Ok, when i was a kid about 5-6 years old I remember that I use to go to this store, and there was this teenage guy who touched me inappropriately. he use to touch me "down there". i was too young to know anything, so i never said it. I never told my parents. Now i am in my late 20s and i asked my mom who was that guy that worked in that store, she shocked me it turned out he was my COUSIN!!! he's now married and has two kids, and to top it i use to babysit one of his daugherts! at that time i didn't know it was him that harrassed me. Should I even say anything?? eveyrone sees him as this great quiet simple guy. i havent' seen him in years either, and i heard he's really ill.
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2007-05-11 03:37:23 · 7 answers · asked by A_Latina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The very first thing you should do is talk to a therapist about your memories and start the healing process. If this guy has young daughters, he might be hurting them too. Coming forward could protect countless other little girls.
2007-05-11 03:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were 5 or 6 how old was he? Was he an adult? teenager? or a curious little boy?
Look at all of these factors and weigh them in.....If he was an adult or a late teenager Do something because he could be a perv.....
If early teenager to young kid - don't hold against him....his curiosity got the better of him.
When I was a kid we played doctor or house......
2007-05-11 10:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would only talk to him about it..........there's no reason to ruin his life and reputation now. But, I wouldn't let my children or anyone else's children be around him alone. But I would definitely confront him, and if you can talk to his daughters (without actually telling them what happened) to make sure he didn't molest them too, would be good. If he did or does then you will definitely have to tell somebody else. God Bless!
2007-05-11 10:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by pwellons1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK SOMETHING LIKE THIS IS BOTH COMPLI-
CATED AND CONFUSING. IT HAS BEEN SO MANY
YEATS THAT HAVE GONE BY. I HONESTLY FEEL
THAT YOU NEED WITHIN YOURSELF FIND A WAY
TO FORGIVE THIS PERSON. NO IT WILL NEVER
LEAVE YOUR MIND AND IT IS SOMETHING YOU
WILL NEED TO LIVE WITH. ALSO WHY WOULD
YOU WANT TO DISRUPT HIS FAMILIES LIVES?
I UNDERSTAND YOU WANT IT OUT IN THE OPEN
BUT SOME THINGS ARE BETTER KEPT UNDER
THE TONGUE.... WELL I HOPE YOU FIND A
RESOLUTION FOR YOURSELF AND FIND PEACE
AND FORGIVNESS..........
2007-05-11 10:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by Rosemary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Close the chapter. Why you have kept open it. Forget otherwise you will never happy. Don't be fretful
2007-05-11 10:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by baboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personally i think you should tell your mom what happened when you were a kid and ask how to address the situation; either that or confront him yourself; and ask him why he did it and discuss the situation
2007-05-11 10:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Lyss 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you need to find out if he has done the same to others and if he has then you have to say something you should also talk to him and ask why he did that.
2007-05-11 10:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by tania 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋