Some people are being mean to me but my friend wants to keep talking to them and kissing up to them.
She is my olny friend but I am wondering if I should keep someone around who is so disloyal. I am thinking if I develop standards I might get better friends eventually?
should I? And is it asking too much for wanting a friend to turn away from people who are not being mean to her personally?
She says, " they didnt do anything to me" . I like her. I will miss her. But should I just go ahead and ditch her?
2007-05-10 08:51:26 · 30 answers · asked by meanpromqueen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Its ok for your friend to have other friends, even if those people arent friends of yours. Thats the way it is.
2007-05-10 08:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Bomb_chele 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that you should keep her a friend!! You sound that u like being friends with this girl and really this is all that matters. But i think the main thing u need to do is find some more friends so that she is not the one u depend on therefore i dont think it would annoy u as much that she was with those other people, because you have ur other friends aswell!! and then you might even find out weather she is worth keeping as a friend if u make new firends!! i know it may be hard to make new friends but just be confident friendly and yourself mainly!! Good luck let me know how it goes!! Never ditch ur friend u can never have to many close or not close!! ok xxx
2007-05-10 08:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyGal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a hard lesson to learn, but you cannot control any person other than yourself. Learn from the way that your so called friend acts and better yourself. If she lets people talk badly about you, and does not take up for you, she is not a real friend. Mabey you could join a sports team or something like that to meet and interact with other people. If she is bringing you down I think it is best for you to leave her alone. A true friend is someone who you love and trust and that will be there for you through thick and thin. These people are hard to find, but when you find them, there will be no question in your mind whether to "dump" them or not. Good Luck.
2007-05-10 09:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend would stick up for you and stand by your side. If she was worthy of your friendship, she would not care that they are not being mean to her personally. I say ditch her, I don't know her or you of course; but anyone who's willing to stand by and let others be mean to you is not someone you can trust. Who's to say she is not joining them in their "mean' thoughts behind your back? Or feeding into their lack of consideration?
I'm sorry for you to have to lose this "friend" but I say: anyone who is willing to stand by and let you be hurt (physically or emotionally) is not worthy of your time. I try to befriend those who are most like me: willing to do anything for their friend without any expectations in return; only their honesty and friendship. Good luck
2007-05-10 08:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jaysgirly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should ditch her, however, watch the things you do and/or say to her. For example don't say things about the people who are being mean to you. She may go back and say something about it. I do think that she does need to say to them hey, she is my friend! Dont talk about her or treat her like that!
2007-05-10 09:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ditch her than you'll be friendless!! I have learned that people are different and some even grow apart.... think about it if we were all the same we would be bored!!! I also think though that if she hears them pick on you and doesn't say anything than maybe she's better off with them... Good Luck!
2007-05-10 08:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by TRISHA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say so. If she's going to be that self-centered, I'd say she isn't worth your time. Stand up for yourself. And keep in mind that most of the things they're saying probably aren't true, and isn't it stupid to make things up about somebody to insult them? There are lots of people out there. I'd say go outside your box, go to a place that interests you, and hang out there. People with similar interests will be there, and maybe you'll meet up with some Cool People. Most people are jerks, but there are some good ones out there. ;) Good luck!
2007-05-10 08:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes not a good friend if she wont stick up 4 u. i would never treat my friends like that. my friends become my family & i def dont let ANYBODY say anything bad abt them. u can tell ur friends r true if they stick up 4 u even when its not cool.
i say yes dump her ***. u need somebody who will treat u right. lol.
dont worry friends come & go. i chg mine all the time.
just be friendly, you'll eventually get new ones. just talk to ppl.
2007-05-10 08:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by LIZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend wouldn't want you to be around people who are being mean to you.
Do what feels right.
2007-05-10 09:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by lovebostons 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u can not trust her then why should u stay friends with her if she is acting that way then ditch her and find some new friends.
2007-05-10 08:56:55 · answer #10 · answered by hindergirl17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not loyal to u than what's the point of keeping a friend like that just tell her that u dont want to be her friend anymore
2007-05-10 08:56:17 · answer #11 · answered by kajal c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋