the other man accepts me w my 2 kids.we are truly inlove,madly inlove,he loves even all my flaws and me his.my husband on the other hand is only worried about making more money,i dont love him anymore and i stay with him only for the sake of the kids and their future.there is no spark between me and my hubby,no passion i never feel aat ease when w him.problem is he is an influental guy we live in france and my tru love in italy.i am so unhappy,i know who i want but i dont wanna jepourdise the future o happiness of my children on the other hand i dont wanna live my life without love.what do i do.
2007-05-10 00:06:28 · 11 answers · asked by jaycee1977 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are digging your own grave if you persists with your love affair with the other man.
Your husband is busy, and most probably why he may have neglected you. However since you are his wife you should understand and perhaps make an effort to revive the love you have had just before you married. Where does all the sparks gone? Now you have two kids and work on it as a family.
If you go the other way... you most probably start at square one again..at first feeling the love .... like a newly wed couple... However when time passes by, your now man will have other interest like making ends meet.. and there again you are neglected.. what would you do then???
So do think as a family which I think you are... and work on it...
take care..
2007-05-10 00:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by trymejames 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up or maybe find someone in France, but stop being selfish and remind yourself of the marriage vows you took. Maybe you don't float your husband's boat any more. Lost your looks and sparkle? If he is in France and he is rich how do you know he hasn;t got a mistress? It is de rigeur in France for rich men to have mistresses. If he has then divorce him and take the money and go to Italy and live with your true love. I am not being flippant. These are your choices. Live in a lack lustre marriage feeling like a kept woman or take the burden on. Or if he has committed adultery (yes that is what mistresses make men do) then divorce him. Your children. Are they happy? Is your happiness more important to you than your children's happiness? You see we can't tell you what to do. You will wait until someone answers the question the way you want it to be answered and then you will show that really you had made your mind up before you asked the question. I don;t envy your situation at all. What does your lover say? Has he got a family to smash too? And remember he is Italian so the chase is everything. What if you go to Italy and he finds a younger lover? All is fair in love and war remember. The best decision is often the hardest one but it will produce the best fruit.
2007-05-10 00:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Staying with someone for the sake of the kids is not a good reason. You will become unhappier and the kids will see it. A miserable home, however financially secure, is no place for any kids.
Just be sure that this other man is really the one, and not going to end in disaster. You would be taking a big risk and could end up with nothing. As long as you feel right about this man, and can trust him, I think you should follow your heart. You only get one shot at life.
2007-05-10 00:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by helly 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look lady, i'm only 20 and not married, but even i can tell that this isn't turning out good. If you love your husband you need to end your other relationship. The grass always seems greener on the other side until you get there, then you see it different. If you pick your "friend" then you are destroying 2 marriages. You know, if you don't cut it off, its only gonna cause more problems, and eventually ya'lls innocent encounters are gonna escalate into more. Best of luck to ya
2016-04-01 04:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you married for the wrong reason and now you have gotten use the to the money and lifestyle that you live and you don't want to give it up. Money isn't everything and if you can't provide a safe and secure future for your own kids then the problem is deeper than you think. You need to dig deep inside and find out why your so afraid to jeopardize your current status for your future happiness.
2007-05-10 00:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either make your marriage work, and put some effort into it rather than fantasizing over someone you probably don't even really know (i assume online) or leave. Stop using your children as your reason for staying. The last thing they want in their lives is to be trapped w/ parents who are miserable and don't love each other. You say your staying for them. Why ? To show them how a bad marriage works?
2007-05-10 00:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what happens when you marry for money and you are a gold-digging skank. You need to think about the kids. They didn't ask for your wandering eye. Grow up. What do you expect, you are going to leave him, take the kids and the money and live happily ever after with "Mr. Makes My Heart Flutter?" Don't be so selfish, think of your children. You chose your husband for a reason, even if it was money, you had children and they should be first and foremost in your life, not your hot pants.
Wait till the kids are grown and gone. Then you can fulfill your "fantasies."
2007-05-10 00:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by Sr. Mary Holywater 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem and I asked a similar question this morning.People will be mean because they dont understand.I would say leave if you are strong enough,I have no support system my mom and dad are deceased and My 4 children need thier father.But I have not found someone whom I am in love with.So if you are truly in love with someone else do yourself and him a favor and leave.Good luck and God bless!
2007-05-13 22:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lynboges 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy and not in love with him, you should not be married to him...why live a lie .... money is fine, but it certainly is not the end all .... Quit living a lie just because you think your kids need the finances....
2007-05-10 00:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by Tom A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce your husband before you get caught. He will still take care of the kids. They belong to him.
2007-05-10 00:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋