Honestly how can I cope with my stupid parents?

Question

I have fever and a sore throat right now. My dad told me to go practise golf and I told him I couldn't cause I feel sick. He actually got mad at me and said that I'm pathetic that I never practise golf. (I practised 2 days ago and I work out every day). He says that he's going to kick me out of my girls golf group as well as all the other girls (because we don't practise every single day). And now he's mad and taking it out on Fuzzy, my dog- cutting all his nails too short. I hate it when he does that but I can't do anything about it.
I hate how my mom acts sometime too. My dad hit me sometimes when I was small, and a couple of months ago he and i were having a pillow fight and I "hit" him on the neck with a pillow. He strained his neck and took it out on me. I didn't start crying until he went out of my room and closed the door. I hate it when he sees me cry because of him.
Whenever I talk to my mom she always turns my words against me. I don't know how to handle this.

Answer 1

Oh you poor unfortunate soul! How could your father be so mean and heartless! the Bible says at Ephesians 6:2-3 “Honor your father and [your] mother”; which is the first command with a promise:  “That it may go well with you and you may endure a long time on the earth.
It is important to honor your parents even when you sincerely believe they are being unfair. "Honor” involves recognizing duly constituted authority. God has vested parents with certain authority in the family. This means that you must recognize their God-given right to make rules for you. True, other parents may be more lenient than yours are. Your parents, though, have the job of deciding what is best for you—and different families may have different standards.
It is also true that even the best of parents can occasionally be arbitrary—even unfair. But at Proverbs 7:1, 2 one wise parent said: “My son [or daughter], . . . keep my commandments and continue living.” Likewise, your parents’ rules, or “commandments,” are usually intended for your good and are an expression of their genuine love and concern.

Answer 2

First, to you and others reading this, I am going to assume that there are two views in this matter. Also, that just because a kid feels bad does not make the parent wrong. Also, that a parent can spank a child.

I am not sure what commitment you made about golf and practise, but that might be an issue. If you have used illness in the past to get out of things, then it could be spilling over to this situation where you really are sick.

Now, if he is the unfeeling ogre that you say, then you need to have your mom take your temperature and prove you are sick. Long-term, you need to have a heart to heart (not a confrontation) and talk about these feelings and talk about what you want to do to get things back on track. In other words, tell them you want to make peace and you need to know what to do. I think they will be honest with you. If what they say is off the wall, then you know you got stuck with bad parents. But it could be that over the years you have been grating on each others nerves without realizing what the root causes are. I am heading there with my daughter and I keep trying to communicate how what she does leads to emotional outbursts by everyone in the family. She's like a bomb who says things that just sets everyone off.

Answer 3

Wow, hitting you when you were younger is that a spanking?!? or back talk by which they hit you on the mouth. A lot of people don't agree with physical stuff to kids like spanking but sometimes that's all you can do.

I know you're not up to this but . . .you didn't come with a manual on how to operate you. Although your parents aren't doing what you want when you want it they do what they know how to do by being taught that from your grandparents or their friends. If you want to change it talk to them. Depending on your tone, scarscm, facts depends on their answer. They don't always respond the way you want but at least their responding. In regards to the dog, be happy your dog get it's nails trimmed because some dogs have to have surgery because the owner never cuts them. It's hard to cut properly unless you know what you're doing. The golf thing was probably an overreaction from him. He's probably in a bad mood from work and said things or golfing is expensive hobby which he feels like is being waster with you not practicing. Strike up a middle ground - practice 6 days a week then 1 day off. Sick - missing school sick, gets extra days.

Answer 4

Hitting and getting a spanking is not really the same thing.....I bet you don't have one bruise.....Hitting is like getting punched in the face or stomach....which I had to endure from my dad.....my mother would spank me with her flat hand on my butt or with a belt.....

If you are taking golf lessons you need to practice.....lessons aren't cheap and your dad doesn't need to waste his good money that he makes if you are not following through with your end of the bargin.

Answer 5

thats stupid parents should be compassionate and nice and not like that i think that is the weirdest thing ever and im sorry your parents do that but just think u wont have to deal with that much longer if u moveout ????