Torn between bf and ex. help, its tearing me apart.?
my ex and i broke up 6 months ago, we were very much in love, we were on and off for over a year. he stopped talking to me for that 6 months of which we have been apart, but lately hes come back into my life saying how he loves me and that hes here for me now and that he doesnt want to leave me ever again.
my bf has supported me through all of the pain that my ex inflicted upon me, and we have been together for 2 months. im still in love with my ex but i love my boyfriend so much. what do i do?? its so confusing. i want to be with my boyfriend without all of these hassels.
2007-05-09 19:42:12 · 9 answers · asked by xxredjumpsuitxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, so you have a boyfriend you really like. Then forget your ex. Its really very simple to get him to leave you alone. Tell him to leave you alone, and then ignore him. Don't fall for any ploy he may come up with to get you to give him attention. Also, you may want to reassure your boyfriend that you really want him because all this outside interference may leave him feeling a bit antsy. Good luck!
2007-05-09 20:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm at a loss how you can go from being "very much in love" with one person, break up w/ them, and have a new boyfriend four months later. Sounds kind of like your putting this new guy in a shitty position. You need to take a breath, pick ONE boy (or possibly NO boys) and pretty much break off contact with the other one. That way at least your being somewhat fair and honest. If you keep bobbling between the two your being careless, selfish, and disrespectful.
2007-05-09 19:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to step back from both men and clear your head and really think about what it is that you want and which of these men is best for you. Your boyfriend seems to be a good man and he doesn't deserve a woman that is going to be cheating physically or emotionally so think about the consequences of your actions and if you really want to be with your boyfriend without any hassles, then perhaps you should be clear to your ex and tell him that there won't be anything else between the two of you and that you don't want him to contact you anymore because his presence is causing inner trouble and that his chance has passed. Good luck to you. I know that your upcoming decision is going to be hard.
2007-05-09 19:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Maya 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your boyfriend now who has supported you through this pain...there is a reason why that other guy is your EX! Do you want more pain to be inflicted on you? If you do get back with the ex, then you will deserve the pain he puts you through again...Good luck!
2007-05-09 19:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by LoveSlave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give your current boyfriend a fair chance. if it's really meant to be with your ex, he'll be there later. also, giving your current boyfriend a fair chance includes cutting off ties with your ex. (maybe a chat once a month or so, and no I miss you's) Your ex is obviously not respecting your relationship with your boyfriend.
2007-05-09 19:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by jibberdam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would stick with the person your with now. you and your ex tried doing you own thing and it didnt work out dont go back and make the same mistake twice. you have a new man in your life and he hasnt messed up on you so dont mess with a good thing. tell your ex you have a new man in your life and your real happy with him and that you and him did your own thing already and it didnt work so dont try come back into my life and mess things up
2007-05-09 20:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by robin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont lick back what u spat 6 months ago..that is the rule. there must be a reason why u split with him in the first place. that should be a clear sign for u.
2007-05-09 20:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by Say what? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have waited until you were over him before moving on. Tell your ex sorry, I have a boyfriend.
2007-05-09 19:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by Iron What? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think for a minute ok....why is he your ex? Then ask yourself who treats you better and who do you love more....if you ask me going back to and ex is the WORST mistake EVER!!!!!!!
2007-05-09 19:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋