My husband used to subcribe to a porno website and he received the daily emails of naked women in his inbox. Occasionally, when he's free, he'll download and save it in a disc, but, he's very open and let me see the pics and tell me I can view them if I like. He just save it for a collection purpose. Is this normal or has he become a sex weirdo? Or whether, what he said is true, just for collection purposes? The only thing that I felt uneasy about this is because I'm currently pregnant and am not sure when my husband viewed those photos, is there any meaning behind it? Any advise or that's normal for every man to view naked pics sometimes?
2007-05-10 22:13:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Aside from masturbation purposes (since you are pregnant) I don't see anything wrong with it girl, at least he's not going around cheating ^-^
2007-05-10 22:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by Alisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that it alright for a husband to look a pic like this occasionally. However when his wife is pregnant all the rules change. It's becomes insensitive. He can take a break from the pics for as long as it takes for you to be OK with it again. If this is something he will not do or can not understand then I'd be concerned. The up side is, rather he stops now or not, after the baby comes he will either be too busy or too tired to be looking at other naked women.
2007-05-10 22:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by babycattos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it "normal" for a married man to look at other naked women? Well what if the women he's looking at are standing in your bedroom in front of him, instead of just a picture. How "Normal" would you consider that?
No, your husband should NOT be looking at any other woman naked but you. He married you--in pregnancy, for better or worse, in sickness or in health. Don't buy into that "I'm not available for sex, or I'm not pretty right now and he NEEDS to have sex". Phooey! He made you pregnant, he can wait for more sex later if you're not able right now, just like you would wait for him if he were in hospital or sick.
2007-05-11 01:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men like to look. Some men like to be occupied while they look. Some men like to be watched while they look!
The important thing here is not whether or not WE think this is normal. The only important thing here is: Does it bother you that he looks at these pics? If you say: "No, it doesn't bother me. He can look if he likes. He can amuse himself while he looks. It's okay with me. It's just fantasy, and nobody gets hurt ... bruised maybe, but not seriously hurt" then it's okay. If, on the other hand, it makes you feel bad, or feel inadequate, or you think it's wrong or immoral for people to look at porn, then ask him to stop. A husband should respect his wife.
However, as a husband, let me just explain something to the wives out there: if your husband can't look at you, don't tell him he can't look at anyone else. If you don't have the time or inclination to talk to him, don't tell him he can't talk to someone else. If he can't touch you, don't tell him he can't touch anyone else. A wedding ring on the finger doesn't stop a man from being human. Please try to be understanding.
2007-05-10 22:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by crispy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him convince you that you are jealous and insecure. You are not doing anything wrong, you have the right to confront him about photos of naked women. If I were you I would confront the girl you both know who had the gull to send him a nude photo of herself knowing full well that he is married to you. Since he locks you out of his PC, phone, FB, it's clear...he is hiding his secret other life from you. Quit having any more kids and start concentrating and getting yourself a degree and spend all his money on yourself and kids. Your marriage, for sure, will not last and you need something to fall back on, unless you are willing to share him.
2016-05-20 03:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun im in the same boat as you! i have an 8.5 month old and i am 6 months pregnant and my hubby is only aloud to look at porn when im pregnant lol. its just easier for the both of us . im not in the mood or just too tired to do anything about 99% of the time and so im ok with him taking care of it himself , my hubby also save his favs and thats fine with me. however when i am in the mood i see no reason for it and he doesnt. i was one of the people that use to say porn is a form of cheating but right now its ok with me as long as hes not cheating or talking to other woman. so good luck and if you are one of those girls whos sex drive is way up during pregnancy then pull his *** off the computer and into bed. im sure he would rather have you than his right hand , comgrats on the baby
2007-05-10 22:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by MADDYSMOMMY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watching pretty pics can make one live longer. If you don't think that's a good practice, try to talk to him.
If you don't, try to turn a blind eye, download naked men in your pc...haha
It's not fair to ask your husband to be restrained because you are pregnant, that's not fair. And it's very pathetic too.
If he is a normal person, he should have the same needs as other people.
Try him in a humane way.
2007-05-10 22:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by Denim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is starting to bother you and your finding it disrespectful, you should tell your husband how you are felling. If he cares for you and wants you to be happy, he will put his collection away because keeping makes you unhappy. If he cares more for his collection than your feelings, you will know your in the same boat as many other women whose husbands place them second to their visual stimulation and what makes them happy.
2007-05-10 22:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all men are like this. They don't do it to hurt anyone and as long as it isn't affecting your sex life then I would say it's ok...maybe you can ask him to be very discreet about it during your pregnancy. Men don't understand how insecure about our body image we can get during pregnancy.Pregnancy is very emotional time too so what may not have bothered you before will turn your emotions insideout now.
My husband does this too, I don't like it as I lost my breasts to bad implants adn I am very selfconcious now. He is smart enough to not do it in front of me anymore...I know it is there I just don't want to see it or him looking at it.
2007-05-10 22:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is fine if you think it is fine. Otherwise tell him to be more discreet. Would he like you doing the same? Try it sometime. Find pictures of guys that are much more attractive than he is and place it on your computers wall paper.
2007-05-10 22:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by EATTHEAPPLE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋