How to get my 2year old and 4year old to mind and stop getting into everything?

Question

My kids get in the kitchen and play in the kitchen sink with the water sprayer,they climb on my counters using a chair while im still sleeping they get into anything and everything possiable, mind you I have child proofed my apartment with locks and gates but it dosent keep them out. Everyday I half to clean up a big mess with water or something else, they both yell and scream at me and my 4 year old tells me to get away from him .They demand everything,they fight with me as well as each other, at nap and bed time (hours go by) and they refuse. Sometimes I feel like just leaving.Im 9 months pregnat with my third child and things arent getting better.everyday is a struggle for me I cry.Ive tried millions of things but nothing seems to work.(HELP)

Answer 1

Right now you need to worry about your health. your about to give birth and your getting very stressed out. thats not good for the baby at all. I really think you need to ask for help. ask a close friend or relitive. Does your hubbie help? If your children are anything like mine, they have good days and horrible days. My 2 youngest are 2 and 4 also. My 4 year old is sweet as sugar one min but the next, shes out of controll. I have found that taking away toys and privlages work the best for her. Time outs dont really work that great with her. Its a horrible struggle when I try and make her sit for 4 min. Time outs do however work for my 2 year old. try taking them outside get them tired out by going to the park or something.
when the baby comes, get them involved in helping you take care of it. do you work outside the home too? thats even more stressful. Right now my dear, the best thing you can do is ask for help. If theres no one to help, you may want to consider having your children go to daycare, mabey for one or two days out of the week. your no good to them if you make yourself stressed out or sick.
good luck and dont let it overstress you.

Answer 2

Why aren't you with them? Children that age need to be supervised. They wouldn't make messes if you were with them watching them. I don't understand how you can't hear this going on.

Secondly, they definitely need some consequences. Time outs or taking a way a toy for the day, etc. Watch that show SuperNanny. She makes posterboard with rules on them and once the kids know the consequence from breaking each rule, it helps. You have to be consistent.

It sounds like you need more help around the house, too. Does your husband help with the discipline at all?

If you don't nip this in the bud now, imagine the terrors they will be when they are older!

Answer 3

1. Get your tubes tied as soon as you deliver. BIRTH CONTROL IS REQUIRED HERE.

2.YOU and your HUSBAND are their roll models.

3. WHAT MOTHER OF A 2 AND 4 YEAR OLD IS SLEEPING WHEN THEY ARE UP? You MUST get up with them, get them some breakfast at the table. Then establish a written routine, you will really need it with 3 children. Make a 7 day chart of times for everything and that must include nap time, play time, meal times, snack times and a uniform bedtime. Habit will make it easy...It is YOUR job to supervise the children. THEY ARE YOURS REMEMBER. Trust me when I say, with structure and routine, you will cry less.

4. Firm rules and guidelines.

5. Children are not born knowing right from wrong. IT IS YOUR JOB TO TEACH THEM THAT, FOR THE NEXT 21 YEARS.

6.Find some parenting classes at the school or library and take them. We all need help with our children and it sounds like you need a lot.

7. Children cannot be allowed to run free or they will be uncontrollable teens and obnoxious adults. FIX IT, IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.

8.DEVELOP GUIDELINES, STRUCTURE AND CONSEQUENCES NOW. OR YOU WILL BE SO SORRY.
For my son (an adult now) who was quietly sneaky, I took away favorite toys and put them up in the attic until he improved his behavior. If your sons behavior is not corrected the 2 year old will be exactly the same and then the new baby will be equally obnoxious. FIX IT NOW. ASK FOR HELP.

9. Parenting is tough. Good Luck .. This is the job you took on, jump in and be a great parent.

Answer 4

You can never fully child proof your house!!!!

I have a three year old nephew that I have all the time and he is the world's worst about getting into things. Very rarely do I even let him out of my sight. I keep him in the same room with me because I don't want to clean up like you are having to. His mom sleeps while he is up. One time he got a knife and cut himself and had to go to the hospital. Please get up when your kids are up. Even if you sit down in the Livingroom with them and watch tv with them. You know what they are doing this way.

You need consistent disipline. You need to stick with what you tell them. If you say don't play in the kitchen sink then they aren't to play in it. Try taking their favorite toy away...movie...take them to bed...time make them sit in a designated chair that is the time-out chair. There are millions of ways to punish. Something is bound to work. They don't get any desert that night. No snacks after dinner. Don't ever punish by taking their meals away though.

Have a chart if they are caught doing good (even the littlest thing, like listening to you the first time you say something) then give them a sticker to put on their chart. At the end of the week if they have any stickers then they get to go shopping and pick out one toy or they get to go to the park for 10 minutes for every sticker. They get one quarter for every sticker. Be creative. Have fun. Right now you are teaching them the way that you want them to act for the rest of their lives. If you don't get a firm hand on them now then you've lost it forever. Good luck.

Answer 5

Let her. I did the same think when I was young. (Now, if skipping meals gets to be more of an issue, get help.) Thumb sucking is very comforting and an addiction that is very hard to give up (same as with alcohol or smoking.) I never got crooked teeth, I never did it in front of people.....I just did it in the privacy of my home. When she is ready, she will stop. I stopped late in high school and I turned out just fine. Let the habit be unless it starts leading to other issues. There are worse things in life than thumb sucking. (One of the things that made me quit was when I had my wisdom teeth pulled.)

Answer 6

Get your lazy butt out of bed and tend to your children. If you don't want to parent your children then put them up for adption before they get themselves into something that can harm them and wind up in foster care.

Answer 7

you can buy a little mat and then when ever they mess up something you said not to sit them on the mat and if they want something to eat or anything else say NO