With Mother's Day this weekend, my boyfriend is contemplating what to get his daughter's mother. (She is not even three yet, so obviously can't do the shopping herself.) What is appropriate? Last night he was looking at spa treatments at some posh resort. I thought that might be too much, but he thinks that whatever he spends for Mother's Day, she'll reciprocate for Father's Day a month later.
What do you think?
2007-05-10 04:37:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My bf's ex sort of started this holiday gift-giving thing over Christmas, when "his daughter" bought him some gifts. It just seems weird to me, but having never been divorced, don't really know what is appropriate here.
2007-05-10 05:00:51 · update #1
What a nice man. Many would say "hey let the kid buy the present" but I think a bouquet of Oriental Lillies would be fine as they will perfume her home for a couple of weeks and are beautiful to look at. Spa treatments at a resort ? she is supposed to be his EX and the present is for Mother's day.
If he buys flowers she will be happy and he will have enough money to buy his own present on father's day.
2007-05-10 04:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is weird considering that I am an ex-wife with a three year old daughter and both my ex and I have done this before. I mean I do think that the spa treatment is a little extravagant but it is still a nice gesture so I wouldn't look into too much. I actually think it's pretty cool that they are that civil with each other to do stuff like that and that it's nice that he wants to help his child appreciate her mom.
2007-05-10 05:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know he will always love the mother of his child and I'm not saying anything is or will be going on but it's true. He sounds like a good man/father so as long as you know it's over don't take the word of these jealous ex wives here.
2007-05-10 05:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Mother's day should not be celebrated by a child younger than 18 yrs old. The gift should be from the child and not from the child's father, therefore only when the child can afford to buy a gift should they give a gift to their moms. Ex bf's or spouses should not get involved with mother's day or father's day.
2007-05-10 04:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Does the daughter live with Mom?
He could take his daughter for the day and let her make plans with girlfriends/boyfriend-husband and have a day to treat herself to whatever she wants to do.
Maybe a card with a gift cerificate to a nice restaurant to use for the day.
A lot of times a day off from being a Mom is really what we need!
2007-05-10 04:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by swimbike21 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the other posters. This is not his responsibility. If he really thinks someone needs to provide her with a mother's day gift, maybe see if her grandmother or other relative on her mother's side would be willing to help out. If he feels it's necessary have her make something for her. Frame a picture and put her handprints on hit for her. She'll cherish that much more.
2007-05-10 04:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Orion 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
To do something with the expectation that it will be reciprocated is not okay.
If he is doing this just to do something kind for his daughters mother with no expectations then that is caring and thoughtful.
Perhaps a t-shirt with her daughters hand prints in paint on it would be sweet. They have kits for this exact thing at many retail super stores.
2007-05-10 04:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, KUDOS to you for being so understanding!!
I can't really say what would be a good idea, because it would never work in our house for him to buy his ex a Mother's Day gift in the first place. It is beyond weird, but if it works for you then so be it.
2007-05-10 06:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something simple the child can make or let her pick something out for mommy. A spa treatment is a bit over the top for an ex.
2007-05-10 04:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think that's too much for someone who is an ex. If it's coming from their 3 year old then it should be something like a picture of her and the ex in a cute frame. And he shouldn't expect her to do the same for him for father's day.
2007-05-10 04:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋