In your opinion, obviously,...is it better to marry the babys daddy so the child has both parent or better to just wait it out.
~~I ask because I realized alot of people marry because of a child~~
2007-05-10 06:23:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It's healthier for a kid to have two happy single parents, than have parents that married for him/her and are completely miserable.
2007-05-10 06:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by minalerie 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
In the end you are the one that has to be happy. So you do what you feel in your heart! You don't marry because of a child. Who says it's going to work? Who says it's going to last? You marry because It's where your heart is! You have alot of stereo type people out here that will tell you, "you should marry because of the child" but the hell with that! That's BS! Because they don't know what you feel in your heart, and it may not be that particular individual.; whether it's the father of your child or not. Ask yourself this: Do you want your child to see you upset,mad, miserable in the coming years or happy, cheerful, and brighteyed? Marrying someone because of a child, and not for yourself is going to lead down a road of imperfection.
2007-05-10 13:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by pam6700 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting married just because a child is on the way is the worst reason to get married! No one will benefit from this at all and a bad example is set for the child!
2007-05-10 13:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the answers about not marrying just because of the baby, but I want to point out that people used to get married after a very brief period of dating. We have different ideas now about finding the perfect match, but people used to have arranged marriages or semi-arranged marriages all the time. Heck, in some places it still happens. Talk to the baby daddy and see if he's willing to commit to creating a strong relationship forever. It's very hard work, but it can be done. Ask yourself if you're willing to commit to the work involved in maintaining a relationship forever. You can do it if you want to; if you're not ready, you're not ready. Best wishes.
2007-05-10 13:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not marry because you have a child. It would be in the best interest of the child, but you also have to look out for yourself. Wait it out. See what happens. I almost married my baby daddy and it turns out he is a bad man. Wait it out definetly. (not saying your man is bad, but people change after a while.)
2007-05-10 13:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone should get married just because the women gets pregnant, if there isn't love in the relationship to want to get married then the child will grow up in a loveless home
2007-05-10 14:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by trish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sweatheart. You do what you have to do for you and the baby. The father can be around, have visiting rights but, you should definately not marry him just for the baby. Think of the long run a year or two from now and you are fighting and name calling, is it good for the baby then, No. I know it's hard to have your brain, and heart agree on something. Do what you want. I am a single mother to be and i just dumped my fiance. I know I can do it, and there are many more single mothers and fathers who raise children. Find a single mother support group and good luck. Congrats and God Bless
2007-05-10 13:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really difficult question because in American even if two people DO get married because a woman is pregnant, they will likely get divorced anyway and I think divorce is more harmful to children than single-parenthood, though they are both bad.
I would be married first, then have kids, but just my opinion.
2007-05-10 13:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by Waiting and Wishing 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't marry just so the child had both parents. "Any d*** can make a baby, it takes a special person to be a father". Marry becasue you love someone
2007-05-10 13:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by lilbeamlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you MY babies daddy and I are not married we are living together and still with each other we are just not ready to get married yet...We tend to talk about marriage alot but then we decide we are not ready...You will know when you are ready...As long as you are still together and you both are raising the baby that is what matters...Make sure he is the one you want to have a baby with ...
2007-05-10 13:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by kathleen j 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We got married and then had a child. But I think the baby should have a daddy....
2007-05-10 13:26:44 · answer #11 · answered by Winter is here !!! 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋