anything like that, but he is respectfull and has a decent car, fairly good job..and most importantly likes me for who I am and has not tried to make me into something or someone I am not..Yet my family and friends tell me that I am settling for someone who is beneath me..Merely because he is not physically fit...I say who cares, he makes me feel like I am on top of the world...If I don't care about his weight, why should they? They are not the ones dating him....Suggestion on how to stop the stupitidy?
2007-05-09 20:17:05 · 40 answers · asked by Mommy Dearest 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't give in to all of this stupidity. If you're happy with him, that's the most important thing. And besides, looks can be changed easily and personality is unique. Don't miss out on the best thing in your life just because someone puts pressure on you to live YOUR life the way THEY want. It's not every day that you find someone who loves you for you so don't let it slip away. Be strong. Good luck!
2007-05-09 21:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Indre G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really is not much you can do to change their minds, maybe if your friends and family took the time to get to know him they might change their minds. You cannot let other people live your life for you, have you told this to him? Maybe if he knows the situation better there are some things he might do to help you. If he cares about you as much as you care for him I am sure that he will do something to make the situation more tolerable to you. The best thing you can do is simply be honest with him and your friends and family. You might also tell your friends and family to try to get to know him better and that might change their minds. Do not let things like this effect how you feel, if you are happy with how things are then you should just be happy. If your friends are really your friends they will see that you are happy and might realize that they were mistaken in what their thoughts were about this person. Honestly their is no way to stop people from being the way they are.
2007-05-09 20:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by James N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you really and truly are happy with this man, then you are just going to have to live your life and be happy. You really can't control what other people think and do and say, but you can tell them that you don't appreciate their negativity in regards to this new relationship.
Are you attracted to him? That is another thing. If you are not attracted to him, but just like the way he treats you, that could eventually become a problem. I am not saying that you have this problem, I am just asking.
Anyway, just enjoy the goodness that he brings into your life and tell your friends and family that this is where you are really happy and you would appreciate their support.
If he truly is a great guy and you guys stay together, then your people will come around eventually. They will see how great he is and begin to appreciate him. Give it time.
Good luck and congratulations on finding a good one!!!
2007-05-09 20:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by animal lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that what you are saying is true, i mean you are the one dating him. and if you make eachother happy more power to you. i know how it feels to be with some one your family might not get. but if your love is string and true it will overcome anything anyone has to say. i know it is hard when it is the family that says the things. but surround your self around people who are going to be happy for you. because all this drama can cause stress in your life and then begin to put a strain on your realationship with this guy. and from what you said, he sounds like a great guy. maybe try working out together, and stuff. i know you shouldnt have to prove nothing to know one, but maybe showing that you are doing something will shut some people up. the best thing is to prove people wrong in the right way. and showing that you are willing to sacrafice for this guy, by working out or ect, might make them have nothing to say. but in the end, do what is happy, because if this guy is potential FOREVER> then the family will eventually learn to adjust. live your life and love in your life also. i am glad you arent shallow about your relationships, and your family should be happy that you are not only out for looks, and getting hurt. and if he takes care of you, then they should appreciate that too. well i wish you luck, and i hope what i had to say helps. and dont forget to do what makes you happy, you only got one life and one heart. CIAO!
2007-05-09 21:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for u! Looks arn't everything! Ur family and friends need to relaise that love is not about how someone looks! Its about their personality and he makes u happy! it is so difficult to find someone who loves u just the way u are and treats u like a queen! Most guys who are good looking have no personality and in the end the physical attraction wont be enough to keep a relationship going! Its about the personality and the fact that you guys enjoy eachothers company! Explain this to them and make them realise that you would like their support but dont need it and would appreciate it if they dont bad mouth ur man or ur relationship! They can have their own opinion about him but you dont have to care and as people who care for you they should not bad mouth him! Im glad that ur happy!
2007-05-09 21:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by Stacey-Lee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They don't matter, it isn't a factor in this. Your relationship with this man is about you and him only. However, phsyical attraction is a major role in relationships. If you're completely happy with the way he looks and you think you'll generally always be, then it shouldn't matter. If you have the slightest doubt, you may want to ponder that. I'm not saying think your way out of a relationship, but be certain you're are truly happy with his apperance and your own. If not, then why don't you both work on that together. That alone could bring both of you much closer, not just emotionally but physically as well.
2007-05-09 20:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by x_not_your_secret_x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow seems like your family are really shallow!! It's good 2 hear a woman who isnt so concerned about looks and the like...It's always more important the way that person can make you feel. If your family cant see how happy this man is making you then you have to explain to them but if they can see it and they are still trying to talk you out of it I suggest you ask them where there priorities lie..in your happiness?or what your boyfriend looks like....I think you know if you have a good thing like that with someone dont let it slip away!Good luck x
2007-05-09 20:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your happiness is what's important. Stop listening to what others are saying and do what feels right for you.
In time those close to you will get to know him and will see the things you see in him with time. If not it's nobody's loss but their own for not seeing beneath his size.
It's good to see there are people out there that realise looks aren't everything and that there's more to a person than how they look on the outside.
I hope things work out for you and your new love. Best of luck
2007-05-09 21:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by AllyKat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to mind their own business. There are plenty of people that like only people that are over weight. You found a great guy. Don't worry about what anyone else says. Looks do not make people what they are, character does.
Tell them that if the are true friends they will accept him and be happy for you.
2007-05-09 20:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say you talk to your family and tell them to back off in a nice way, because you didn't tell them who to choose or what to do with their life and they should let you make your own decisions.
Tell them how he makes you feel and that if they can't say anything good about him, they should not say anything at all about your relationship.
Be who you are and don't settle for anything less....show them wrong and make the most out of your relationship.
2007-05-09 20:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋