This is a question for anyone who has had an abortion...?

Question

How did you justify the decision to yourself? Have you ever regretted your choice?

Answer 1

I regretted it more than anything i have ever done even though i was too young at only 16. Afterwards i was so upset for a long time. At the time i thought it was the right thing to do, but believe me it is not. I started thinking that i could have had a baby and given it up for adoption to a nice loving family. Now i think that the baby could be 2 years old. Now im 19 and pregnant again and looking forward to having a baby. If you are thinking about having an abortion please dont do it, it messes up your life for a long time.

Answer 2

I have had to do it twice. I was a single mom raising 3 kids alone. I was divorced, not some girl that had 3 kids with different guys. In order to do what was best for the children I already had and for myself I had to make that choice. I don't regret them at all. The timing was way wrong. Unfortunately though they were both from the same man, who I am now married to. We have been unable to have a baby. 4 miscarriages. That is my only regret. But even if I didn't have the abortions we could never really know the outcome of our futures. I also know women who have had abortions and felt sad by their actions, but did not regret their choice. Think it through, only you can make the right choice. Good luck.

Answer 3

I think no-one is going to celebrate it. It's a choice between two evils.
I'd rather have a little regret about an abortion than a lot of regret for raising a child, watch it go bad, and knowing it all on beforehand.

Lots of women who have abortions don't just 'feel' they can't give their baby a good life: They see around them every day what happens to unwanted, unplanned, single-parent children in the wrong neighbourhood. They see it with their own eyes.

Adoption is not always an option. It means you must carry the baby through, and not everyone is so easy about giving it up then.

I must say I am generally deeply dissapointed by all the people and organisations who are anti abortion, i.e. 'pro life', who drop the mother and her newborn baby like a stone the minute the baby is born.

Answer 4

I Have Never Had One Myself, I Know That I Couldn't EVER Do It... But I'm Not One To Judge People Either...

4 Of My Friends Have Had Abortions... 3 Of The 4 Regret It... One Of Them Cries Every Night Still And It Was 2 Years Ago...But All 3 Say They Would Never Do It Again...

The One That Doesn't Regret It Was 16 When She Had Her Abortion... She's Now 30 And Has 3 Beautiful Kids... She Doesn't Regret It Because She Was SO Young and Irresponsible And She Knew It...

Hope That Helps You Out...

Answer 5

I had one 10 years ago and of course I think about it every day.
I wouldn't say I regret it because we all make mistakes and I have learnt by mine. I feel that I have been punished for it because I lost my baby a few months ago.

I was young and stupid when I had my miscarriage and I knew I couldn't offer a child the life it deserved. I didn't have a job, I was living at home and as soon as he found out my boyfriend finished with me and I couldn't look after myself let alone a baby Having said that if I was given the chance to take it all back and live that part of my life again I would.

Answer 6

I justify the decision i made by the fact that I was 14 years old and scared. My parents would of disowned me. My parents never did find out(laws were different 6 years ago). I did have post traumatic stress disorder from it for awhile. I think about it every now and then but I now realize it was the best choice I made @ that time.

Answer 7

I was absolutely the wrong time for me to have a baby. I made the right decision at the time and have not regretted it since. I didn't feel that it was a decision I had to justify. It was my decision to make and I made it.

Answer 8

You just have to know it's the right thing for you...despite what everyone else has to say or thinks about it. There are many many circumstances that can make a person choose that decision which many women and people in general don't understand until they are in that situation.

Regret???....Yes, you do have that, but it's on different levels with different circumstances and you soon learn that you can't turn back time so you learn to cope.

Answer 9

I will speak for my friend. She says she regrets her abortion because even though she wasn't ready for a baby, she feels she should have given the baby up for adoption to another woman who DID want it.

At the time, my friend justified it by saying she couldn't give the baby the life it deserved so it was better to abort it.

Now she says that was wrong b/c she could have given the baby to a loving home, and baby should not have had to die because my friend made some irresponsible choices about sex.

My friend was persuaded by her boyfriend and other people that abortion was a good thing. She's kind of resentful of that, too, you know that there wasn't someone there to remind her about the option of adoption. She felt like they all wanted to the abortion so they wouldn't have to deal with her being pregnant - you know....like their reasons were selfish or motivated by fear.

Answer 10

It was not a decision I needed to "justify" to myself. I knew it was the wrong thing to do to bring a child up in that situation and I am not one who could have done adoption. No I have never regretted it. I am now married and off birth control so when it happens it happens.