Watched porn occasionally by herself also owned a vibrator?My hubby has a problem with this? Nothing personal to him sometimes i just prefer to take matters into my own hands and like to have an orgasim guarenteed
2007-05-10 18:52:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way my hubby is way uptight with anything sextual.
2007-05-10 18:56:38 · update #1
I wouldn't have any issues with it so long as I wasn't being replaced by it.........which this kind of sounds like. Maybe, instead of relying on the vibrator and a porno, you could include your husband and get him to do the things you want done that really send you to the moon. Maybe get him to control the vibrator, or do some of the things they're doing in the porno........whatever. Just try to find a way to include your spouse. He's only going to know what you want if you show him or tell him. If you don't, then you're probably just replacing him.......which is probably why your husband has an issue with it.
2007-05-10 19:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an entire toy box and my husband is pleased as punch. We use the toys together sometimes. Start delving into why he's so uptight about sex, get him talking. He might have some history there that needs to be cracked open before you can enjoy a healthy sex life together. Good luck :)
2007-05-11 02:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could get my wife to self explore more. But back to your question. It sound like there is a deeper issue... not being satisfied and the root of his lack of sexual appetite. As for your needs communicate with him. When you are having sex, when he does something you like, let him know "oh, I like that" " keep doing that" this way he'll know. Nothing turns a man off more then telling him "I don't like that". If he does something you don't like let him know by redirecting him to somethin your did like " I loved it when you did X".
2007-05-11 02:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by GARY M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby should be thrilled that you are doing this. Self-pleasuring is scientifically proven to improve your love life with your partner. And the more orgasms you have alone or with him, the easier/more frequently you will have them with your partner.
Cheers to you! Enjoy [and do try one of the new glass toys--yummy!]
2007-05-11 02:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by LisaFlorida 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had the option to watch it would be a TOTAL turn on. But my wife doesn't masturbate and is pretty uptight too so I can understand your frustration.
2007-05-11 11:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get the book "passion parties guide to great sex." it is a good read, it wrtien in a way both partners can read, and most importantly there is info in there to help intraduce toys into the bedroom.
the other nice thing is all of the profits of the book go back to cherity.
2007-05-11 02:07:36 · answer #6 · answered by alisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No issues regarding either porn or the vibrator. These actually enhance things
2007-05-14 22:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let him know you are watching and using your dildo...its an insult to his manhood....and besides....why use an artificial one when you have the real thing...i know a dildo does not get limp, and does not get tired....thats the reason why your husband have an issue with it...he cant compete with that
2007-05-11 02:16:46 · answer #8 · answered by not_ez_2bme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only issue i would have is if she did not let me particapate or least watch.
2007-05-11 02:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by windwalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to join in the fun now and then. you can pleasure yourselves together.
2007-05-11 01:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by j_mang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋