told me... I guess there is a 3 day waiting to call rule after meeting. And a lot of the time we get scared and just stop calling. I think you did the right thing, now it's up to him to make the next move. If he doesn't, move on, he's probably a flake and him not calling back is for the best!

Answer 7

Honey, He may be having second thoughts about actually meeting with someone he met online in a chat room, as you should be. He may be a phoney who doesn't want to be revealed. This is a very dangerous way to meet people. I know it sometimes turns out good but I sure wouldn't risk it. He may even be married with a couple of kids. He may be a she. It could be anything.

I would let it go and go meet people the old fashioned way. Talk to a counselor in your area and get their advice.

Good luck.

Answer 8

There are a couple of things that could have happened. First did you sleep with him? If you did he might have tricked you into thinking he wanted something more than he really wanted.

Second, sometimes when you meet a person face to face there might not be a strong attraction and maybe he just did not feel the chemistry. ( he should have called anyway to explain if this was the case )

Answer 9

Obviously his interest went away once you met. I'm not rying to be mean at all, but guys are stupid like that! If you aren't there type, they just drop you all together. Some girls are probably that way too. Anyway, forget him. If he done you that way, then he aint worth your time. Life is too short to waste it on losers like that! Go find another man online, or maybe find one where u live. Chatroom relationships arent that great:)

Answer 10

I'm sorry but there is no other reason but to thnk that he is no longer interested. When meeting you in person, he may have made the decision that you arent his type after all. I'm sure you are a beautiful person but sometimes men dont see someting great when its standing right in their face.

so thre are two possible reasons for the noncommunication:

1. he isnt physically intersted in you
2. he has found someone else to chat with
3. his services has been disconnected (less likely)