Its much depressing that whenever a man in India sets out to search his bride he searches for a fair skinned lady . if he cant find her with enough wealth he then compensates with a wealthy but dark girl. even after marriage too he and his relatives insults her of being dark. is it not dark skin the color of Indians especially it happens mostly in south India. why this men are forcing us towards a lot of whitening creams and driving us heartbroken. most of the men and their relatives use this colorism to prejudice a woman even though they are also of the same color.
when will these people realize dark skinned girls also have feelings and life? i'm sure we are not non living beings like a table or chair.
tell me how to change this attitude of men or husbands.
2007-05-11 01:22:07 · 18 answers · asked by ice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, we whites owned india for a long time and inculcated white standards of beauty. common in formerly colonized places.
i'm a white american and i LOVE dark indian girls. so emigrate. :) light indian girls are not much fun, not very exotic. if i want light skin, i can get an actual white woman who is whiter than any indian girl. so it's the dark indian girls that turn me on. a lot.
find a guy who isn't an idiot, i say. or emigrate. you would probably be swarmed here in the US.
also, almost no one i've met here (lived here my whole life, born here) cares about the girl's money. it can be a turn-off, in fact. a big one. it is for me. it makes me feel inferior to her, as it does for many men. what's more, dowries are totally unheard of in the US. i say leave india if this continues. why not?
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2017-01-05 08:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi viki,
I often have thought about this too. I dont understand how one skin colour is greater and highly appreciated than the other. People seem to celebrate white skin and debase dark skin. Of course this is common in india as u have mentioned. U asked how to change this attitude of men.. Well, not like we have a pre designated method for this. People have to change on their own. Men, at first place must look for the inner beauty of a girl, rather than seeing just her skin colour. It all depends on the men's own mentality. We cannot instill it in them by words of mouth. The change must come from within. They must open their eyes and see a girl as a human being with heart and feelings than just a beautiful display item. But, personally i feel, many men have changed their attitude when it comes to this. Especially those men who have liberated themselves to go for love marriage in place of arranged marriage. This colour issue is most common in arranged marriages because in arranged marriages they have choices to make. It is always another girl if not this girl. They can keep on looking until they want what they are looking for. But, in love marriages, men fall in love with women for many other reasons. Hence, the colour factor of the women is ruled out. Well, we know that if a man would only love a fair skinned woman, then it is not love at first place. Times will change, and people too along with it. There sure are men who would see a woman as her true self. We just have to give ourselves that time. Dont worry. Things are bound to change in every one's life.
Wish u good life.
2007-05-11 03:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by Manu 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Look, i am an indian girl myself and i know how people judge you based on your skin colour..the bad news is that you cant do anything to show them dark skinned girls dont like being treated as insignificant creatures..you know what caused this? I think its the mentality indian guys get after watching too many indian movies where the actress without fail will be this really fair-skinned lady..lifes unfair that way..but there are guys who like girls who ooze in self confidence..no matter how dark you are, be confident about the way you look and let your colourful personality shine through.guys who only look for girls based on their skin colour are so immature because they will regret it later on.trust me on this one.most of them do.
2007-05-11 01:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by rad_trend 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Every man's opinion is different. Its just the way we are and are programmed to work. I myself am a white male who likes dark women with dark features (Dark hair, Dark eyes, etc). As for changing the attitude of the men or husbands. I wouldnt suggest it myself, just find someone who does like dark skinned women. Goodluck!
2007-05-11 01:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by Peter H 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well story starts from a south Indian city. I am a Punjabi Guy and I was there in Banglore for some time and later I went to Mysore for some IT related work. There was a girl in my office she was intelligent, sharp features but light skin .She used to be always silent. Not much talk. I still remember her smile. Later I moved to NYC. One day I was in Brooklyn bound R train. I saw this girl again and she looked at me. We did not talk but Later I found out that she was taking classes in the same School where I was . She was still same simple, sharp feature girl. One day i approached to her and start talking to her. Later we became friends. My so called INDIAN room mates, they used to make fun of me that I am going out with a light skin girl. But I never let her know this stuff . One day one of my F***** friend said something in front of her. Then she told me her story of moving to US from INDIA. I was so shocked. She said all her relatives and all neighbours used to say that it will be difficult to find guy for her and blah blah...( BTW by this time we started dating each other). We are happy now but still some INDIAN ppl ask me this punching question. " How come a Punjabi guy end up with a Light Skin girl". After 23 years of torture. She hates INDIAN ppl. And why not she has all reasons to do that. Men in India they are incapable to find a girl for themself. They go for arrange marriages where they can pick up a girl like fruits from the basket and we call it arrange marriage. It is arranged for a incapable guy and force on girl. Later we say arrange marriage are successful. You know why bcoz of women not of guys.
Now she is a different girl .More confident, bful...LOL
It has been 5 years she went to INDIA. She does not want to go back to the place where majority(Note:I am not saying all) of ppl are treated her like ****.
2007-05-13 07:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Think this is shallow and if anyone truly loves you or thinks you are beautiful they will not judge anyone based on their skin color, No one should go into a marriage if they do not really like the way the person looks- hold out for someone who will cherish you.
2007-05-11 01:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by HazeLL 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a south Indian and I know exactly what you mean. The thing is, all cultures seem to yearn for what is considered "uncommon beauty". In America, so many people go to tanning beds and burn their bodies in unhealthy manners to achieve what they believe is beautiful. In India, fairness creams and pills prevail. So people seem to like what is difficult to attain. I think it is stupid but I doubt the world will change. Beauty comes in all forms. Society today unfortunately only caters to a broad cultural standard of beauty.
2007-05-11 13:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by chococherries 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
That is just their culture. They think dark skinned people, as a whole, are beneath them.
2007-05-11 01:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋