I have been dating this guy 4 a few weeks & I thought everything was going fine, it‘s safe to say all the dates have been perfect. The 1st day we started talking he has this cousin (a boy) who he does everything 4 even at the expense of himself. The cousin is younger (17) & the guy I’m dating is 28. He is the driver, food getter, the errand runner, u name it he does it. He even cut a date short with me because the cousin was in need. He says that him & his cousin r working on a few jobs together which takes up a lot of his time & these jobs are keeping his cousin from a life of crime, that's why he does it. I feel due to the fact he just got out of a 4 year relationship 6 months ago he turned to his cousin to fill that void. My question if for four days now he has touched based with me at work through IM telling me he would call me later on that night and he has not yet. When he IM's me the next day, it was something with his cousin. So my question is what would you make of that?
2007-05-10 17:11:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Either have patience and let him get through whatever he needs to with his cousin, or move on...
2007-05-10 17:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by sylverfae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems kind of wierd that he forgets about you till the next day, cutting dates short, and all that stuff. I can understand helping your family out, but that is way to much. You are right that he does everything for his cousin evenat the expense of him self. I suggest that you tell the guy you would like to meet this cousin of his. That you hear so much about him you would like to meet him. And if he doesn't want to introduce the two of you to eachother than I would just let the guy go. That in its self is a red flag. I hope this helps you!
2007-05-11 00:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by noramom4life101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to admit you have feelings for a guy who commits to others. If you are in it for the long haul I'll bet your bottom dollar he will maintain this behaviour and put you second all the time. When he calls next tell him your'e with your cousin organising a date cos he/she doesnt know what to do. Dont call him back (youll break your own heart) protect yourself you deserve better than second best. Or have him introduce his cousin I bet its his Ex Gfrend and she may even be HOT!!
2007-05-11 00:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that you are impateient that you are heads over heels on him.
If he is taking care of the cousin to make sure he does not get into trouble again shows that he is a responsible man and for him to do all those errants shows that he is not lazy either.
What you would need to do is try to understand him and fit into his schedule and life. If his life is to take care of his cousin, then if you love him you should be part of it as well.. And in that sense you will not have to wait for him to touced base with you or call you...
take care.
2007-05-11 00:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks that this is going to keep his cousin out of a life of crime - he will be doing it forever.
People only change their lives when they want to and the effort they put in to achieve their goals is the most important part.
He isn't doing his cousin any favours.
If I were you I would ignore him and be on the look out for someone new.
2007-05-11 00:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe i would go on with my life and leave him alone to his.
Sounds like it would bring you nothing but grief anyway.
If he just got out of a four year relationship a little time ago, he probally isn't quite ready yet anyway.
2007-05-11 00:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cousin is not a cousin, maybe a wife. You are kidding your sef if you did not already think this right
2007-05-11 01:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by grayeyes4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only be dating for a few weeks. You don't own him, you have mentioned no where in your post that he has made any committment you so he really owes you NO explanation. It is your perogoative to choose not to believe him but he doesn't have to explain himself to you.
2007-05-11 01:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE CANT GIVE YOU THE ATTENTION THAT YOU NEED. ITS OK FOR HIM TO DO STUFF FOR HIS COUSIN BUT IF HE WANTS TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP THEN HE NEED TO MAKE TIME FOR YOU TO. SO TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT HIM SPENDING ALL OF HIS TIME WITH HIS COUSIN MAKE SURE YOU TELL HIM THAT ITS NO PROBLEM, BUT YOU FEEL HE IS NOT SPENDING ENOUGH TIME WITH YOU.
2007-05-11 00:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by sweetness23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd dump this guy forever. I think he and his cousin are involved in criminal activity and/or a sexual relationship. Just move on.
2007-05-11 00:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋