Why don't young people save their virginity until they get married ???

Question

Why is this ? how do you feel about this ? did you ? why or why not ? what can be done to change this ? married ? dor how long ? age ?

Please Answer ALL or as many of the question, thank you, have a good one.

Answer 1

The Bible speaks against fornication but few people read the Bible or if they do, they only pick out parts they like. I waited until I was married and I was a bit older than most when I married. It's called self-control and respect for oneself which few people have today. Many parents don't teach their children to wait until they marry anymore and that is sad. I'd rather be pleasing God than mankind since He will be the one to judge me on Judgment Day.

Answer 2

because that is a very old notion made up by priests to control women. also marriages did not used to be for love, they were for money and the further benefit of both families, so the grooms family did not want to be buying tainted goods. yes there were stds back then. the times have changed, women wanted equality... they got it in many ways. in some ways they still get the short end of the stick. most of the people that hold out untill they are married are deeply religious and buy into the aincinet notion that if you do this certain thing with your body which is the only reason you are here on earth, you go to hell. well that is bullshit. and the generation that is the age to make the desicion nowadays knows it is bullshit. and anyone who waits untill they get married is either gonna be let down, there not gonna know what to do or how to do it, they wont be able to please their wife, there not gonna know any good tricks and the sex you waited all that time for is going to suck... bad. oh yeah your virgin wife is going to be crying in pain and bleeding from you breaking her hymen, if she truly is still a virgin, so she is not even gonna be close to enjoying the whole ordeal. so instead of your first akward embarrasing and painful moments being with a cute girl you met in high school and got lucky enough to fool around with.... who you never have to see again. Those awkward very embarrassing and painful moments of the beginning of your sex life (and everyones by the way, if they say otherwise they are lying) are with your wife whom you have to spend the rest of your life with... hmmm which would i choose... oh yeah already did nothing can be done to change it, it is a good thing, dont put pussy on a pedestal, get out there, the day you finally have sex you are going to realize how much of an idiot you were for missiong out on the 6 -8 years of awesome sex you could have had from the end of high school and college untill whenever you get married. serioulsly get with the times, but be safe, you dont wanna ruine your life just for some nooky, nooky will always be there

Answer 3

Not everyone does it. I haven't yet and I'm a stud! I'm engaged and won't have sex until after I'm married. The same with my fiance. We have both saved that special part of us for each other. What kind of a person would want to marry someone that has no self control or respect? I think it is far more attractive to have self control and respect than to be easy. Sex is supposed to be between a husband and wife. That is for more than just religious reasons. There are diseases, ruined families, lack of self control, dropped ability at work and life in general, etc... There are of course religious reasons too. Just wait until you're married! It can be done! There are a ton of people out there that are waiting to have sex with their married spouse. And yes, you can wait, even if you don't get married for a long time.

Answer 4

Because what if you get married, and the the sex is lousy. It's possible to be sexually incompatible, and I know from experiences that some things can't be worked out, so some is always going to be unhappy. I don't think you should sleep with every person you date, but I couldn't be in a serious relationship without it. If both people are responsible, as far as protection from diseases or unwanted pregnancy, then who it is hurting? It doesn't need to be changed, what needs to be changed is how we educate our children on the practices of safe sex. After all, what hurts society more: the spreading of STDS and unwanted pregnancies, which leads to abortion and teenage girls dumping their babies in trash cans, or explaining to them completely what a big responsibility it is, what all of the risks are, and how they can prevent them. But also, and this starts from the time they can talk, you teach them how to treat other people, and about respect and the consequences of their actions, no matter what they are, and you're consistent throughout their childhood and teens, they should be able to make the right decisions. I've been married for 3 years and I have two children, a girl and a boy. I got pregnant before we ever planned on getting married, but we had our son, 6 months later we got married, and we couldn't be happier. If that's so wrong, why are we so happy? We love each other we have fun together, and our kids are amazing. I wouldn't give this up for anything in the world.

Answer 5

When we were kids in the 50s, we used to play cops and robbers or pretend we were Davy Crockett. Why? Children are imitative; they see, then they do. What images do we provide for young people today? And what messages? The birth control and body rights that were extolled in the 70s as a means to "unshackle" women have sadly freed them at a young age to bow to peer (and again, media) pressure, when they work at the same time to rebel and to fit in. A Dateline program last year, interviewing teenage girls, revealed they often didn't know what they were getting in to, but once they did, they felt there was no way of going back. Sad.

When we "waited for marriage" almost thirty years ago, the pressures and messages were there, too, but we weren't bombarded in the same way. I truly don't think young people are at fault in this. Our parents' generation felt, in general, a responsibility to impart family values and provide an example - our generation has been more intent on self- development, and have let their children grow up with lots of stuff, but far less to guide them. And the moral authority that once belonged to the world religions has been replaced by a celebrity-focused morality. Bono is put on a par with the pope or the Dalai Lama, and it's George Clooney who exhorts us to care for our fellow man. It's not that these guys aren't doing fine work, or that they have set out to displace religion as our guide. But the media would rather cover our celebrity leaders than our religious leaders. About the most recognition God receives these days is when you see sports figures raising their fists to heaven and thanking Him for their win.

I feel we live in an immoral time and things seem out of our control. But there's no need to despair. It's happened before ... many times. This is not, historically, the most licentious time in history. God could handle things then, in His own way and time, and we can trust Him with things now as well. In the meanwhile, I'd say, go easy on today's young people. They face so many troubles with so little support. And let's remember that some of our changes are for the good. If we are less morally structured, we are also more tolerant. We don't fail as people when we make mistakes- we live and (hopefully) learn and move on. And our mistakes don't decide the kind of people we are. We're here to look out for each other, to be good to each other, even to forgive one another ... of not being perfect. That should keep us quite busy enough!

Answer 6

Up until recently, having sex meant having children. So women wanted to be married before having sex, so their men would be committed to them when they had kids.

With the invention of birth control, things have changed. Today, it's possible for teens to sleep around and not get pregnant (although it doesn't always work out that way. Plus teens have to worry about all sorts of diseases, even fatal ones). But sex isn't tied to pregnancy in the same way it used to be, and so some people don't feel like they need to get married if they're not planning on having kids any time soon.

How do I feel about it? Well, besides the diseases and the chance of pregnancy, having sex can really wreak havoc with your emotions, especially when your younger. Before you have pre-marital sex, ask yourself if the person you're with is really worth all the pain that can come from sex.

Answer 7

1) Because they don't want to.
2) I don't really care as long as they use protection
3) I probably won't
4) I am not religious, so to me marriage is just signing some papers that give me some tax breaks. Love is love, law has nothing to do with it.
5) Review your take on history. People either thought they could only have sex when they were married so they got married at 14, or they weren't virgins when they married, or the chick got pregnant so they got hitched. Humans don't really change. I don't see why it needs to be changed, but I guess if you wanted it to change you could try and raise more kids with strong religion or something.
6) I am not
7) See 6
8) 15

Have a good day as well.

Answer 8

I am waiting for marriage, here's why many don't wait/ here are the challenges i face

1. people got married a lot younger than they do now. just 50 yrs ago the average person got married right after high school, now after college, grad school and work, you won't find many that are willing to wait until 28-30

2. a lot of people aren't getting married at all, blame it on culture, break down of the family etc. but it is what it is.

these are not things that affect me but may influence others

3. the push for a more secular culture means that more people don't feel the moral or religious reason for waiting.

4. gays in most parts this country can't get married, what will they save themselves for?

i think that the problem is that most people don't see sex of their bodies as sacred and special. when sex is labled dirty you take away the power of intimacy and it becomes just something else that people do as a form of rebellion.

thats just my analysis

Answer 9

Why should a person suppress a natural urge just for a piece of paper? You get married because you are in love with someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. You get laid because your horny. I think it's irrational to wait for love just to get laid. You want to change this? Why? Is your reason based on religion? I suspect it is. Too bad religion makes people feel guilty about everything that comes natural. If you are a Christian, you know that Jesus was immacuately conceived, yet his dad has all of the features of a male human. What does he do with his penis? Why is sex considered to be bad? I've been married for over ten years. I had sex before I was married. I was horny before I fell in love, and so I had sex ... big deal. Why not? What difference does it make at what age? Just do it!

Answer 10

My personal opnion is that the problem is with the whole picture perfect image of "MARRIAGE". The more we (society) harp on the sanctity of marriage, the more these young people will not save their virginity for marriage. they simply do not see the values of waiting around for the right one to get married to. Think about it - if i was a young teen and think that i will not get married till I've made a successful career or find the ultimate true ONE ... and that may be at the age of 35-40. Does that mean I will wait till I am 40 to have sex? No way.