She has no respect for us. She refuses to help out. Drops the f bomb in front of 4 & 5 yr old brothers. Won't do chores. We've taken away all privileges and she doesn't care. Says she hates it here. Is there like a boot camp or even just a family atmosphere type place that would make her understand that we aren't asking for much, just respect and a helping hand once in a while. We really aren't that awful but she treats everyone in the fam like the stuff on the bottom of her shoe.
2007-05-10 04:35:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Let her spend the day at a homeless shelter. That ought to wake her up real quick. This may sound harsh, but is it possible she may be experimenting with drugs or something like that? At the very least, it sounds like the people she is hanging out with are not the best.
2007-05-10 04:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This has me laughing seems like something my parents would say about me. Im 16 too and I do the same crap your kid does. I drop the f bomb in front of my sibs (8 &10 yrs old) in my head its just another word, I don't do chores its not my job I ain't a maid , and my parents used to take away my privileges and crap too but it didn't really bother me. My parents pretty much have given up on me. I'm in the process of moving out, I'm gonna join job corp and hope I can figure life out. My parents stopped giving me the easy ride I want to act like an adult so now I am treated like one. Its the only way I feel I've learned. Stop paying for her **** make her get a job and she'll figure it out.
2016-01-27 18:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by KayLee Marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well next time she starts pouring out the f words just call the jail house and ask if you can take her to a tour of it. And when you go and finsih the tour ask the jailer if you can leave her ina jail cell for a couple of hours just so she can understand that at home she has a lot of freedoms that when she's in jail you don't have. And also call the church and ask if they can inform you about church camps or other camps for adolecents and make sure she understands that she needs to grow up or else. You need to let her know who is in charge in your house and it's not her. From now on if she messes up take something she likes away and don't ever give it back to her. Keep doing it till she behaves right and make sure you don't buy her another one neither. Just be strong because when she finds out your serious she will start moaning and groaning say SHe will be good from now on so you don't need to take things away from her. AND IF she ever decides to runaway get teh cops aftr her and make her realize she did wrong. So good luck and call around there are camps all over, also you can google camps and see what you find.
2007-05-10 04:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't know where your faith or beliefs lie but next year my oldest son who is 13 will be old enough to participate in the teen missionary trip at our church. They go to Ecuador every year and build houses, prisons , schools etc. In Ecuador if a man is arrested his whole family has to go to prison with him because they have nothing or no means of taking care of themselves without the man. These teens do fundraisers and raise their own money. My friend just got back from serving a year in Afghanistan and he said giving a kid an ink pen was like giving them gold. In alot of these countries kids can have a stick and a rock to play with, had one meal the day before yet still have a smile on their faces. That could be something to look into. But all in all I remember being just like her at 16 but 20 years ago we were afraid of our parents in a good way now kids are not afraid of their parents at all. Kids seem to run the house as a rule from what I see. Not that that is what is going on at your house but I bet she sees alot of kids getting away with it. I think bootcamp is for the extreme kids who are harming or a danger to their families, sleeping around, doing drugs etc. But for just being a stubborn teen I think boot camp is a bad idea.
2007-05-10 05:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man that is a big prob what you should do is talk to the juvie People and see if they will give you and your 16yr old a walk through of there place and let her see what it is like and is it is possible to let her stay a couple of nights and talk to some of the other girls in there and let her see what they did and don't call her, don't go and visit her just let her see what her life could end up like if she doesn't wake up and realize what she has and it will teach her to appreciate you and it will give her a help for the future to show her that if she does do the wrong thing then she will be punished and will be in there and there will be no chance in getting out!
or maybe she might just be acting out on some of her emothions and dont want to tell you anything because teens do not want to talk to their parents about anythng i know i didnt. if you want you can hae her e-mail me and i could talk to her for free and try and see if she would let me in on her life!
2007-05-10 05:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, technically, you can say that she can EARN the things that she has that aren't necessities. You know, instead of YOU buying her the IPOD, cool clothes, or giving her money, tell her she needs to get a job. If she wants to run away, you can call the cops and tell them that after she leaves.
Tell her that she doesn't have to do chores, but if she wants money, she can get a REAL job. If she wants name brand clothes, she can earn it. If she doesn't want to work, you can take her to Good Will to get her clothes.
Make her understand that chores are not mandatory, but neither are the nice things that you give her.
2007-05-10 05:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send her to boot camp and let them work that attitude out of her. There she will have to do chores, There are boot camps on line that will take her. Send her she needs a serious attitude adjustment and I mean that. If my daughter talked to me like that she would need foss teeth. Hope that link helps. God Bless
Rev Greene
2007-05-10 05:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That seems pretty extreme to me. You may have a lack of communication between you and your daughter. Why not go to family counseling? Your daughter may have deep-seated resentments that need to be aired, talked about, and forgiven, and it will give you the chance to tell you daughter how she makes you feel at the same time. Sending a defiant child somewhere else to make them see that things at home aren't 'that bad' often just makes them more defiant, with an 'I don't care, I'm on my own anyways' attitude.
2007-05-10 05:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call your community research office and ask them if they have a program that your daughter can go to or get involved with that will hopefully "Scare her Straight".!!!!! If not, call your local police dept and see if you can talk with someone there @ a intervention program to heklp troubles teens. If all else fails, go online and see what choices you have for troubled teens. Alot of times they just need to see soneone else that really is in a bad place, before they appreciate where they are now. If that fails, take her arround Atlanta and show her the homeless people that are really in a bad place or a shelter and hopefully she will WAKE UP!!! I wish you luck. Thanks for trying to help your child and just not give up one her, it will work out.
2007-05-10 05:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by evelyn m 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take her to visit a local prison and a local morgue, explaining to her that if she doesn't change, she could end up in one of those places. That should scare her into behaving.
2007-05-10 06:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by misskristina617 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋