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2007-05-10 01:25:34 · 11 answers · asked by rusalka 3 in Social Science Psychology

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Plenty of pain accompanies emotional growth, no question about it. And some of that pain can be excruciating. But if the pain that could lead to genuine emotional growth (and understanding) is not handled properly then pain can also hinder or even cripple growth. There is also a great deal of growth that occurs without pain, but rather is the result of enthusiasm, triumph, positive determination, love, co-operation between people and so forth.

Real love is a great stimulation for growth on all levels that starts with emotional growth. But where there is real love grief is right near by.

So, in my view emotional growth that is worth its salt results from several factors, including pain. But it is important to find a balance between pain and joy, love, enthusiasm, etc.

Pain by itself would be a one-sided teacher. I have learned an enormous amount through pain. But it is one category of experience only. I have learned just as much from love, from good-will, from joy and most especially from co-operative harmony in getting things done. The secret seems to be in the balance. For each growth-step learned from pain or agony, there is a growth-step learned from love and its companions.

Also the quality of the growth depends on the quality of the pain and the quality of the love. It depends on how you handle it. Perhaps that's the essence of the growth itself. It's how you handle pain, love, craziness, beauty, etc.

Having added all these qualifications, your question still holds sway. Pain is certainly a price that must be paid for real emotional growth. But just by itself it can be very crippling.

2007-05-10 03:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I prefer to say that emotional growth is a fruit of pain. It's like working out. We appreciate that burn in our muscles because we know it will lead to a beautiful shape. Emotions are the same way; they are warnings to protect us, but over time, after the hurt heals, we are stronger and more wise--as long as we have not let bitterness take root.
If an emotion, like physical pain, is burning but bearable, it is an indicator that we've been hurt and need to either do something about it (especially taking it to God in prayer), or steer away from that particular situation (specifically, not in general), so as not to bring ourselves to despair.
If, like in a workout, the pain becomes acute, we may need to see someone about it; preferably a biblical counselor. The advice the world gives changes with the wind and with trends. The wisdom of the bible is useful for healing, encouraging, guiding and reproving; the Maker's 'instruction book'

2007-05-10 01:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by hopem 2 · 0 0

Yes.
Pain is the world's greatest teacher.
For example, you can explain to a child that fire is hot, and should not be touched. Yet (nearly) every child will still touch something hot. But once burned, the child will avoid hot things.
Once your mind has a good focal point to weigh down the information, it's easier.
Emotional growth is no different. Once you've been hurt emotionally, your mind knows what to do and what not to do, and you'll get along better in human society. But without the pain, the lesson isn't really sitting firmly in the mind.

2007-05-10 01:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by Max 5 · 1 0

It is a cost that we somtimes ought to pay. Not continuously. If you're inquisitive about emotional progress one million) take a look at volunteering e.g. Samaritans two) See movies like Ghost, Girl Interrupted, Shadowlands three) Study paintings by way of Hans Selye, Abraham Maslow four) Do / research a few Gestalt Psychology five) Read anything on negotiation. 6) Read 'Games People play", 'Dibs in seek of self'

2016-09-05 15:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Very good question.
I happen to agree with everyone who has answered so far.
Maybe it is because as human beings, we would never learn otherwise. As long as things go our way we are happy.

2007-05-10 01:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by surffsav 5 · 0 0

Unfortunately, yes.

2007-05-10 01:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0 0

No one goes unscathed on this planet. All suffer sooner or later. It would be tough to handle without faith.

2007-05-10 01:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by Gene 4 · 0 0

Yes
the more we suffer the more we connect to our spirtuality

2007-05-10 01:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0 0

in short and sweet, Yes

2007-05-10 01:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by bagibai 1 · 0 0

yes. not necessarily a bad thing.

2007-05-10 01:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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