Im getting married in less than a month and I'm starting to get annoyed by everything my man does..i push him away alot were not as "intimite" as we used to be and i enjoy the time apart. Is there something wrong with the way i feel? Should i call off my wedding? i am i making a big mistake?
2007-05-10 21:11:04 · 19 answers · asked by Angela F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is a good thing. It also takes alot of attention and work. Don't be discouraged. Try and discuss this with your man and tell him your worries and fears. You need to be able to communicate with him or it wont work. You both should also be able to tell each other anything without the fear of what has been talked about being shared with anyone else. Best wishes.
2007-05-10 21:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by baldy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are feeling is stress from all the planning a wedding takes and you feel unappreciated. I wouldn't call off the wedding if it's been planned for a while and almost everything is taken care of, but if it's in the early stages, ELOPE....
Sometimes in planning a wedding, one tends to focus so much on the wedding and it having to be perfect that you forget the big picture and why you are getting married in the first place.
Take a day off on the planning of the wedding, go do something together like a picnic by the lake, go to the places that you first started to fall in love with each other.
Marriage is hard work, it's not all romance and roses (20 years experience). If you aren't up to putting any effort into it, then you shouldn't be getting married.
2007-05-11 02:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by AprilK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before your wedding you should go for counselling. The person that is doing the ceremony will do this. He basically asesses if youre ready to wed or not. This should help you make the right move. Marriage is a beautiful thing. It is all I expected it to be and more and it truly is different to dating. At first I was a bit afraid too because we only knew each other online... but I realised that I made the best decision I could imagine by marrying him. Don't let little insecurities make you call off a BIG event.
2007-05-10 21:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you feel this way, if you have realised that you don't actually love him then yes you should call the wedding off but if you do love him then this is probably just nerves.
Getting married is a big step. I have been married for 10 years and although we love each other dearly we still enjoy our own space too. As for being intimate, well that wears off too, just because you're not as intimate as you used to be doesn't mean anything is wrong, as long as you enjoy it when you are.
As for getting annoyed, I don't know anyone who doesn't get annoyed with thier partner whether they are married or not.
I hope you have a lovely wedding and happy life together.
2007-05-10 21:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by mi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah Angela, call it off! Divorce is horrible and you are headed there if you go through with this. If you are annoyed by him now, you will be crazy in a very short time. The annoyances only get worse, not better. There is nothing wrong with the way you feel. You aren't in love with him, so let him go. Maybe later on you will find someone who really rocks your world and you and he will not annoy each other and the relationship will grow and get more exciting all the time. That will be the time to get married, but not now, I think you know that. Now, go do the right thing, OK? Spare both of you the torture and nightmare of breaking up via divorce, it is HORRIBLE!
2007-05-10 21:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by Alvin York 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always told to follow my heart at least til my gut told me otherwise and hun i think your gut is telling you something.
I mean most "newlyweds" cant keep their hands off each other and if you are at a point now that your barely intimate then your headed down a road that you dont want to before marriage.
I mean putting a ring on the hand is going to ease the stress of planning a wedding but it is not gonna make him less annoying as a person.
2007-05-10 21:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by pandabr74 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's an amazing journey but one must learn to use every tool at their disposal to keep it from faltering...even in a marriage where love is strong, outside forces can "test" it's validity...goals must be similar, and respect must stay in front at all times...this doesn't mean you have to be each other's clone or even believe the same faith...it can work if caring remains mutual and the marriage never starts to make one or both feel shackled...
2016-05-20 03:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or hon, if you're annoyed now, just want until you're married.
Unless you can chalk this up to pre wedding stress, then I'd postpone this if I were you. If you're planning something elaborate, and things are just a hassle, then you probably have reason to be annoyed. However, if things are going smoothly, and you're suddenly just annoyed by him in general, like his BREATHING aggravates you..call it off.
Please make sure you talk with him, don't just dump him. It sounds like you're not ready.
2007-05-10 23:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with marriage; it has to do with the relationship that the two people create.
Is there sufficient sense of compromise? Is there sufficient communication? Is there enough sympathy and forgiveness?
These are important factors, and lacking any one of them could spell disaster for a relationship.
Get to know one another better before committing.
2007-05-11 00:45:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out why you're "annoyed". After you're married it can only get worse, so maybe you two need to have an honest discussion and find out if you're getting married for the right reasons.
2007-05-10 21:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋