2007-05-09 20:15:46 · 19 answers · asked by tccballetmusic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a Mexican who knows Spanish I gotta tell u that what is most important is your body language. Show that you are a humble yet confident woman who loves your boyfriend a lot. Let me tell u a little story. My brother once brought his girlfriend from Hawaii, who didn't speak Spanish at all, and he took her to Mexico for three days. My mom also went. When my mom got back, she said that EVERYONE loved my bro's girlfriend because she was always happy and friendly. Even though she did not understand the language they could tell by her attitude that she was a good person. So don't worry so much about speaking Spanish, a smile is a universal language :) In case u want to say one line to her in Spanish u say "good day" when u meet her like this:
booehnose deeahhss
I spelled it out as if it were english so just read it aloud. Good luck!
2007-05-09 20:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by Neysa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand your wifes position and feeling out of place. I also understand your mothers feelings in the matter as well. There is a certain amount of rudeness and disrespect in speakin a nother language in someones home. Now if your wife is in your home then that is different. She should be free to speak as she is comfortable doing. I would make the trips to your mother short ones till your wife is better at the english. Also if you eat there your wife could offer to attempt to do the dishes or some effort in cleaning. That usually is a good ice breaker. When it comes to your wife there is no such question as to what you do about your wife. She's your wife and she and her feelings and well being are and should be your first thought. If you feel your wife is wrong in any way then talk to her about it when you are both alone.
2016-04-01 04:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take homemade cookies with you as a gift and try to learn a few lines of Spanish. For example: "Discúlpame, señora, pero yo no hablo español. Por el contrario, quiero aprender." is a good start. It means "Forgive me, Ma'am, but I do not speak Spanish. However, I want to learn." and will spin a favorable light on your character.
I might be wrong on a bit of the conjugation of the phrases above... my Spanish is a bit rusty. In any event, she'll likely understand what you mean even if you make a complete hash of the pronunciation. Remember: best effort is what counts the most.
2007-05-09 21:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jayce 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Neysa. I too have a non-english speaking MIL-most of my husband's family in fact. I do speak some spanish, so before we went to Mexico, I would try to speak on the phone with my in-laws. When he talks with them, I always say "hi" and "how are you," sometimes my husband translates, or even hand me the phone and tell me what they are saying when I can't understand it. Once we were there in Mexico, I was friendly and warm to them. I saw them before my husband did when we were at the airport cause I recognized them from pictures. Now they miss me, and I miss them terribly. My husband says that they think of me as their favorite daughter-in-law (not that they would tell the other two ;-) This is because one speaks spanish, but won't talk to them on the phone, and I barely speak but tried. The other is just not as friendly. Just smile and you'll be fine. Have your BF translate. Good Luck! I hope you get along with her as well as I do with my suegra (mother-in-law).
2007-05-09 21:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if you are not going to have a translator like you bf around, go get a spanish/english dictionary so you can communicate a little bit. if she has been around english speaking people at all, she can understand some.
2007-05-09 21:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him translate for both of you. What else can you do, take a crash course in Spanish? It would be nice if you would learn a few phrases or words to show her you've made an effort to communicate. Try to learn simple questions, for now. You'll do fine.
2007-05-09 20:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just smile and agree to everything. DO NOT swear out loud...all mother-in-laws no swear words even if its in another language. DO NOT speak between your teeth, you will be toast otherwise! Good luck ..I'll be praying for you!! Lol.
2007-05-09 20:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by Ari-ah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Qual problema?
You live in an English speaking country so it aint your problem it's hers. Dont try to be too ingratiating in life or you'll end up a doormat.
Just be polite and respectful.
2007-05-09 21:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well should take some flowers for the mum. Thats first sign, that she will like you. She will think sweet of you. or choclate or something, wine etc
Get your Bf to translate everything to his mum for you.
When she talks, he will have to translate it for you too. so that way converstion will get flowing.
Good luck.
Hope it goes better than mine, when i visited my husbands mother. (wish i didnt go, it made it worse)
buy hey, dont let my situation worry you.
am sure she'll be nice
2007-05-09 21:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just smile and act friendly. Try to learn a few key words to make her feel more comfortable.
2007-05-09 20:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋