Why is my mom trying to discourage me from my career goals?

Question

She doesn't want me to work nor go to college to get my Master's degree. When she 1st heard about me going back to college, she tried to talk me out of it. Also, my brother asked me, "Why don't you become a doctor. You should be a doctor because you're very smart." & then my mom intervened & said, "Candy, you don't have the mindset to be a doctor." I want my career to be a medical translator/interpreter.

Does my mom sound jealous? She has nothing going good for her life. She's afraid I'm gonna outsmart her, in which I already did. I'm the youngest & only person in the family to graduate from college.

Answer 1

All I can say is that Do Not EVER let Anyone discourage you from your dreams and goals. Stay away as much as you can from the people that do not suport you. I don't know you, but I'm proud of you for wanting to continue your education! :) Just hang in there and don't let anyone put you down.

Answer 2

Your mom may be hung up on security. Maybe she'd rather see you do something she can understand is safe and earns a living. My mom was a little like that, but she only expressed her opinion once, then let it drop. I had a part-time government job that paid enough to let me live in a terrible apartment. Not enough for a car or anything else. I decided to apply for a job teaching in Japan. My mom wanted me to stay in the old job because it was a GOVERNMENT job (total security in her mind), and she thought the job in Japan could go nowhere.

Well, I'm still in Japan (-:. It was the best career move I ever made.

Be adventurous while you are young! You'll still have time to fix any mistakes later, and who knows, it might not be a mistake!

BTW, if she is supporting you, she has a say in how her money is spent. If you want to be free of the complaining, you've got to stand on your own two feet.

Answer 3

It could be that your mother is jealous or just old fashioned. My mother does the same thing to my sister and to me. We both have a Master's and would like to get our Doctorate's one day. She always try to bring up neglecting our kids or spending too much time away from our spouse or where would you work if you had that much education. We get really upset with her but try not to show it.

My best advice is to do what will make you happy. Your mother isn't paying for your education. She doesn't have to put in the long house of study or look for a job to pay back the loans. You can be whatever you want. One day she will be proud of you, but, if she isn't, your brother or future family will be.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Sounds typical of a single mother that had children to simply have someone to love her. By keeping you down, you will have to depend on her, that will give her ownership over you in her mind. It has nothing to do with jealousy. However the worst thing in the world you could do is to become friends with your father! Remember she is trying to keep ownership over you.

Answer 5

sometimes people (moms) deal with things in ways we can never understand. but, i hope that in it all and after all your hard work, she will and is proud of you. maybe she just can't really tell you for some odd reason.
take pride in yourself and continue to pursue the goals that you have set for yourself. be proud of yourself, and talk to your brother throughout it all too...to keep you going when it does get hard. he'll be there for you!
take care, and keep up the good work.and, I'M VERY PROUD OF YOU!!!

Answer 6

My mother was very negative too. Please don't listen to her. You know what you want; you know what you are capable of so go for it girl. She may have been negative all your life. Remember: don't let your past control your future.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Just out of curiosity are your parent in their 60's?