ive always been afraid of getting children. I love to travel, go outside. i am hyperactive and have a lot of hobbies. I am being selfish..but alot of women i talk to have the same fears. does life end as you know it with kids? the guy im with wants children...i havnt said no to the idea..but i havnt embraced it either. and not like we would be ready for a few more years anyway. im 26.
2007-05-09 22:39:58 · 8 answers · asked by D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's another guy that just asked a question about why it's so hard to find women that don't want to have children. You should hook up.
Note:
Children are not blessings from god, they are terrors from hell.
2007-05-09 22:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by Steve M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't personally have children, but am facing the agony of maybe not being able to have them! My sister and I talk about this all of the time! Yes, life ends as you know it, BUT and that's a big BUT! Your life begins in such an amazingly different way that words can't really describe! She said it was like something had always been missing, she just never knew what, and now her life is complete in every aspect!
A friend of mine told us this quote "To have a child is to know what it's like to have your heart walking around outside your body!" and my sister said every word of it is true!
If you aren't ready for children, then don't rush it, some people just don't want them, and thats fine too! But, if you think it's possible you will want them, don't rule it out so soon! Children are amazing miracles, and the love for a child and the love you receive from a child is indescribable and irreplaceable! It's the most amazing feeling ever felt!
I do know that for a fact! My nephew is my life, and I can't give the words to explain what the sound of his voice, or the smile on his face can do for me on a bad day! And when he has tears, even if it's just cause he wants a cookie, it breaks my heart a little until he's smiling again! A child is a miracle, and they change your life, but it's in an amazing way!
2007-05-10 05:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life doesn't end, but it certainly changes radically. Or it should.
I used to ride motorcycles. When I got pregnant, I stopped. I've never been on one since. Riding pregnant would have been stupid. Car seats don't strap on to motorcycles well, and the helmet makes the kid's neck bobble too much, so that was out. When the child is older, you shouldn't want to risk their lives on a bike, and you realize you need to be around to take care of this person..who is, wholly, dependent on you. So, as much as I loved riding, I quit.
Your child has to become your main priority. Can you travel? Sure. You have to travel around what works for them though. Hiking through Nepal with an infant is probably not a good plan. However, you can still go places, or hope "grandparents" are thrilled to take the child for a week or two during the year.
Hyperactive may work for you, however hobbies are tough to fit in. Children need lots of interaction, and you may find your new hobbies revolve around them mostly. You'll still have time, but not as much as before.
I don't regret having a child. She grew up to be a lovely person. However, your life does change. It changes forever. I'm sure NOW that it wasn't a bad thing for me. At the time, I wondered.
2007-05-10 05:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was destined to be a rock star. I was born 30 miles from where Elvis was born. I know people, and am related to people, in the business. I was taught to play guitar by someone who is in the Rock'n'Roll hall of fame. I was in a band by the time I was eleven years old. I had fans by the time I was thirteen.
But I got marriad, had kids, and now that I'm 52 I'm getting back into the business slowly and surely. Meanwhile, I got married and had kids, and raised two kids to become very successful.
The most important goals I ever had were to get married and be the best husband and father I could be. It was tough, oh hell it was tough! Sacrifices for two and a half decades.
You have to decide, what is the ONE thing in life that matters to you more than anything else. You can have that ONE thing, and maybe another. Everything else is a possibility, a maybe, but not a for-sure.
I can tell you this, though: I'm 52. Every THING I ever bought means nothing. Every PLACE I ever went, so what? I live in Las Vegas now, a place everybody wants to go. When my wife and I go out, we have the equivalent of a once-in-a-lifetime vacation for most people. And compared to having two grown kids that love us, nothing else matters.
That's just me. You may see things differently. Now, anway. I suggest you go around and ask people who never had kids if they regretted it. Some will say no. But I will let you do this and find out for yourself.
When you get my age, you will discover that all of our lives are not much different than the life of a mule who's owner holds a stick with a carrot on it out in front of the mule, to get the mule to do what he wants the mule to do. The mule thinks it will get the carrot, and chases it, but in the end all that happened was that the owner got what he wanted out of the mule.
2007-05-10 06:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by hit_monster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my life didnt end when i had kids but it does change alot.I cant explain really but when you give birth you get this love for the child that is so different to any other love you have felt.Kids are great but at the same time some women never want or have kids.Do they regret it?I think they proberly do deep down.Dont rush into anything and tell your partner how you feel,you may feel differently in afew years.
2007-05-10 05:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by becx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha "getting children".. You say it like you're "getting the flu"
My life would have ended if I didn't have my child.
I was living on the streets, doing a lot of drugs when I found out I was pregnant.
My son is now 3, and he is the healthiest and happiest most polite child ever!!
I'm a single mom taking care of him, working and going to school.
He is my motivation, and I know that if it wern't for him, I would be dead.
Sure, it makes a lot of things harder-- having a social life, etc. But it's so worth it.
Plus, I know who my real friends are-- they are the ones who have stuck by me 100% through my entire journey.
2007-05-10 05:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready to give up the active lifestyle and freedom you have right now, don't have any kids. When you wake up one morning and want to have kids, go ahead.
2007-05-10 05:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would it end? kids are blessing from God!
it may be your life just started...
2007-05-10 05:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by fashion時尚嬰孩玩偶doll 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋