Supposedly they didnt have sex. ? Two wrongs dont make a right, however I think my bro still in love w/her. They fight more often and during the fights she says a lot of hurtfu things but 2-3 hrs later apologizes and says she said it out of anger. Staying 2gether bc of their 2 kids is not an option I agree with. I think ppl should stay married bc of their love 4 1 another. I know childsupport is going to a nightmare 4 him =(. I think they should try to work it out bc of what he did 2 her way back when. Am I wrong?
2007-05-10 12:06:39 · 18 answers · asked by iotaprincess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In regards to the child support, I def think he should pay I just hope she uses the monies strictly on the kids rather than on herself.
2007-05-14 03:05:20 · update #1
An affair doesn't usually begin the problems in a marriage, it's usually the culmination of a multitude of problems already existing in the marriage. i think you should stay out of it, but support your brother as best you can with what he and his wife decide together.
2007-05-10 12:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by flipdout2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
can you forgive her? Some people just can't. It's definitely worth trying, especially with the new baby. The thing you have to remember is that she chose you. She obviously did something she shouldn't have, but she realized that she loves you and decided to STAY with you. How you feel in the beginning of a relationship is a lot different then how you feel on your wedding day, or birth of your first child. She might not have been that serious about you when she screwed up, but obviously has fallen in love with you since then. She's built a life with you over the past four years, and she CHOSE to do that, to be with YOU. Yeah she screwed up, but do you want to throw it all away over something she can't take back? BTW- how did you find out??
2016-05-20 00:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...Marriage is a bond between TWO people, and what your brother and his wife decide to do is what they think is best, if they are in love they'll stay together, they will find the way to succeed against all off the fights and anger and.... even cheating, but if instead they decide to go separate ways you're brother will be fine, you as a good sister you seem to be will be there for him, let him know that whatever he decides to do you'll support his decision, but for no reason get involve in his problem, that's their decision to make. Good luck!
2007-05-10 12:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by fun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What happens in past should not be a reason to control the present. Cheating is something people do when they loose interest in their partner, so i dont think there is anything to do with past, your brothers wife lost interest in him and 4 yrs ago he must have done it for the same reason. I understand the poor kids have to suffer, but i agree that not being in love and staying in a relationship is not recommended. It want be a pleasant one. No matter what age you are, there is no reason to continue something that does not last in peace and love
2007-05-10 12:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by 1in6billion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it will be worse on the kids if the stay together and fight all the time. They will continue these actions because they feel they need to get revenge. The first event started it, there is no end. I don't think they love each other, and child support is his responsibilty whether he likes it or not.
True love may include fights and anger, but shouldn't include dishonesty and immoral affairs.
2007-05-10 12:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but his affair early on pretty much gave her a freebie on going outside of the relationship. At least that's my opinion.
If they still care about each other, they should seek counseling. An unbiased moderator for the fights would likely help. She should also work on some anger management if she lashes out when she's mad.
In your case, my advice is be there for them as they deal with this, but don't pick sides or listen to them trash talk each other. If they do reconcile that would make things awkward for you.
2007-05-10 12:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by Armless Joe, Bipedal Foe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are agreeing to stay together they need to show happiness in front of the kids. They can't show hapinness. There behavior in front of the kids or loud arguments will affect the kids. I suggest divorce because they both are even with cheating.
2007-05-10 12:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by LIZA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That definatley in my opinion isnt an option ive been there cheated and wanted to stay with him. it will never work there is always that factor of what they did. also if they are miserable they are only making their kids more miserable. the fighting isnt good for them. when they fight about stuff and then she says shes sorry so what when your mad is when it is easier to say the stuff you really mean. i dont think its going to work unfortunatley. :(
2007-05-10 12:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by jennie k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're wrong.
You love your brother because you see him through biased eyes. The truth is, he a cheating dog and his wife finally got fed up with it.
What can you do about it anyway? Do you think she should put up with him because you think so?
Because you think the child support is going to be rough on him? Poor baby, sounds like a spoiled brat. Time for him to grow up.
2007-05-10 12:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be contradicting yourself, you say they shouldn't stay together for the kids but only out of love, but then you say they should work it out. I think the best think you can do is be supportive of your brother and let them work it out the way they feel is best for them.
2007-05-10 12:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by vixeness1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋