What should you do if your boyfriend is controling?

Answer 1

Even though you don't know me you have to trust my response to your question. Why? Been there, done that and actually lucky to have survived a horrifically controling person.
Soooooo. First of all your boyfriend has problems of his own to straighten out. For whatever the reason (s) he's very insecure with himself. I'm sure there's much more to it than just that, but that's a given.
Second, I don't know how long you've been seeing this person and if this is a new relationship or if you've been seeing him for awhile. It's too bad you didn't watch Oprah this week she had a woman on that might had opened your eyes to a controling person. But he is going to become more and more insecure as time goes on and more and more controling. If he's not already calling you names and verbally abusing you, he will. When that know longer satisfies him he will get physically abusive with you.
I think most everyone that wants to be in a relationship with another person has a certain idea of how they want there lives to be with each other. Ask yourself this. Does the way he treats you now make you feel good and happy about yourself about your relationship? Are you with this person to make yourself unhappy and sad?
Do you believe in your heart that a person truly cares for another if they make them feel bad about themselves?
If you have a sister, or a daughter and you found they asked this question on this site, how would you answer it? How would you answer it if any woman asked it?
Also, don't fool yourself into thinking that he's going to get better or it's going to get better. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY don't DON'T try to change yourself to make him feel better, because it's not going to ever happen. He's the one with the problem NOT YOU...
I think you already know the answer to your own question and what you need to do. If you thought everything was just wonderful you would have never asked this question in the first place. Please, leave him. MLJ

Answer 2

If you don't like it, tell him! NO ONE can make you do things you don't want to do! If you try to leave and he doesn't let you i think there's a 911 #!!!!! controling boyfriends usually have some anger problems and you should comfront him about that before it's too late.

Answer 3

Strongly consider him to be your X boyfriend. CONTROL has nothing to do with loving, caring, or respecting a person.

Answer 4

Get out of the relationship...never take any form of "abuse" .,i.e. (mental, verbal, or physical).....Take into consideration, about invasion of your space....
I know it is a difficult situation and feel "trapped" it's hard to make the first attempt, but stand up for yourself. Once you do that, stick to your guns...of course be cordial about. Some males feel intimated by it. "Individuals, have their own mind, brain and self-worth and we alone control how to use it..and SPEAK OUT for all woman..

Answer 5

Is my boyfrruend was going out of control then im would call the cops on him

Answer 6

Give him a taste of his own medicine, if he starts complaining let him know that he's doing the same to you, but see he might just turn out to like that so hmmm I guess run as fast as you can in the opposite direction of him, unless you like being contorolled ;)

Answer 7

ask yourself do u want 2 get treated that way
if not u should leave him
your most prob a really nice girl and deserves better
good luck with whatever u choose 2 do

Answer 8

If you don't like a potential mate controlling you, dump him. He obviously isn't a match. If you are ok with it, stay.

Answer 9

ask yourself if you like being controlled if the answer is know leave him

Answer 10

tell him how you feel about him being controlling and try to spend more time try not to go down his path okay tell me if this is good information