So just recently, something kinda bad happened.
I hung out with my guy friends (both are exes) at one of the guy's houses. So, after a few hours of just hanging out, they asked me to flash them. I did. It didn't seem like a big deal at the time. It was one breast for a single second, and then it was done. Nothing else happened.
However, after I left I began to worry if what I did was wrong. I vowed not to tell my friends, because I was sure I would get judged and labeled, and I just didn't want that. So I told another guy friend of mine who I trusted severely. I just wanted to know if it was something to stress over.
Anyway, come today... I realize he told all the kids in his advanced math class what I did. Most of these people are my friends, so they confronted me as asked if it was true (they didn't look too pleased about it.) I ran off and started crying. After a few hours, everybody knew.
I was made fun of. Given nasty comments. Strange faces. Everything. What do I do?
2007-05-10 15:36:22 · 9 answers · asked by meglin ! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The guys won't talk to me anymore. Theres no much talk and rumors that they won't even be around me.
Earlier, I asked one of the guys (who is one of my best friends) to hang out tomorrow... but he said no. Why?
Because people would see us and start talking. And he didn't want to deal with that.
I'm so lost and confused. At the moment, I have no one, and not a clue as to how to handle it.
I can't 'wait till it passes', because I need help now. What am I supposed to do before they all forget?
2007-05-10 15:38:16 · update #1
Hi! Well, I think you answered your own question. It will pass, and you know, it wasn't that big of a deal. I'm guessing you are in high school? EVERYTHING is a big deal in high school. I would just keep going on about my business, if anyone acts weird to you, act totally unaware of what they are talking about. I mean, I guess, you shouldn't have flashed them, but now you know. It will pass, like everything else. Someone else you know will do something soon enough to take the spot light away. I would just seriously act like nothing happened. If people ask you if you did it, just act like you aren't sure what they are talking about. If you already confessed, just say something to change the subject. I know it sounds easier than done. You'll make it through, any REAL friends will laugh it off with you, right? Good luck! No more flashing male friends, haha! Save that for spring break! Be careful too! :)
2007-05-10 15:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by MommyMe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have done it in the first place, but if they don't have anything better to talk about than you, then their lives are pretty pathetic. just act like it doesn't bother you and before you know it all the gossip and rumors will go away. but if you really trust the 2 guys that you did flash then tell them how all the rumors and nasty comments made you feel.
2007-05-12 08:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by 17+33=50 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's really nothing you CAN do. You did a stupid thing and made a spur-of-the-moment decision. If all of your "friends" are judging you so much for doing something that minor ((it's not like you did anything SEXUAL with any of them)) they're not really very good friends and you should think again next time you make friends.
Really, you should know not to trust guys with any secrets involving sex, kissing, or your own personal body parts because they simply cannot keep their mouths shut. Really there's nothing you can do about it, and I don't know what else to tell you.
2007-05-10 15:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by hello_stars 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are consequenses for the things we do. Surely you
didn't take time to think before you did that. I think you will
just have to let time pass and it will be forgotten. If you have
a few friends that don't judge you just hang out with them
until it passes.
2007-05-10 15:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy "friend" is a real creep. Real friends keep their mouths shut. Just ignore it and it will be forgotten.
2007-05-11 03:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have learned a very important lesson. You are 100% responsible for the consequences of your actions. You made your bed and now you have to lie in it.
2007-05-10 15:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by OrangeCharlie 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ignore them let them think that it doesnt bother you. it bothers you and they know it so they are playing on that. oncw they see it doesnt bother you they will stop. speaking from a similar situation. 4 yrs later noone remembers if they do they never metioned it
2007-05-10 15:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by abarnwe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
after a couple of days this will be water over the bridge.
2007-05-10 15:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its not a rumor.....
u did it now u gotta pay, i'm sorry
u shhouldn't of flashed them....
2007-05-10 15:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋