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Since shes been pregnate whes been working my last nerve and I think its time I go. I'm 14 as well , and shes been always on my case, in my face, not giving me any space. I still want my daughter but I dont want her. Is it wrong to leave?????

2007-05-10 08:39:24 · 39 answers · asked by Serious 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Newborn & Baby

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MAN you were doing EVERYTHING WRONG!! you are 14yr old! you ain't even have a job, have you've talk with your and her parents? what do they think?

2007-05-10 08:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by The Chosen Pilot 5 · 5 0

at the start, what the heck are you doing having intercourse a 14? My newborn brother is very nearly 14 and intercourse is the furthest element from his ideas. 2d, time which you are able to strengthen up, in view which you theory you have been sufficiently previous to have intercourse, then you quite sufficiently previous to take accountability for you movements. you do not would desire to marry the girl, yet you do would desire to be there for her and you newborn. 0.33, the final element 2 14 3 hundred and sixty 5 days olds would desire to be doing is elevating a newborn. you're able to do what's sweet for all 3 of you and however the newborn up for adoption as quickly as that's born. 14 is a lot too youthful to be elevating a newborn. And seeing as the thank you to't get an prolonged with the mummy, that wont be good for the toddler the two.

2016-10-15 07:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well to be honestly brutal - you both messed up. The fact that she's probably in your face is due to many reasons. One she is extremely young and pregnant, two she's probably really stressed due to the increased hormones during her pregnancy, three she's gaining weight, four she needs someone stable right now by her side while she's going through all of this. I'm not saying that it is wrong for you to leave, but take this into consideration; you are all she has right now. Her parents are probably extremely dissapointed in the situation that you both are in. Just strive to be there until the baby is born, you never know it might be the best thing. Relationships are never easy - and every relationship can get rocky. trust me I have 15+ years experience on this, and now I'm married. Yes I may be only 21 - but I saw a lot of my friends boyfriends leave them when they got pregnant. It's a hard situation for the both of you - but you do reap what you sow. Stick next to her, you never know - she needs someone special in her life, and you getting out of the picture can possibly hurt her health and the babys.

2007-05-10 09:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

you're 14 years old. she shouldn't have gotten pregnant in the first place? you were both irresponsible, but you got her pregnant and now you have to face the consequences. of course she's on your case and in your face. she's 14 and pregnant and most likely scared and confused. she is now going to give birth to a baby who will probably have health issues and also psychological issues as well as it grows older. no 14 year old can function as a mother, especially not alone. but if you're concerned about your relationship, if you're going to give her grief about the way she's acting towards you, you should leave. do it for her. hopefully she has parents or other family or at least a close friend that can help her with her child, but you are not helping the situation at all. you won't be able to support her financially, and you're only a burden. however, if she wants you to stay, stay. you guys are stuck in this together now, whether you like it or not. and that's both of your faults.

2007-05-10 08:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1 0

I mean, what do you honestly think? Of course it's wrong to leave her. But if you guys at 14 are making eachother miserable, there's no reason to bring a baby up in that miserable life for the rest of your lives. You can still be great parents apart from eachother... when the baby's old enough she will understand. Just make sure that everyone knows your intentions and remember, a pregnant women's hormones are raging most of the time and they seem like beasts... but afterwards, they calm down... pregnancy is a lot to handle for anyone, especially at 14, remember that much.

2007-05-10 08:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by ♫Mama of One♫ 4 · 1 0

how about a prime example that boys/men should learn to wear condoms. Sorry but someone made a comment that girls should wear chastity belts until 18, it takes two - don't forget it!
I hope the two of you have supportive parents and good people to talk to about all this, you'll both need a lot of guidance for the next little while. I wouldn't expect you or your gf to know how to effectively handle the situation.
The truth is, now that the two of you have gotten yourselves into this situation you'll have to face the reality and take responsibility, which will likely involve a lot of growing up. I'd encourage you to hang in there with her, you need to go through this with her, after the baby is born then decide what you want to do, but realize that you are responsible for that child and certain expectations will be layed upon you.
I find it so sad that such young teens put themselves in these situations, but now it's time to own up to the consequences of your actions, your gf should NOT have to do this alone.
IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO!

2007-05-10 08:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by JD 6 · 1 0

Yes! You helped create this mess! Being emotional is all a part of being pregnant. You should have though about all this before you allowed this to happen!! Now it's getting tough and you want out, just like the little kid you are! Well you made a man's mess and now you need to see it through!! You need to grow up and act like a man and take care of the mess you made. That means staying by her side til after the baby is born!! Do you think all of this is easy for her? So why should you get to walk away, when she can't!! If all you dumb little kids would have some self control then you wouldn't be where you are now!!

2007-05-10 08:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1 0

Not necessarily wrong but keep in mind that your pregnant g/f needs you and the side of her you are seeing is likely due to hormones and doubly considering the age.If problems are bad and cannot be resolved then yes leave but you have to stay in the babies life.You both must love the child more than you hate each other. And being young yourselves maybe a break from each other could help at this time.Dont do anything you will regret later.

2007-05-10 08:47:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Wow, babie's having babies...I am sorry that you are both in this position...you are even too young to work...does your mamma and dad know? does hers?...Kids, you need to go talk this over...unless you have parents that are going to help you raise this little one, you both need to get some help over what to do. I would never advise an abortion, or adopting the little one out, because you both probably DO want it, fourteen or not. Some people might not believe me, but this does happen. You need to both go to a counciler, with your desicion...and don't get talked into doing something that you will both regret. The best thing, is when you are old enough to get a job, and act like a real father,...at least start giving her some money. Honey, you guys are really in a mess. I Pray for you both...please, go to your parents and see what can be figured out,..time to GROW UP

2007-05-10 08:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1 0

You got her into this situation; this baby is half your responsibility as well as hers. You made an adult decision when you two had sex. Now you need to be an adult and help raise the baby. If you don't like the mother anymore, you can stop being her boyfriend. However, you can never stop being a father for your unborn child. Give the mother money, or keep the child with you half of the time. For heaven's sakes stop having sex until you are mature.

2007-05-10 08:52:21 · answer #10 · answered by Graciela, RIRS 6 · 0 0

Honey, you may only be 14, but when you decided to have sex, you stepped into the world of adult responsibilities. That baby did not chose to be brought into the world by irresponsible teenagers, and deserves a father. It's your choice if you want to stay with the mom or not, but don't punish your dhild for your mistakes. Also, please try to have the grandparents involved so the baby has more stable male and female role models in it's life. It is so important to have both.

2007-05-10 08:46:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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