So I've been with my bf for over two years now and I have a feeling that he's going to propose to me in the next few months. I know that I love him more than anyone I've ever dated before and I want to marry him, but I am the only person he has ever been with and I am afraid that he might regret this decision later. How do I know for sure that we are meant to be together?
2007-05-11 03:15:04 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Theres no way of really knowing if your ment to be together unless you give it a shot I guess. I know its scary, but if you love him (and he loves you the way you say he does), then things should fall into place and there'll be some hard obstacles on the way but just remember they are there for a reason sweetie and their there to teach you a lesson. So yes..if you both love each other...I say go. Because Ive felt both regrets. The kind in wishing you didnt do it, and the kind wishing you did. Trust me sweetie, its better if you do it. Than refuse and wondering each day what couldve happen. Wish you the best^^
2007-05-11 03:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki.[mmk]. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We often start deliberating over things that don't even exist when we are in self-doubt. You do love the guy and are so happy with him, and so is he which is what truly matters. He doesn't have to choose you over and above a million women to know that you are the one. He is making the choice of marrying someone when he really wants to and with the person he wants to. Don't ruin the best period of your life by questioning something that makes your world go round ... and if he wasn't the one for you, you probably wouldn't reach this stage in the first place .... just go with the flow and you'll be much happier :) If things will were to go wrong they inherently will, so why get anxious over it before hand ?
2007-05-11 10:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by ttfn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you for thinking things through so well. I'm not saying you're right and he'd regret marrying you, but I think that you should take this clear thinking and talk with him about it. Marriage is not something to take lightly and if you have any doubts now, you may want to consider pre-marital counseling to make certain you are ready and he is, too. Have you two talked about marriage already? Do you have the same goals/desires? Make sure you're both on the same path, as that is an important first step to clear out of the way.
2007-05-11 10:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by zerohabit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read this advice on another YA question, I don't remmeber the exact wording, but it really helped me...essentially it was this...
Imagine your life and future with him-yes nothing 100%, yes its scary, its the unknown! But you just go in with an open mind and grow together and love each other
Now imagine your life WITHOUT him- no question right? You want him there with you to share all the exciting things to come. Theres no one else you could imagine doing/sharing all those memories with.
I just recently got engaged to my bf of 2 yrs, and its not that im having doubts or 'cold feet' its just how do you know what will happen in the future? How do you know things wont change? etc.
Answer...you don't, but you go into your marriage with love happiness and the desire to make it last through the good times and bad and you'll be fine!!
Best of luck to you!! :-)
2007-05-11 10:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by Katie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to know is if you make it to your 50th anniversary and you still in love and getting a long then it was the real deal. Unfortunately, there are no guarantees. I have been married 19 years this june and it isnt always easy so be prepared for bums in the road and dont run for the hills when it happens. Always be honest and I am sure you'll be fine
2007-05-11 10:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You being his first has nothing to do with whether you two are right for each other. I've personally known people to marry their first love and are still happily married after many years. So, if he loves you, he loves you and that's that. There are no guarantees in life. Marriage takes work....but, as long as you two truly love each other and work at it, you should be just fine. Best of luck.
2007-05-11 12:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by sassysusie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he proposes, then he thinks you're the one for him, so that about seals the deal.
If you truly love him, and the day comes when he proposes, then I say, gladly accept and enjoy your lives together. It sounds like you have a good relationship with him.
Your heart will tell you for sure, but it sounds like this could be it.
Best of luck.
2007-05-11 12:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by Brin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not know for sure. The best you can hope for (the best any of us can hope for) is to go into marriage with a partner you love and trust and want to truly spend the entirety of your life with; someone who loves you, respects you, treats you well and enhances your life by being a part of it. If you have serious doubts, do not get married!
2007-05-11 10:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by jeri 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer that you will never doubt the person you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with. I go with the "go with your gut" thing. I have been with my bf for almost a year and there has never been a doubt in my mind as well as in my gut. I truely, 100% know that he is the one for me, and he feels the exact same way.
2007-05-11 10:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by *Droogie* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how much do you two know about each other do you two have alot in common. in the two years has it every gotten so shaky to where you either broke up or was thinking about it these are the questions yuo should ask try to make a pors and cons sheet and if the pros outweigh the cons then you know you got a winner but if the cons outweigh the pros then either you both need to work on something or you need not to be together.
2007-05-11 10:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by alwaysthinkingclearly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋