my wife is seeing someone else and i can't kick her out?

Question

we have 2 boys and want to work it out due to the love 4 her. but she wont stop seeing him

also been married 4 9years

Answer 1

not much you can do... I'm so sorry that she is not only a horrible wife but more importantly a horrible mother. She is being selfish, a good mother would focus on what's best for her kids..not her selfish romantic needs.
Focus on your kids, let them know that they are the most important thing to you, and I would have that conversation with your wife, she may just need a wake up call...she is destroying lives here.

Answer 2

You need to get rid of her b/c say you do work things out and then down the road she will use it as black-male to control you.. She willllll say stuff "like if we don't start getting things done around her, or I don't have the money to pay for this or that will you pay it an she make you feel if you don't she will get someone else to do it for her. OOOORRRRRR you can do the same to her she is doing to you.......that will give her her own medicine, she knows she has you at the moment do let her know she doesn't.

Help her respect you.

What it comes down to is women need your attention. They need to feel protected, appreciated,loved, and desired. They need to feel that you have there best interest in mind. They need to feel safe to be soft and girly. They need a man. They need a a trust worthy man that commands respect. Other wise you get a woman who turn into your nagging mommy. So grow up little boy and be a man. If you can pull this off your “nagging mommy” will turn into a woman who adores you , respects you, and worships the ground you walk on.

Answer 3

Sorry Charlie, but it takes 2 to tango and 2 to make a marriage. You can do everything right, but if she doesn't love you enough to be faithful, you can't make her. Better you give it up and get a good wife than live in hell with this one. I can tell you from experience putting up with a cheating wife is one sure way to raise very messed up kids. You're kids will come to understand one day. Staying together for the kids is not necessarily a good thing.

Answer 4

My question to you is how do you feel about this? What are you teaching your children? That it's ok to have people walk over you and cheat on you. I understand you love your wife and want to work it out but if she won't stop seeing him then..... Besides what if he is seeing other women she comes home to you and you guys end up in bed together having sex and she has brought home a nasty because the other guy is seeing other women. I would if you really really want to give her one more chance but then if she still sees him you need to stand up for yourself and your family and show her you mean business and you have more respect for yourself than what you are showing. My first husband cheated on me numerous times I kept giving him chances finally I left because I realized I did not have to put up with that. I had 2 very small children and did not want them to grow up in a house where there was no respect or love. I am sure that my ex "loved" me in his own way but he loved having sex with someone else. It is no way to live.

Answer 5

You may want to hold on for many reasons, but, it may be for the best to end it. Staying is cheating you out of what you deserve most, someone who loves you. You wont get that where you are now. Better luck next time you fall in love...

Answer 6

It takes 2 to tango. You can still go on loving her even if you're not together, if you still want to. Let the mother go! The children will grow. The children will be better off in a harmonious environment. Will it be good for the children to see their mother seeing another man?

Answer 7

Sounds like you want to work it out, but she doesn't. You really need to think about the example this is going to set for your boys. Would you want them to accept their wives doing this to them? Not likely. Why are you still hanging on when she has let go, and is proving she doesn't want to come back? You are wasting your time and giving her a permission slip to continue. She will only take you seriously when you have her leave. I know its going to be rough on the kids, but she is leaving you no other option.

Answer 8

If you want to make it work then she has to want that too. And sadly you cant make her want what you want.
I would find a common ground to sit down and discuss it. She has to want that as much as you and maybe you can find the point from which she felt the affair was justified in her eyes.
Possibly suggest couples counseling and go from there.
You do have to think ahead to the thought possibly she isnt going to end the affair and you need to think of you and your boys.

Answer 9

Man I'd honestly find the balls to ditch her, ESPECIALLY if you know she's not going to stop seeing the other man. Then hit her where it REALLY hurts -- fight for custody of your children on grounds of infidelity, that way she's paying YOU child support. You know what they say about payback...
I feel for ya, dude, I really do. If my wife cheated on me, she'd be out quicker than she could put her panties back on.
One thing: don't stay in the relationship 'for the kids' sake.' That is NEVER the right answer...

Answer 10

Women usually cheat because they need something emotional that's missing. Not always, but usually. Find out what she needs and take an honest look at yourself and see if you can give it too her. If not, send her to the curb. Get your stuff with her worked out one way or the other.