like a daughter and I dont want to have sex w/her anymore. I miss older women who share the same history I do and have heard of Fonzie,and have seen Saturday Night Fever. What do I do? You know what I mean nothin, in common .
2007-05-10 16:42:59 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have shown her videos of happy days and shared stories--its beyond that its a different mentality thing. She just argues and says things that are fitting to her age. She just doesnt get it yet. The human brain does not see things the sme at 40 as it does at 25. I thought like her too 10 yrs ago--you cant change that
2007-05-10 20:03:33 · update #1
I think you owe it to your wife to tell her the truth and get a divorce. Divorce is unbelievably heartbreaking and painful, but I wouldn't want to spend my life with someone who wasn't attracted to me or interested in me. I am 40, and I totally understand what you mean about the Fonz and stuff. She's almost a generation younger than you, and you really did grow up in two different worlds. Hopefully both of you can move on and find more compatible life partners. Best of luck.
2007-05-10 17:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like a two way street. She likes the boys her own age and now she's acting like your daughter, so you'll get bored and she'll get a 2nd chance at life. You know what she means. She wants someone young & restless. It's time for her to drop you, the grey hairs, and wrinkles. You're making her look older than she is. She thinks others believe she dyes her hair, and gets botox. But younger guys will make her look younger and feel younger too. You just don't like the competition. "nothin, in common", com'on you never had anything in common. Real marriages are based on a solid foundation, even people of the same ages need to have something solid beyond both of them, like values, morals, and beliefs. Without it, anything can pull the rug out of under you.
2007-05-10 17:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you feel that way.........
My husband is 50 and I am 24...... we have been married for 3 years and we have 2 children. We have a huge age difference but we have a lot in common. You don't have to be older to know Fonzie is from "Happy Days" and to have seen Saturday Night Fever. I think you have to have experiences that are similar, it has little to do with age.
I do understand what you mean, but my husband and I intergrate our differences by showing each other the things we don't know. I don't have to like what he likes and he doesn't have to like what I like, but we are both open to each others interests.
I don't know how you can be into your wife again, but I do not think you should end your marriage because of it. Learn about her age culture and have her take time to learn about yours.
I hope you can work it out, Good Luck
2007-05-10 16:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
So...rent some old Happy Days episodes and Saturday Night Fever. I'm sure she's feeling the same because you aren't as hip to things from her generation. Why not spend time sharing things from your past with her and let her show you hers as well? Maybe you'll both learn something. My husband and I are closer in age and we've introduced each other to things, this is less of an age thing and more of a communication thing.
2007-05-10 19:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the problem with the age gap you don't have the same things in common or as much in common. It was probably the fantasy of being with a younger girl. Maybe a Mid Life Crisis sort of thing. Or maybe the challenge of seeing if you could still attract someone younger. But if you are sure about how you feel about her then you should let her go and not keep her hanging on so she can find someone around her own age.P.S. We all make mistakes!!
2007-05-10 18:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am significantly older than my husband (18 years) and I think that to say that you have nothing in common with her says that you aren't committed to creating and maintaining the relationship.
Can't say if you or her decided to not put the effort in to it. But to create any marriage you need to know a person and continue to put effort into their interests. Saying the age difference is the problem is just an excuse.
Your words "im 40 but look and act young" says to me that you married her for sex or something immature. You are certainly acting immature. Now that she is just familiar material...you decide that she is not the one?
My husband does not know Fonzie. He is unfamiliar with lots of things that I know...but that doesn't mean we don't have things in common. Here is where you have the ability to create things in common with her.
Put the effort in your marriage. She decided to marry an old fart like you...give her the decency to be a husband.
YOU SUCK.
2007-05-10 17:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by kishoti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 35 and my husband is 23. It's true there is a generation gap, but we create things in common even though we have different tastes and psychoses, but we manage to integrate them together, like he's a video game addict and I"m addicted to Yahoo answers or web browsing. We sit and be nerds together. I love it. I stalk him, and he likes to be stalked...or he just says that to make me feel better.
You say she's young and hot, but have nothing in common...then get things in common. Don't throw it away over something so shallow. Show her things that you love and she might really become interested and be an enjoyable companion. At my age I'm learning things from my young hot husband. He's been all over the world, I've been in one spot all my life, he speaks 6 languages fluently, I speak zee Englez. I'm a spaz, he's calm. He keeps me young at heart. I think you can make it work if you want to. Wow, did I even make any sense here..ehehe. There I go being a spaz again. ;)
2007-05-10 16:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like you should of thought of that before you married her. It is hard when you date someone older/younger you will tend to loose interest since you are not in the same generation. Sounds like you should talk with her and maybe look at getting a divorce.
2007-05-10 16:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad. Yeah, weren't those great times! I won a hat for being the best disco queen on the dance floor! OH..yeah..those were the daze! Nothing in common makes for a very boring life of misery and unhappiNESS.
Anytime, glad to be of some help!
2007-05-10 16:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there really is no more interest or desire, then you should move on. If not for your own happiness, then hers. It would be greatly unfair to leave her stuck in an unfulfilled marriage that has no future when she is young enough to meet someone who will grow up with her. It is understandable that you found her attractive and fun, but there is something to be said for mutual experiences and shared interests.
2007-05-10 16:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by soni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋