I met my fiance over the internet in 2005. He just got out of a 6 year relationship and was going thru a divorce. He has a little girl who is 3 from that relationship. She lives in CO and we live in kansas city. We still get to see her. Anyways heres my problem. We met and after 3 months of talking we moved in together. He moved here from CO to be with me. Were engaged and have been for about 10 months. We dont have a "BED" relationship hardly ever maybe once every other week. I feel that I may not be that attracted to him. I know he loves me, but I dont think im in love with him. Some days I do and some I dont. Hes very good to me and this is the first man i have ever trusted in every way possible. BUT ive put off the wedding twice. Am i just scared to be alone? I dont know if i want him here or if i want him to leave. I dont want to hurt him. BUT what IF he is THE ONE for me and he leaves. So confused please give advice and soon.hewantstoknownowifIdontwanttobewithhimsohecanleave!
2007-05-10 02:44:57 · 11 answers · asked by ask alotta ?s..lol 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you were truely in love with him....you would not be asking this question. And you are obviously not satisfying each other sexually, which is an important part of a relationship.....why not take some time out. Why rush into a marriage, you really havent been together that long. Maybe you are worrying that he came to you on the rebound and this is making you hold yourself back from him.
Dont marry, just enjoy the relationship. Sounds to me like you rushed into moving in together etc. Why not now, spend more time getting to know each other, and having some fun. Who knows.....you might actually "fall in love". Good luck.
2007-05-15 12:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but if you don't KNOW he is the one you want to be with then he isn't and it is not worth breaking his heart two years dowk the pike when you find the guy you really do love. Much as I dislike repetition I must again revert to the answer I give to many questioners on Yahoo. The best definition of love which I have found is this:
"Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained."
C S L:ewis
Now ask yourself what you want from the ideal relationship. Is yours it? Do you love him selflessly? You say you feel you may not be that attracted to him. Then you aren't. If you marry for security and not love you will lose both. Be honest and if you have to end it now before you hurt a man who cares for you.
2007-05-10 02:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love my guitar up to I love intercourse with my woman. I'm no longer shy or prematurely with love. I'm a bit of extra sneaky with it however to not the factor wherein it may not get spotted. Libra Sun Pisces Moon
2016-09-05 15:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He came off the rebound and it isn't surprising that he isn't at all clear as to what he wants. It takes time for a person, man or woman, to resolve all of the issues of divorce, separation, etc. He wasn't given that time so it's impossible to figure it all out.
2007-05-10 02:49:54 · answer #4 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is: you're not in love with him. If you have to think about, that means your not. He may just be a great friend that you will never loose, but from what you tell me, you are afraid of being 'tied down' to him. That's your subconcious telling you, you dont want him.
2007-05-10 02:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sherri B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are confused about your feelings for him than most likely you don't truly love him. If you really loved him you don't doubt about your feelings for him. You know it for sure that you love this person. I guess you two rushed into this relationship too fast. You asked "what if he is he one", well if he is the one he will stick with you if he leaves that he isn't/wasn't the one for you.
2007-05-10 02:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're kind of indifferent about him & whether or not he stays or goes. I don't think that's love at all. You need to really think about things & make the best decision for both of you. He deserves to be loved as much as you do.
2007-05-15 11:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by christina30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't feel a real love for that man;you don't like him;the only thing you like is the human male that accompanies you for some moments.
Leave him right now;it's better.
2007-05-10 03:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't get the impression that either of you are in love with each other. You two need to talk and be honest and truthful with each other about your feelings and circumstances.
2007-05-14 15:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good things does'nt come up easly,10 months of been together are not 10 ten days you know.n his ready to give up anything for you.think twice befor you loose him.
2007-05-10 02:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by beautiful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋