old son) but we are curious how long we should wait after we are married to have another baby. He is almost 29 and I will be 25 in December. Any opinions???
2007-05-10 08:48:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, it seems to me that the two of you are at an age where you can decide that for yourselves.
You're already parents, you can do math....you know when you can financially afford a little one.
Since both of you have agreed that you want more children, then I don't see much of an issue here. Just whenever the two of you decide 'it's time'
My hubby has a 2 year old daughter....and we aren't for sure yet about having children....but I know that PERSONALLY, I want to have a bit of time to be *newlyweds* before adding MORE children into the equation. It's difficult enough having that *special* time with ONE child already involved. But, I also realize that not everyone feels the same way as I do...so you just have to do what's right for YOUR new family unit :-)
If you are ready but aren't sure 'when'....then I say, don't *try*....but also don't prevent. Just let it happen when it wants to happen.
The Lord won't steer you wrong!! ;-)
And congratulations on the upcoming wedding!!!!
2007-05-10 13:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by jezyka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, it is really up to you. Where I grew up, people usually start trying for kids almost right away after getting married - but here in the US, it seems that everyone likes to wait a bit longer. If both of you guys want to have more kids, I don't see why you would need to wait too long; if your son is already 2, it would be nice for him to have a sibling somewhat close in age; my brother is 3 years younger than I, and it seemed to be a perfect age difference. If it was me, I would probably give it 6 months to a year before trying for a child.
2007-05-10 09:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children are 5 years apart and did great growing up. My children are of a blended family as well. That would give you 3 years into your marriage to enjoy one another and make sure that your son feels comfortable in your new family prior to bringing the new baby into the family. That way he is very secure with both of you. And you would be only 28 so your body would still be nice to you for waiting til then. Good luck to you and yours...
~Goddess Bless~
2007-05-10 08:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess Bless, Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok youngster - in the 1st place, GOD would not "throw" human beings together. in case you have such reliable faith in God, why are you pregnant? hear to what you stated: 'My fiance is scared that i'll pass away him or cheat on him whilst he is going foreign places." - WHY? Why would not he believe you already? because of the fact he's 20 and already divorced? do no longer you think of he could have some subject concerns to recover from earlier he gets into yet another marriage and he's not even around to get to comprehend you? Getting married could be a good larger mistake than you're getting pregnant became into. do no longer DO IT.
2016-11-27 00:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait at least 6 months before trying to conceive..by then you should both know for sure if you want more and you will have time to just the 3 of you for a little while...
2007-05-10 08:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my own personal experience. I felt whenever the Lord decided he wanted to give me a child he would! 3 months after I married I was pregnant with my first child!!! As long as you and your husband are on one accord and feel like you want to have children, I say let nature run its coarse. The only time frame is what you and your new hubby to be wants... You guys know what you can handle. Be fruitful and multiply!!! Let me be the first to say CONGRATULATIONS and I wish you both much love, happiness and success!
2007-05-10 09:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is the most important person in you life right now? That is a critical question, because, when you marry a new man, and then have children with him, you are building a wall between yourself and the child you already have. I know you won't want to do this, but it is a clear statement of telling your son that he wasn't enough, you had to not only bring another child into your life, but also have more children with your real true love. This devalues him, and there's no way around it.
2007-05-10 08:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would wait a few years after you get married to make sure that you both are ready for more.
2007-05-10 08:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on you. Me and my husband were together only 6 months before I got pregnant. It depends on when you two think that you are ready to have a child and become a complete family. Talk to your husband and see what he thinks and then you can decide when would be a good time.
2007-05-10 09:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by chris_afgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think a marriage needs 2 years to get off on the right foot...1st year is simply learning to compromise..then the 2nd year is fun...3rd year children (if u so desire)
2007-05-10 08:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋