If you were dying and had cheated on your spouse and they didn't know would you tell them before you died leaving them with that.
If the tables were turned would you want to know if your spouse cheated or let them take it to the grave.
2007-05-10 09:17:08 · 11 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't. What if on the odd chance I survive the illness but get choked to death by her?
Information is power. But unwanted information also ruins your life, or what's left of it.
2007-05-10 09:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Option 1 you taint your spouses thoughts of you while knowing that they will not have time to decide to forgive or not.
Option 2 letting your spouse think of you with love and found memory
I would tell my wife, she's been pissing me off anyway.
Of course I think my ashes might get flushed down the toilet if I do.
2007-05-10 16:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get the whole wanting to go to meet your maker with a clear conscience, however, that doesn't really apply to a situation when you would hurt someone you love(d). It would do no one any good, your spouse would bury you with that on his/her mind. Then, of course, he/she would feel guilty for being angry with you. And you would go to your grave knowing that you hurt someone for no logical reason. They have the right to say goodbye to you so that they can have closure and get on with their life. If your spouse is angry with you, there is no getting over that as they wouldn't have the opportunity to talk, yell, scream without feeling guilty.
2007-05-10 16:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by Tainted Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a tough one. Why would you do that to your spouse? They have enough to deal with with the death. There's nothing to be gained by telling them something so horrible. Save it for God.
2007-05-10 19:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
But what if you dont die and the Dr's made a mistake.
Take it to the grave.
2007-05-10 16:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you think being honest now, it may help them not grieve you all that long once your gone. By telling the truth now, you'd be allowing them less grief.
By keeping your mouth shut.........no one is being hurt.
2007-05-10 16:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't tell neither would i want to know. it's no purpose either way. it's just going to cause pain.
2007-05-10 16:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell nor would I want to know.
2007-05-10 16:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say nothing. Tell him/her that you had an affair would do nothing good for either of you....
2007-05-10 16:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by joeysdudes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no and no...what I don't know won't hurt me...why on earth would I would to hurt him on the deathbed???
2007-05-10 16:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋