my wife is bi and has talked about bringing another woman into our room. she is afraid i am going to leave her for the other woman if she lets this happen. how do i convince her that she is #1 and always will be. and how can i make this happen so that we can share a woman together. I know she will enjoy it.
2007-05-10 18:57:56 · 24 answers · asked by familyman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Consult Jack and Jim.
2007-05-10 19:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by kcman011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck, if you're 'successful' in this...she might very well enjoy it...she might enjoy it so much that you'll be the one who is left for the other woman.
Typically and by all statistics, unless you're prepared for your relationship to seriously change and have a possible breakup, it's not a good idea to bring in another person to a monogamous relationship. Once it becomes OK with another woman...why not another man...or two women or two men...etc. Pretty soon it's all about that and the intimacy you had before between the two of you is gone.
2007-05-10 19:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by VodkaTonic 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not my wife's kind of thing, but I have been told by others that the best way is to talk about your fantasy of having another woman with her. Make sure that she knows that you want to see HER with someone, not that you want to be with another woman. If it is really for her, tell her you won't touch the other woman either.
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2007-05-10 19:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by Neal Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds too insecure to explore things on this level. I think you're playing with fire if you talk her into it and she's not totally secure in your relationship. You don't know if she'll enjoy it. You don't know if her concerns are correct. If you claim to know the future, I'd like tomorrows lottery numbers....This is totally new territory and she is right in being cautious. Go find stories of other people that have done this, both positive and negative and talk about all of the issues involved. If she's still not convinced, you need to drop this fantasy and enjoy sex alone with her.
2007-05-10 19:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if your wife was #1, you wouldn't ask such a thing from her. Marriage is sacred and you both made vows to each other. These promices are not to be taken lightly. When you make a promice to someone to remain faithful to them, then they are trusting you to follow through. If you continue to allow your lust for other women to come between you and your wife then you have no marriage to speak of. Mabe you both need to look at the consequences of what you are thinking of doing before you make a huge mistake and lose each other. Remember there is no taking it back once it's done.
2007-05-10 19:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by abraham71250 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is she the one for you really? Ask yourself that first and really think about it. I mean I had threesomes in the past and I think that if you are truly committed to someone and I mean truly committed it is not an option to include someone else in your relationship and it is not the best time to do this anymore anyways....Can you say AIDS? Sorry but if I were you I would get over the threesome idea and concentrate in having a good old fashion monogamous relationship. My opinion though Good luck in your choice!!!!
2007-05-10 19:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by spunkygirl77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it unless one night with some other woman is worth ruining your relationship with your wife. Threesomes are only good in short term superficial relationships... she is already telling you that she is too insecure to handle another woman, take the hint.
2007-05-10 19:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by katiebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should choose the girl she likes. You tell her that girl wouldn't be your choice (not your type), but that you are ready to play along for her pleasure. Keep your priorities straight, make sure your wife feels in full control and enjoy your dream. Threesomes could be hard to get, but they can be really satisfying.
2007-05-10 19:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife really is your #1 and you truely love her, I say she should be your onely 1, but if you really want this little fantasy to become a reality....
There isn't any sure way your wife will do it, and dont drug her! that would just cause more problems. It's up to her if she want to or not, so to help with her disission you should try to show her how much she means to you.
2007-05-10 19:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by Seresuto Kawaii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't think that having a threesome would be a great idea...I have a friend who, at the request of her b/f had a threesome, turns out he left her for the other chic..His claim was that she was better in bed...Said he still loved her, but this other chic"met his needs" ...
I am not telling you not to or to go ahead...This is just food for thought
2007-05-10 19:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy Dearest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude you are going to end up in a divorce. This is a gr8 fantasy but when its real 99% of the time its gonna cause problems. If you gotta do it. Go to a gay bar and get the drink flowing and see if it goes anywhere.
2007-05-10 19:01:27 · answer #11 · answered by Rudy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋