My husband won't touch me. We have become more pals than anything. I am just wondering what makes men lose interest? I am attractive & am told this by friends also, that has not been a problem. I however don't feel that way around him. I feel awful & like I am nothing. If I lean one foot/leg on him on the couch he moves away, like I repulse him. Nothing has happened that I can think of that could have caused this. I am pretty sure he would never cheat..I also have resources to check on this. He won't spend much time with me either...would rather work constantly. When I bring it up, he denys it. I ask him if he is attracted to me & he laughs & says: Come on..you know you are beautiful! Umm...no I really don't since he doesn't even sit near me. Kissing(pecks) is nearly out the door now too. My quesiton is...what makes men act this way? And is there anything to be done to change it? It's very hurtful & upsetting. Men please feel free to answer this one as well as anyone else!
2007-05-10 04:41:07 · 8 answers · asked by purple 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband told me that years of nagging, and accusations will do this. That when you are always p*ssed of at your wife you really don't feel like being intimate with her.
2007-05-10 05:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by casper 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
BRINGING SEXY BACK!! dont worry, my bf was doing the same thing and i know for a fact he is not cheating....
i think they loose intrest and get bored, spice it up girl that's what i started doing and now i get more attention and i even want sex more than ever so does he, heres what you do: get more spontaneous(sex in closet, on the stairs, in front of the window etc. you initiate it ) but first do these things if not all then some, dress sexy to work and home and go shop for some victoria secret, take a long bath w/ scented fumes (trust me he'll be in there soon to ask you a wayy dumb question) you know what time it is!! take care of your body ie; feet,hands, keep your mouth clean, breath smelling fresh at all times, can you say "VEET",and go get your hair done, wear a little makeup when you go outside, not too much, men like it natural as possible. all these changes are probably nothing new to what you used to do when you two were dating so you just gotta get back into the habit, and bring sexy back!!!!!
2007-05-10 12:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by KAT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before you get too resentful - talk to your husband - it takes work to maintain the intimacy in a relationship - not only sex, but tenderness, caring - sit down with him & in a relaexed weay let him know that you want to make sure that you maintain the tenderness in your marriage - it is an investment in making sure you don't drift apart in the future - so far apart that you can't get it back. Hold hands when you watch tv or take a walk. Make sure you put asdide time for just you & he each day - even 10 minutes. If you are at home when he comes home from work plant a sexy passionate kiss on him when he walks in the door. Give him a back or shoulder rub. Massage each others hands. If you let him know that you enjoy this, I think he will respond well.
2007-05-10 11:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by molly 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your in a loveless relationship. We all need to be held & told we are beautiful & really mean it. I think i would consider some kind of couseling or other things. It takes to 2 people to make a marriage,1 can't do it . My heart goes out to you. Maybe if you leave for a few days, go stay with a friend he'll wake up. Don't keep trying get out & be happy. Life is to short & we all need that release to bring us xloser together. Hope this helps!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-10 11:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by texasstar1974 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could be he has another woman on the side. That has been my experience with situations like this. I've worked in family law for 15 years and this is usually the first thing that happens.
If you don't think he's cheating, tell him what you've told us. Be honest and frank with him. If that doesn't work either. I would be seeking counselling.
2007-05-10 11:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you brought this to his attention? You need to tell him all that you have told us, minus the part about your resources.
Men do get that way sometimes. Sometimes things get that way for a while and the forget how to be like they use to be.
Talking can change things. and start out with calling me beautiful wont fix it...
2007-05-10 11:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Counseling I think or talk to your pastor
2007-05-10 11:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by Emmit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your marriage has reached the BORING stage...you need to spice it up
2007-05-10 11:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋