My fiance's best friend, is a know it all. He's very sexist, into drugs, and is incredibly self centered. When my fiance and I were living in Seattle, he was hanging out with this friend of his all the time and my fiance went from sweet to being a total jerk. Since we moved to Montana, things have gotten better and I had hoped that he would ditch this friend of his, BUT kaboom just like I had feared, my fiance started talking to him again. Now not only does Tyler do Ecstasy, Oxy, and other drugs, but he is trying to convince my fiance to SELL THEM. My fiance is hooked on this stupid idea of becoming a drug dealer. He even quit his real job. I think as soon as I get some cash I'm out of here. I can't stand this anymore. If he wants to be a boy instead of a man, so be it. I'm sick of being taken for granted and I'm sick of Tyler's stupid ego/personality rubbing off on my fiance. He used to be nice, sweet, ect but now he turned into a self centered monster. What do you think?
2007-05-10 08:19:25 · 13 answers · asked by Miley 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
p.s. is it wrong for me to WANT my fiance to get caught with drugs? I wish he would because maybe then he would shape up and start focusing on real things instead of these pipe dreams. He has no real goals anymore bc of this drug dealer dream and this other fasination of becoming a rapper (he is not the next Eminem sorry to say. I love the bastard, but his rhymes are not anything really intriguing and I've been listening to rap for years)
2007-05-10 08:21:21 · update #1
p.s.s. don't worry I'm not sticking with him, like I said as soon as I get some cash I'm outtie. I'm going to put this baby first because that's what a Mommy should do.
2007-05-10 08:25:27 · update #2
Sounds like another example of a woman going into a relationship with the intention of changing the guy to be a better person.
Trust me, the best friend's influence is irrelevant. You are using that as an excuse to explain your fiance's actions. Sorry, he is doing those things because that is who he is.
You chose unwisely and the sooner you face that, the better.
2007-05-10 08:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to start thinking about the child you are bringing into this world. Having a baby living in the same house where drugs are being sold is not a good thing. Many many many things could happen. What happens if the baby gets into the drugs and ingests them. It could make the baby sick or even kill the baby. Do you want really want drug addicts calling and tracking in and out of your house all the time at all hours. What happens if he gets caught. How will he support his child from behind bars. God forbid your house gets raided. Your baby will get taken away. I know that being a single mom doesn't sound attractive but the alternative is a lot worse. You boyfriend is a grown man he can defend himself. You child on the other hand can't and your job is to protect your baby at all costs. Is keeping him around worth loosing your child?
2007-05-10 08:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by THEMURPHSTER 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion he needs to grow up. Any man who puts his friends and a "job" before his family, isn't worth the paper he will be wiping himself with in prision. Being a drug dealer isn't a career or even a job. It's a profession where you kill people for a living, no better than cigarettes or gun companies. And to answer your question, no, it isn't wrong to want him to get caught. Maybe spending some time in prision with some very lonely, yet still passionate men will awaken his inner man to come out and be the man he should have been a long time ago. There are crisis centers and emergency facilities if you need them. All you need to do is ask someone.
2007-05-10 08:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kyle Spencer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you need to deliver the ultimatum ASAP. (Don't even mention that he'll owe you child support, because you don't want him to try to keep you around just because of that, and he probably won't think of it himself right away.) When your baby is born, a bad situation would become a legally untenable one - CPS could take your child away, if Daddy does drugs, or sells them. Anything is better than that.
As to your PS - no, it's not wrong. It'd be hard to justify setting him up, but wanting him to get caught is probably quite reasonable. Some people can't grow up until they learn their lessons the hard way (I know, I'm one). Might as well let him learn them on his own, and let him be a father to your baby only when he's showing himself ready.
2007-05-10 08:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by zilmag 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you got stuck with a loser. Don't worry, I did too..lol. I'm about to have his second child but at least he works 40 hrs a week at a good paying REAL job. If I were you, I would leave. Maybe not forever, but long enough to get him to open his eyes and see he is being a total moron.
2007-05-10 08:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by Happy Mother of 2! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok wow!!!
for the best interest of that unborn baby you need to leave him. think about your future and your baby's future. im sorry, but you arnt going many places with someone like that.
no its not wrong for you to want him to get caught. id want the same thing.
how does he plan on raising and taking care of a child from behind bars?
he just sounds like trouble.
2007-05-10 08:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Defintely get out.There is no need for you to be in this situation.Bad for you bad for baby.The stress alone from living like this is hazordous to the little one.And no it is not wrong to hope he gets caught.Maybe getting caught will wake him up to what he has and will lose if he keeps it up. Please be safe. Prayers are with you
2007-05-10 08:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by iluvmybaby29@yahoo.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
. Run away from this looser as fast as you can for you kids sake. You are considering staying with a guy to raise your kid that quits his job to sell drugs? Are you out of your mind?
2007-05-10 08:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by ripit365 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl get outta there this is not the situation your baby needs to be born into, but I think you already know that!!
2007-05-10 08:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by REBMA R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you and YOUR BABY LEAVE if your fiance starts drugs or selling them
2007-05-10 08:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋