Has the legal system finally killed love?

Question

I just saw an article on t.v about postnump agrements, (news to me!) and I found myself asking the question above.
We've all heard the vows before, and they have become just about meaningless in our secular "all about me" society. But now it seems the courts are treating marrige more like a busness merger that a romance. WTF??? I understand the need for a prenump in RARE cases, but a postnump just baffles me. As I understand marrige everything you do after you get married you do together. how do you seperate decissons or wealth after the fact and still hope to have a healthy relationship? And why would you want to? maybe I'm old fasioned but in my marrige all the money earned goes into one account and we handle finances together. If we one day split then we walk out with what we started with plus half the estate. That seems fair to me.

I am well aware of the historical signifgance of marrige. But we do not live in the victorian era nor a third world country. I do not believe that most think the marrige through anymore, women want the fairy tale and men want to make women happy. I learned that the hard way.

Answer 1

I agree that marriage is a to do togeather thing, but
the problem is many others don't and usually be-
cause of a lot of money or assests one does not
feel secure unless they have a written agreement.
Too bad these people think of their material things
more than the love they may have towards each
other because if that really and truly existed then
one would not try and take what is not his or her's
just be with each other and make the marriage a
happy one. Having been married happily for over
20yrs, rich , poor, have a lot, or a little, it's the
happeness that my wife gives me and I her that
have made this marriage important and not the
material things that one may or may not have.

Answer 2

Its funny you say that marriages have become a business merger, because technically that is what a "traditional" marriage was, if you go back to the pre-Industrial Revolution times. If you read about the history of marriage, it was basically a merger of two families instead of two people, and since the family unit was also the economic unit (most businesses back then were run by all the family members out of the home), it was more like a business merger than what it is today: an emotional joining of two people primarily for the purpose of companionship. I think that these days it is smart to keep finances for the most part separate, with a common bank account for shared expenses like rent, utilities, food, etc. Usually both the husband and the wife work outside the home and it can create a lot of arguments if they can't agree on how to spend the money, especially if one person earns much more than the other or one person spends much more than the other. In a perfect world maybe people could just assume their marriage would work out, but the reality is that about 40% of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. I'm sure that most (if not all) couples getting married think their marriage will last, or else they probably wouldn't be getting married in the first place. It is simply the most practical and realistic thing to do to prepare for the worst and not rely on blind faith.

Answer 3

People are just sick... it's so pathatic how it's "all about me".....ugh, you've got me erritated now... these kinds of people burn me up!!!!!

Why do they even bother getting married in the first freakin place?!?! HUH!?!?!?!?!

UGH