is my wife wrong?

Question

My wife refuses to cook me my tea at night as she is a vegaterian and says it is a hassel to cook two meals. I work very hard at my own business but all she has to say for herself is 'it dosn't say in my marrage cert i have to cook for you' We have only been married a year and it is driving me mad. What should i do?

Answer 1

:O Similar situation fella, however I finish work earlier than my girl and love making a meal for her for when she comes in, yep she's a veggie and everything is prepared separately etc, twice as much work clearing up etc. You didn't say if she worked or not? . . Also if I'm late from work my gf will make my dinner. . she draws the line at hadling liver tho . . yeah I think shes well out of order

Answer 2

cook you tea? as in, boil water and drop in a tea bag? Was that an error?
I honestly think it's kind of rude of her to refuse you all of the time. The two of you should compromise, you don't need to eat non vegaterian things ALL the time and she can adjust stuff so you like it. Or cook up a little chicken to go along side what she made for herself as well. Sounds like she's being selfish to me.
I'm not married, I'm not even in a relationship where I could say I love my boyfriends but I do like to make him feel good and cook meals I know he likes...even if I don't (like shake and bake pork chops...ew! but he loves it!)

Have a sit down with her and tell her it's really bothering you before you do anything drastic. And yeah....wait on moving on with a family here until you guys figure out these silly problems

Answer 3

Boiling water for tea and cooking a whole meal is not the same thing. The marriage contract doesn't say she has to cook for you, however, if she knew that is what you expected when you got married then you have a beef. If you didn't talk about it and just assumed, she would not be wrong.

These kinds of things must be discussed before anyone gets married. In this regard, both of you were remiss. Maybe you want to hire someone to cook for you.

Answer 4

If it upsets you to the point of bringing it on Y answers then it's a problem that's needs serious consideration. There must be a reason why your wife finds it such a chore. Maybe she just hates cooking? Then again maybe you could eat vegetarian to make her life easier. Maybe she feels unappreciated. Men often think women don't need to be told how much they are loved and appreciated but it's essential. This is probably a basic communication breakdown, get some help, even from a book, and start talking to each other. Once the love is stronger the cooking will be done!

Answer 5

On one hand she is quite right she does not have to cook for you, but on the other hand she should try to make her man happy after a hard days work. Perhaps not every night but a nice cooked meal perhaps once or twice a week would not come a miss. Put this to her and say that you don't want to be a slave driver but just a little bit of appreciation would not come a miss. And for her efforts perhaps have a meal out say once a month. I am sure you would both appreciate that.
Dr Knowitall.

Answer 6

Well a cup of tea isn't that big of a deal. She could microwave a cup( using a tea bag) for you if she really wanted to.Why not try this trick? Maybe she's too exhausted from what she does all day so you offer to make both of you a cup tea that you can enjoy together.It's not that you're asking for such a big thing but women today are so pooped out tired because of working full time jobs or from staying home with kids.They're burned out and feel like they have nothing left to offer anyone by the end of the day. I'm guessing thats what your wifes problem is.

Answer 7

Well if she became a vegetarian AFTER you got married and used to cook your dinner but now she doesn't because SHE CHANGED, then I say that's pretty selfish of her. IF she's always been that way and you knew it going into the marriage and yet you still expect her to cook you an entirely separate meal, well then you are being rather demanding. Why can't you throw some meat on the grill and just simply add that to the dinner she makes? It takes very little time and effort to grill some meat....

Answer 8

Well, it's pretty selfish of her, I have to say... My husband and I like different things, and sometimes I end up making him a separate meal; but as hard as he works, I feel he deserves it. How did you two handle cooking before you got married? Did you not have some sort of an agreement on the issue? How did you handle it before meeting your wife? Perhaps, you just have to go back to enjoying Chinese takeout and pizza if your wife is this unwilling to compromise. There's nothing wrong with you making your own meal sometimes, or going out to eat - but it shouldn't be a matter or principle for either of you.

Answer 9

Why don't you come home early and cook a veggy meal for both of you, if it's your own business you can come home when you like. Take it in turns to cook , have a veggy meal with some chicken on the side, surely you can manage that. I think you are making a drama out of nothing. May be you are working too hard , take some time out for both of you and enjoy some quality time together. Take her out for a meal.

Answer 10

You need to really sit down and talk to her. Agreed that a marriage licence doesn't say that she has to cook for you, but it is just something that most women do. Her being a vegaterian I sure plays into this heavily, and in fact, it might be that since she is, she may not be able to cook. Have you infact asked her if she can cook (non-veg meals)?

Answer 11

Dont want to be horrible here but your wife is cooking a meal which is vegaterian, so shes cooked a meal and u expect her to cook another meal but u wouldnt even dream of cooking one but expect her to do two, plus im sure she doesnt want to have to cook a non vegaterain meal. Be a man cook ur own dinner!! itll taste better!! Theres alot more serious problems in a marriage so be thankful thats ur only main problem