I'm a bit down and fed up today. I feel i can't be with my boyfriends of almost 3years anymore as he has taken all the energy out of me with all the arguing. But i don't have the strength to leave him as i'm scared of being on my own :0(
2007-05-10 23:19:03 · 30 answers · asked by x Jay Jay x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Be yourself for yourself. If he loves you like that, fantastic. If he doesn't, move on. Gloria Gaynor needs a play.
2007-05-10 23:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do have the stregnth to leave him. I was with my ex for 4 years and i really wanted to get out after 2 but i had no friends and felt the same. One day it just came to me that if i dont do anything it will be like this forever and i would never be happy. I moved back home with my parents and at first it was hard but i also felt a sense of relief. the more time that past the easyier it got. I was finaly ready to meet someone new, i joined a dating agency which at the time i thought was a little sad but three months ago i met this wonderful person on there and we are both still together.The only thing i would change if i could, is that i wish i had the courage to leave the ex at lot sooner
2007-05-10 23:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by mudfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so a homeless man goes into a bar and order a drink of Scotch and the bartender says not till you can prove you can pay so the homeless man produces a paper bag from his jacket and pull es out a frog and a rat and says i can get this rat to tell this frog to jump and he says go and the rat opens his mouth and out comes jump you crazy frog and the frog jumps well a well to do gentleman sitting in back says I give you $100 for that talking Rat and the Homeless guy says I want dinner too make it $150 so the man pays him and grabs the rat and hurries out the door just then the bar tender says mister you just gave a way a fortune and the homeless gut don't be to sure that frog is a Ventriloquist
2007-05-11 06:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Zippy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a man to complete you're life. Better off with a bar of chocolate.
On a more serious note. Are you happy? Honestly?100%?
I used to be scared of being on my own now I have little patience for men invading my space and making demands on my time. I have actually come to the conclusion that I am happier without a man. I can go where I want, do what I want, when I want. It's actually quite liberating. I'm not saying that I'll never get into a relationship ever again but you don't have to be a slave to relationships. I know a lot of women who can't ever be without a man and I understand the fear but I assure it goes away very quickly and allows you to be more picky about who you get involved with rather than going out with someone just to be in a relationship.
Good Luck
2007-05-10 23:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by gill79 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was like this in a previous realationship, my partner would never talk and listen like an adult just shout all the time - Leave him being on your own isn't that bad - you can catch up with all your old friends, family ppl you havn't seen for a while - you may even find someone new who deserves you straight away!!! Find an activitie to do like yoga, gym, dance lessons plus you'll be keeping fit and it will make you feel really good about yourself, dog walking helped me and horse riding! Be strong, keep your head held high and move on , the longer you leave it the harder it will get - trust me! Hope this has helped - have fun!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-11 00:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by Ebab831 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jay-jay, It's all good. Just take it easy.
But I can tell you few things that I have enjoyed this week.
At school there was this boy named Sam. He was hilarious.
Teacher: "Sam, what is the outside of a tree called?"
Sam: "I dont know."
Teacher: "Bark, Sam, bark."
Sam: "Bow, wow, wow!"
And Paddy, another schoolmate, got me off my feet.
Teacher: If I give you two rabbits and two rabbits and another two rabbits, how many rabbits have you got?
Paddy: Seven!
Teacher: No, listen carefully again. If I give you two rabbits and two rabbits and another two rabbits, how many rabbits have you got?
Paddy: Seven!
Teacher: Let's try this another way. If I give you two apples and two apples and another two apples, how many apples have you got?
Paddy: Six.
Teacher: Good. Now if I give you two rabbits and two rabbits and another two rabbits, how many rabbits have you got?
Paddy: Seven!
Teacher: How on earth do you work out that three lots of two rabbits is seven?
Paddy: I've already got one rabbit at home now!
And Johnny, my best friend, made me crack up.
Teacher: Johnny, you know you can't sleep in my class.
Johnny: I know. But maybe if you were just a little quieter, I could.
Sometimes our teachers can be really silly, you know.
"If there are any idiots in the room, will they please stand up" said the sarcastic teacher. After a long silence, one freshman rose to his feet.
"Now then mister, why do you consider yourself an idiot?" enquired the teacher with a sneer.
"Well, actually I don't," said the student, "but I hate to see you standing up there all by yourself."
And one day last week Joseph was late for school:
Teacher: Why are you late, Joseph?
Joseph: Because of a sign down the road.
Teacher: What does a sign have to do with your being late?
Joseph: The sign said, "School Ahead, Go Slow!"
A guy came into a bar one day and said to the barman "Give me six double vodkas."
The barman says "Wow! you must have had one hell of a day."
"Yes, I've just found out my older brother is gay."
The next day the same guy came into the bar and placed the same order for drinks.
When the bartender asked what the problem was today the answer came back, "I've just found out that my younger brother is gay too!"
On the third day the guy came into the bar and ordered another six double vodkas.
The bartender said "Darn! Doesn't anybody in your family like women?"
"Yeah, my wife..."
I hope this cheer you up
2007-05-10 23:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Apparently the answer isn't asking anybody on the Internet, looking at all this...
So you have the catch-22 love life blooz
you can't deal with suitors and especially booze
no encouragement on the 10 o'clock news
(I can't butcher poetry 24/7)
Of course you can move on!
2007-05-10 23:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by _ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be down as energy takers are just that - the skill is in preserving yours. All they do is knowingly take, take,take.
Take steps to protect yourself by taking the drivers seat (if you're to remain in this relationship that is) -by taking control of what,where & who you'd like to be going out with on social events & by never ever letting these types talk over you when you're speaking.
If they begin to argue, close them down by your strong refusal to "waste my energy on you" by exuding this confidence it will actually become a part of you in the end & then everyone who interacts with you will know the score! This is the way to go trust me. Wish you success (a word alot of energy takers in life hate in others) & maybe drop me a line to let me know of your new outlook etc - Go for it!
2007-05-10 23:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by clubkid_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do it girl. I am in same situation I have been with mine for 2 years and he did not come home til 5 in the morning this morning. I amready to leave and it just gives you butterflies in your stomach doesn't it? You just have to make the diecision firm in your head and make a plan, tell some of your close friends your plan that way it kind of gives you no way out. Just do it, believe me I am following my own advice.
2007-05-10 23:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheer you up?
Why did the hedgehog cross the road?
To see his flatmate!
Its so sad but so funny. As for your dilemna.....just be brave and break up with him if you really dont love him anymore....its better for the both of you. Dont be scared of being alone...call up all your friends and just have a girly night in straight after to release all your negative feelings:)
2007-05-11 14:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by Bepa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw hon......I went through a similar thing a couple years ago but felt that I didn't want to be with him anymore....I finally did and shortly after I met my fella and we are now madly inlove, happy and getting married.
Don't be scared to be on your own, it is really worse than how you are feeling now ?? I know its hard but you need to do what is best for you and your sanity. Be strong and you will be happy again.
Best wishes
2007-05-10 23:28:36 · answer #11 · answered by cavviecath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋