2007-05-10 10:32:29 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
me and my ex broke up a week ago he left me for another women he wants to see kids at weekend and take them to his girlfreinds house for the night iam thinking is he for real they only just no we have broke up now he wants to take them to hers
2007-05-10 21:50:54 · update #1
Speaking from experience, my ex left me for someone else, my son was 2 years old at the time, I asked him not to introduce my son until he got used to not having his mum and dad around together, he agreed, but then, about a month later my son developed a stammer, and his skin broke out in this horrible rash all over his face, after taking him to the doctors he said that it was due to stress. I was really concerned because I thought he was getting used to the idea. Anyway, another month down the line, my ex admitted that he had taken my son from day 1 to see his girlfriend and he was telling him to not to tell mummy, and everytime I asked my son where he had been with his dad he always said the name of a supermarket which I found out later that's what his dad called his girlfriends house. I hate him for it still today, my son is 13 now, his father has never changed he still lies, but thankfully my son has him sussed out. So a big NO from me!
2007-05-10 11:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by DIANNE S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, extremly.
One of my best friends went through a messy divorce, and after 3 months they introduced the son age 7 and the daughter age 5 to the 'new girlfriend' and the little girl was okay with it, but the little boy still hasn't come round. He hates his dad for having a new girlfriend, his behavior has really gone down. He is a nice, gentle little boy though, just got confused.
You really need to give it a couple of months, so the children can get used to the new arrangements. Its in their best interests.
2007-05-10 10:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sahra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is definitely far too soon.
you dont even know the girlfriend and neither does he properly if they have only been seeing each other for a week. i am assuming it is someone he has recently met and not a friend turned girlfriend.
your ex should realise that it is not appropriate. if he wants to see the kids then he should arrnge to see them at his place until he has known this woman for at least a couple of months. it is fine for the woman to be there at his but it is not fair on the kids to take them to a strange place with a woman they hardly know.
2007-05-10 11:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer f 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer YES! - He's being totally silly and selfish, not thinking of anyone elses feelings - the childrens most importantly - say things dont work out well - its going to leave the children confused and they'll think thats what happens in life; you grow up, find a partner, have children, split up, find someone else, maybe that doesnt work out, so on and so on!
Hes wrong! - He should leave it at least 6 months!
2007-05-10 10:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by Rєвє¢¢α 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's too soon. The kids will be very confused at the moment and this will add to that. This is an extremely selfish and inconsiderate thing to do.
I hope this backs up what you already know. Tell him no. He has no divine right to do anything with the kids. Their interests should be put first. What an a-hole.
2007-05-10 10:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by yogi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can not believe how clam you are you are and yes i would say it is too soon but on the other hand is there really a time that is right,not knowing how you feel it is hard to answer what is best for you and your children and not knowing how old your children are.Please feel free to mail me if you feel i can help in any way .male aged50 sorry i can not be more help at this point.
2007-05-10 11:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by andrew h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELL Yes...you don't know who she is or how she feels about your kids. Nor do you want him to have different women running in and out of their lives. Your ex should have more respect for the message he is sending his kids. If I were you I'd tell him to give it more time...whats the rush. The girlfriend is absolutely nothing to the kids anyway.
2007-05-10 10:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!
Sheesh, your ex is a moron. He is prolly trying to set the new gf up as the future babysitter when he has the kids.
AHOLE! BUT, what can you do? I mean if you children are safe...can you really tell him he cannot take them? You should be able to express your concerns though, because you know the kids will come home and ask YOU all of the questions....
2007-05-10 10:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Neither your ex nor you should be parading a score of strangers in front of the children. It's just too confusing. Unless a relationship has become serious, frankly the kids shouldn't be meeting anyone.
2007-05-10 10:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by dawnb 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's too soon in my opinion but unfortunately you don't really have control here. You can suggest that its too soon but the final decision rests with him if he has them for the weekend. I'd be mortified not knowing what kind of person this was. Not much you can do though...he sounds like he needs to be more responsible but I have a feeling you know this since he's your ex...good luck
2007-05-10 10:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋