I've 28 and only ever had one person who really showed me any interest, she means everything to me - but we can't be together. She has a bad past with some abuse which I can't stop thinking about - its makes me so upset to think she has been hurt in that way. I've not met anyone else ever that I want to get close to, I thought she would be someone who I could share my first real kiss with. She is something special, and means the world to me. I can't see there being anyone else - there wasn't before so why would there be anyone else now. Whats wrong with me why doesn't anyone else even look at me
2007-05-11 01:41:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Maybe you are judging yourself and others by a very high standard. We all try to be perfect, but none of us is.
Perhaps you really love your friend and need to accept what happened to her. Stop thinking about what happened to her and start thinking about how much she has dealt with and overcome. Then do the same with yourself.
When with people, always ask about their interests and maybe you will find you have a similar interest or one you might like to cultivate.
Good luck to you!
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2007-05-11 01:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by a_phantoms_rose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a generally good person. Don't be so hard on yourself. Life can at times deal you a bad hand and there is really nothign you can do about it but wait and see what tomorrow brings. I have felt exactly like you at times and there really is no eeasy answer. Just hang in there and be patient. Time will tell and you deserve the best. If you truly mean well then things will work out for you when they are supposed to. Have you taked to her about how you feel. Her past is just that her past. We all have one and some are more haunting than others. But it is the past and the future is a mystery. Enjoy the now as it is a gift. that is why they call it the present.
2007-05-11 02:16:02 · answer #2 · answered by J G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is nice you care for someone so much, but you need to think, you dont want to waste your life waiting if she isn't interested. does she like you that way? If not, well your gonna have to try and move on, i know it will be hard, but try and be strong. As for her abuse, well thats sad to hear, i know what that is like, to be violated, i've been through that and it's hard sometimes. Cause of her past i would say tread lightly, give her some space. and as for you saying that there is no one else, well try thinking more posative, try telling yourself "you are a great person" i'm sure there are alot of girls out there that would like you, you just gotta show more confidence, let them know your there.
well i have no idea if this helps, but hope it does.
if you do find yourself feeling down, need someone to talk to, message me, likewise with anyone else who reads this, i'm always happy to listen and give some advice :)
2007-05-11 04:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find within yourself what you have to offer to the world. Know that it is not the same for everyone. Find your strengths and use them. We are like walking resumes. You seem like a nice and loving person. Sure you have something to offer--kindness, compassion, friendship?????Are there things you enjoy doing art, music, cooking, etc? Show the world what you are good at. Display confidence, if you hang your head low and have no self esteem people will not notice you. So, bring out your good qualities everyone has some.
2007-05-11 03:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by littlebit17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 02:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r what u think u r. u can't be together with her because of her past? i personally think that if we really love someone, then we have to accept everything about that person. no one is perfect. by knowing the weakness of our partner, we can work together to compensate the weakness. living together is more about tolerance. plus, always appreciate the people arounds u as u will regret when they're not by your sides anymore.
2007-05-11 02:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do u approach ppl,hows ur attitude,personality,and character? look at those things and do u really try or are u the guy who sits there waiting for sum1 to tlk to u
2007-05-11 01:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋