Is it cheating????

Question

Ladies and gents...my boyfriend of a year was on our computer till 6 in the morning..the next day i discovered he was having cyber sex and trying to meet girls online. I freaked out. He says its no big deal and its just fun. I consider this a form of cheating..what do u think??

Answer 1

If it's something that he has to hide from you and something you are obviously upset about and hurt by, it is cheating.
Talk to him about this! If he still believes it's "all in fun" but you can't shake the feeling it gives you, leave him. No point in sticking with a dude who isn't willing to compromise, especially when your feelings are on the line.

Answer 2

Everyone will have a different opinion. I personally consider it cheating because even though it is not physical, it is intimate. Plus he was actually trying to meet girls...like get their number and meet or just porn searching and cybering? Bottom line, I am with you and I would FLIP!

Answer 3

Boyfriend...not husband, right? It might be dishonest and betrayal, so it is what it is, but it isn't necessarily cheating because a life-long commitment does not exist. He's still with you because it's the path of least resistance, but he's obviously out there looking. You should be too. This relationship probably has no future.

Answer 4

Uh-huh...."No big deal...ot's fun". What? making attempts to meet women on line while you're sleeping in the next room. Baby...he really must think you're a mope. That sure says volumes about he really feels about you.
Is it cheating? Not per se. But it sure is one of the avenues to take if you even are considering it.
You are well within your rights. Tell him if he enjoys masturbating to someone...because half the time its a male posing as a female....whose typing explicit sexual details tell him you'll break his little play toy to put a damper on this nonsense. And by play toy I ain't referring to that Dell.

Answer 5

Yes, it's cheating. Evenif it's not physical, he is still seeking sexual gratification outside your relationship. It's rude and wrong and immature. Tell him that it IS a big deal to you - and explain why - and then tell him that if he wants to go looking for love/sex elsewhere, then don't bother coming home, because he ain't gonna find it at home!
If he can't shape up and commit to you, kick him out.

Answer 6

You bet it is. If he is taking his business to the Internet, there is something wrong. Either the relationship needs an overhaul or he has a problem. No matter what, you have to make him understand that this behavior is not acceptable. Give it up and bring himself to you bed for the real thing.

Good Luck.

Answer 7

that a morale boundry for you.

but take it a step further. what happens when you or him think about another person in a sexual way ? is that not cheating in your heart ?

also, why were you checking out his "internet" history ? you must not be trusting to him AND honestly if you would have checked on me AND my cyber logs- well lets just say that I would be moving on.

Answer 8

Was the cybersex with a girl? If it was then yeah maybe it would cross that line. Or maybe you should just join in next time. Maybe he has some fetishes he needs to work out.

Answer 9

It's not "no big deal and fun."
Ask him about what he'd think if he foun YOU pleasuring yourself on the comp at 6 a.m.
He is a loser.
DUMP HIS A**.

Answer 10

I do think it is cheating, if he wanted something, he should have been in bed with you! How would he feel if it were you? And what is he on to keep him up all night, literally and figuratively??