How can I be less timid?

Answer 1

I think what you really have to deal with is, not what others think of you, but what do you think of yourself? And how did that come to be? Have you encountered a lot of criticism, from family or others? Have people been supportive, but you just like to stay in the background? The first thing you should do is to think through what would make you happy, make you feel good about yourself. (We're talking healthy pursuits, of course; "first, do no harm"! : > ) As you come to enjoy yourself more, you'll feel better about life, and naturally more confident. You'll surely meet others who share your interests; expanding your social group to include some of them - take your time - can also add some energy to your world.

And, while I strongly advise against taking on other people's serious personal problems (your "hero" status can lead to great and neverending expectations that become a whole new problem), it does help to look around and take note of others who are also timid and give them some support. At a party with no one to talk to? You'll find someone else in the same boat- join them, for a chat or some supportive silence, and you may be surprised to find others joining you as well. Don't worry about whether you have much to say; being a good listener makes for much easier conversation. Show people, by thoughtful responses, that you enjoy their conversation, and as a rule they'll enjoy your company. Those that don't ... let it be their problem, not yours ... move on - "wipe the dust from your feet" - there are more fish in the sea!

And if that lack of confidence is the result of family criticism, take action - we parents surely do make mistakes; let them know, constructively (they may be troubled by their "baggage" as well) ; and take the steps you need to stay connected to their support (and return it) and at the same time, distance yourself from any damaging family habits. The same holds true with your social circle. Speak up, constructively, so no one is a loser, and be supportive without allowing yourself to become bogged down solving their problems. We learn, as kids, what's expected of us, how to behave, and what to think. As adults, or young adults, we get to rethink that - keep what works, and change what doesn't. It comes down to: it's your life; make it a happy one. Wishing you all the best (and knowing it's already in you) - enjoy!

Answer 2

Timidity is an expression of fear, anxiety, or intimidation. (The "what if" factor plays a role here.) I know; I've been there too. If you do not apply yourself, however, will not know what strengths you have, what you CAN do.

Answer 3

If you really want you are givin the first step now...relating to others :)
Also, try some leadership seminars, go to places where you feel confortable, talk to your friends if you have, or look for nice people in a group (church, club, sport activity).
Read books on self esteem...
I recommend "Your Erroneous Zones" Good luck!

Answer 4

Take Paxil,Prozac or Zoloft.They're for depression but they do wonders for shyness.