I recently lost my virginity to a guy at the age of 27. He was suprised and impressed just as i thought. Now he keeps telling me of how much he wants to give me a baby before its too late. He claims if i stay a bit longer without giving birth i might never have a baby, is there any truth in what he's saying. We cant marry as yet as he claims he doesn't have money to pay the bride price to my parents as yet
2007-05-09 22:47:24 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you retarded? He wouldn't happen to be a black male who is unemployed, and has a criminal record by any chance? You are going spend the rest of your life on benefits that I am going to have to pay for!
2007-05-09 22:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
Wise up and grow! You are 27 and not a little girl anymore. My sister got married at 40 and she now has two beautiful little girls, so what's the story about it being too late??? Of course it would be better to have a baby at a younger age (less risks) but there is really no point in having a baby with a guy who cannot even afford to pay the bride price.
My advise is for you is not to listen to him and don't plan for a baby as yet, not until you are married and ready for motherhood: Why?
Firstly, your baby is going to come into the world as an illegitimate child, one born out of wedlock - a bad term to use would be the word "bastard". Secondly, if the guy cannot even afford to marry you now, how in the world is he going to cope with the cost of bringing up a little baby - it's not going to be cheap! and, thirdly, though you may be 27 physically, from what you wrote, the two of you are still very naive and ignorant about the responsibilities of being parents - you two need to grow up and understand better about the birds and the bees and the responsibilities that comes with the decision you are about to make. Until then, don't bring another innocent baby into this world to suffer!!
2007-05-10 06:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by Seng Kim T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did u not hear about that woman the other day who had a child at the age of 62? (ok it wasnt natural but it can still happen!) U dont have to have a baby anytime soon if u dont want to. Yes, your chances of conceiving a baby decrease as u get older but not yet so u have no need to worry about that. Many woman these days purposely wait until thery are older and in a more stable situation.
Also, if you and your boyfriend cannot afford to get married... how do u expect to afford a child? They are MUCH more expensive. Im not having a go, but think about it.
2007-05-10 07:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by penelope pitstop 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not have children until you two are ready--both financially and emotionally. It also doesnt hurt if you two are married--it makes things a lot easier. I dont know how long you two have been together, but if its been less than a year, you really need to slow down. Yes, it's true that our biological clock has a time limir, but don't base your need of a child to help solve that issue. There are a lot of other ways to get pregnant once the two of you have settled down and are ready for a child--i.e artificial insemination, test tube babies, etc etc. But trust me, there are plenty of women who have had kids even past their limit age. Dont let this discourage you into having a baby with someone. If he doesnt have money to pay the ''bride price'', chances are he wont have money to pay for a child--if you noticed, a child costs WAYYY more than just the wedding, the bride price, etc etc. Talk to him about it, if you're not ready let him know. If he gets angry or blows up, he's not someone you'd want a child with anyways. Good Luck!
2007-05-10 05:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by xeternal_heavnx 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um... not a good reason to have a child. Tell him he has to prove to you that he is capable of taking care of you AND a child before you will even consider it.
27 is not too late.... My best friend just gave birth and she is 38 years old. He has PLENTY of time to earn enough money to pay the bride price to your parents. Don't let him pressure you into bringing a child into a world that he cannot provide food, clothing, and shelter for.
2007-05-10 05:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing true about it, you're still in the stage where you can have a baby, and probably the best thing to do is to marry him first rather than being pregnant before marriage wait for a couple of years, then when the time has come and you can now be married then it's ok....
2007-05-10 05:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by DARKSTAR 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The odds of getting pregnant decrease by age, but you see stories of women in their 30's and 40's who get pregnant and successfully deliver healthy babies.
Don't have a baby without a ring on your finger. Single parenthood is tough, I did it for 4 years before I finally married someone (not the father of my daughter.) It's tough emotionally and financially. Yes, people CAN do it, but you don't want to.
If he doesn't have money to pay for the wedding, then I ASSURE you that he doesn't have the money to help support a child. They're EXPENSIVE!
2007-05-10 05:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds very immature. Who is it going to be 'too late for' if you don't get pregnant??- Is he implying for you? What an absolute idiot he is. Women can get pregnant into their 40s. You don't have a baby/try to get pregnant because someone says time might run out. You shouldn't even consider getting pregnant unless you are sure a guy is for you, you are wholly committed to each other, you respect each other, both want the same things at the same time, and are financially secure. He is trying to put pressure on you and that's unacceptable. That is no reason to try to get pregnant. Don't do it.
2007-05-10 05:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by Muffin 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you might want to reconsider that 'giving him a baby' part. why? he said that he wants to give you a baby because it might be too late for you or you might never have a baby anymore. yes it's true, but his reason is pure BS!!
did he ever tell you how he's going to support you and the baby? if he can't pay the bride price, then how can he pay for the expenses for the baby's needs? unless it's ok for you to shoulder everything. which might not be a good thing.
losing your virginity to this guy is a big thing. but getting pregnant by him, because he says it might be too late for you, is crazy. and stupid. sorry.
if he can't support you, then don't get pregnant by him. one problem can't be solved by another problem. and can i add? he is selfish.
2007-05-10 05:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he can't afford a wedding he sure as hell can't afford a child!! You have plenty of time left to have a baby. The medical profession don't even consider you an "older mother" until you are 35 or over. Wait until it feels right for you and you feel you are with someone who will take care of a child like a good father should.
2007-05-10 05:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
bride price? are there any americans on this board?
he's full of it. women can have babies into their late 30's, early 40's, and beyond. at 27 you are definitely not near the age when you won't be able to anymore.
you could EASILY wait until at least 32 or 33. probably much longer.
2007-05-10 05:51:08 · answer #11 · answered by a b 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋