Threatening to win custody in divorce cause he has more money & Y can't my lawyer find the money?

Question

My husband & I have been together for 5 years. The first 3 of this relationship I was the stable & goal oriented one. I pursued my degree @ night & worked full time. Last year I left him because he was verbally abusive & had no goals or money to take care of me & our daughter. We were seperated for 8 months & he conned me into reconsiling. He got a great job making 75k a year (construction) & I'm stuck at 32k. Now - through this reconsiliation, he's hid $ from me I know. "He was saving money for us to buy a house" and I don't know what bank he has it or if he's pulled it out in cash. Can my lawyer find this money with his social security number? Also, is it true that a big money lawyer will win the custody case? When he's never so much as once brought the child to daycare or a doctor appointment. What should I do? I'm a 25 year old with a stable medium pay job. I am A WONDERFUL mom and she ALWAYS comes first. A judge wouldn't ever award him custody?

Answer 1

If he is smart he has the money in his parents or a family members name and you are out of luck but on the custody thing as long as you're a fit mother he probably won't win.

Answer 2

There are pretty cheap "divorce kits" all over the internet that will allow you to do the divorce yourself. Typically, the largest fee incurred is that of getting the documents recorded at the county. I don't know what the laws are in AZ regarding community property, etc. so be sure to do as much reading as you can to protect any interest you may have as far a assets are concerned. If he has expressed interest in keeping the child, then you do indeed have a custody issue to remedy and will need to have attorney representation; perhaps a loan from your parents can get you the help you need to see this thru. There is also the issue of fault or no-fault divorces that could aid in determing the custody issue. Again, you need to do some research for your state. Good luck!

Answer 3

Your lawyer can find the money by using tax records. For example; If the money is in a bank it is earning interest. The bank must send your husband a 1099 reporting the interest a copy of which goes to the IRS. Do you know what bank the money was in when you were together? Get a copy of the statement. I wouldn't worry about the custody issue. Don't freak out. Play it cool and ask your lawyer these questions. Thats what you're paying him for.

Answer 4

It is going to be ugly, especially with him using his money over you. Your lawyer can find his money, but only if it is in his name. And since you are married, hiding money like that is frowned upon by judges. Normally, a judge won't take the kids away from the mother if there isn't a good reason. So you will get joint custody. All decisions will need to be made together concerning your child. Visitation will most likely be one evening a week, usually from like 4 or 5 to 8p.m., and every other weekend. If you can prove that your child would be in danger in his care, then you can ask for supervised visitation. If you are nervous about drop off/pick up being bad, ask for it to be at a public place, like the lobby of the police station.
Hope this helps you.

Answer 5

The courts are not going to look at how much money he has verses how much money you have, that's not what makes a good parent. The court is going to look at what is in the best intrest of the child. He can threaten you all he wants but it all boils down to who can provide the best care not only financially, but physically, mentally and emotionally. Let him keep making his threats and record him if he does it on your cell phone! Get written statements from people from the day care showing that you were the one dropping off and picking up you kid. You want enough evidence that will prove that you spend more time with you child than he does. By the way, the money issue, if it is hidden and you have no proof, then its purely speculation. The court is going to ask for something concrete, bank statements, account numbers, etc. Good luck.

Answer 6

It varies through every state, but I was told by some lawyer friends of mine in college that in most states, as long as you're a fit Mother, no matter how much he makes, he can't take custody. If you have "possession" of your baby then you have established a stable, safe home for her... As far as your personal situation, you seem pretty lucky to me. I mean, if he really was saving the $ to buy a house for you guys...that's wonderful! Only, you could tell him you'd have liked him to share this plan with you first...And since you originally left him for being less than goal-oriented and now he's far exceeded those expectations, I'd be very pleased and appreciative of his wonderful progress. I'd tell him those things, and try to work it out together if you can. Sounds like a good man who cares, to me. :)

Answer 7

At best your ex could hope to do is win shared custody. He would have to prove you unfit to care for a child in most cases for a judge to remove custodial care from the mother. As for tracking down his financial stashes your lawyer would be better to answer what he's can help you with. Hiring a private investigator might also be an option. During divorce proceedings spouses have to provide full disclosure on all their income and assets. Best of luck to you.

Answer 8

There are so many variables involved in this, including the State you live in, but I have seen a few cases where the Father got custody and he shouldn't have and I have also seen cases where the Father got custody without even asking for it. You must be so scared, I feel for you and pray it works out in your favor.

Answer 9

MONEY isn't an issue for child custody. It's the love, care and stability one gets from what parent.

AS long as he can't prove your a bad mom, don't worry!

ALSO, if he's got hidden money, insist on alimoney!! Besides child support.

I'm pretty sure they can find hidden funds. It's just : WILL they spend the time LOOKING?

Answer 10

first off, it doesn't matter how big of a hot-shot lawyer they are, it ain't the lawyer that tell's your story, its you... just them talking.. and second of all i never heard of being able to find money using someones social, if so, girl i would have my child support by now.. but i think they can look up all the banks in your area and see if he has a account there...good luck with this, i truly hope that you win.. i know what its like to have a child whom's father doesn't do anything. not even child care.