I dont have cold feet, I want to marry this woman. It's just bizarre to think about how long life is, and that i'll be with this woman for it all. I'm scared, nervous, excited, etc. Any thoughts?
2007-05-11 02:35:33 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's normal to feel all these different feelings this is the rest of your life that you are talking about. You want to marry her just seeing her acrossthe room just melts your heart, just waking up beside her makes your day much brighter, you know in your heart that she is definitely the one for you and you can't wait to be husband and wife just remeber these things and you'll be fine.
2007-05-11 09:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by tasheema22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not crazy, just honest to yourself. But look at how your relationship has grown since the first. It will continue to do so. There will be good and bad times and you love will grow and change. It won’t be boring, or grow old because people are always changing; just now you get to grow as a person with a woman that loves you. Life is long, but now you have someone to share the good times and bad times, to support you in trials, and celebrate with you in triumphs. You will have a partner and a friend through it all, and you wont have to face any hardship alone.
2007-05-11 02:42:05 · answer #2 · answered by Madi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. it's cold feet. But it's not unusual.
Sure this is a big thing. Enormous. Life changing - but it's also exciting and wonderful and good and - well, "right." I mean, it should feel so "right" you want to shout it out to the world.
No, I'm not talking about the sex and passion. That's a part of marriage - but only a part. It's that feeling of completeness - of being "whole" after years of wondering why things didn't feel "whole" and now they do.
That's why happily married couples refer to each other as their "better half."
You'll be fine.
2007-05-11 02:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understandable... But as long as she's not crazy, there are no hang ups that REALLY bother you, or anything else that would cause a big rift in the relationship, you should be fine.
If you're afraid of the not being able to sleep with another woman thing, introduce her to (I forget how to spell it) a Montague a trois (a 3-way).
2007-05-11 02:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think about your life without this person....how would you feel? Believe me I thought about the samething! Like- how unfair to be spending my life with the same person! Don't think that way think wow how lucky am I that I found a love that I CAN spend the rest of my life with. Trust me count your lucky stars that you found someone b/c some people don't even find someone. Good luck!!
2007-05-11 02:41:37 · answer #5 · answered by Worldtraveler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt think of yourself as crazy. Many people get worried about spending the rest of their lives with one person.. come on were talkin the rest of your LIFE! but you will have to lesarn to trust your instincts and go with what u feel is best. If she is a reliable, trustworthy, respectable woman then go for it but if you aernt sure maybe u should wait a bit. Dont lead her on makin her think u want to go through with something your not yet ready for.
2007-05-11 02:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by *~CANADIAN CHIC~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared. If you really love her it'll be amazing to spend your lives together. I'm scared of being with one person forever too, which is why I avoid relationships at all costs now... Plus all of my ex's are POS. Anyways don't be scared if you really have those strong feelings for her.
2017-01-20 11:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is normal and she is probably feeling a little anxious too. These days people live longer and the commitment to marriage is huge. You need to look at all the life experiences you will share...good and bad, how they will make you better people and in the end you will always have someone to share those intimate details with.
2007-05-11 02:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its common to feel this way after all you are making a life commitment. But look at it as a new adventure with the woman you love and believe me it will be an adventure.
2007-05-11 02:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, the thought of it freaks the heck out of me too.
It's 50 or 60 years with one single person. That doesn't seem right at all! You think: I'm going to get bored, they're going to start hating me, what if we end up doing the same things over and over, what if we run out of things to talk about? etc
But then, you end up thinking about what it would be like to spend the rest of your life *without* that person .. and that's dull, and horrible and unimaginably worse.
It's never about wanting to back out, it's just 'awesome', in the true sense of the word.
2007-05-11 02:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by frouste 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋