Boyfriend Trouble?

Question

i have a boyfriend of almost 4 years and i was talkin to him on msn. i was jokin around and sayin "ur momma" then he got so mad at me and called me a B****. Now he dont wanna talk to me, so what should i do? should i leave him alone till he's normal or talk to him and say sorry again... i said sorry to him and he said i was disrespectful.... i was just jokin:(

he knows im jokin, but he said to me that i shouldn't have said that. i was dissin his mom or somethin like that... i would never do that. it seriously was a joke and thats what he gets mad over. he was never like this before

he knows i like his mom and i would never do anythin to disrespect her, i didnt mean it like that.. it was a joke-why do you think he took it so serious?

Answer 1

After 4 years he should know what your about. Maybe he has another problem that you two need to work out. Even if you were disrespectful he should have spoke to you like an adult first. He shouldn't have called you the B word.

Answer 2

Sounds like he was looking for any excuse to get upset with you and not speak to you. I have to say that it sounds like somethings up...i could be wrong but usually when guys react that way over a minor little joke it's because they were looking for an escape route because they want to go off and do something they know they shouldn't be doing, and they are trying to lay a guilt trip on the girl so they won't feel quite as guilty.. You could have said mojo and he would of probably reacted the same way.You've already apologized and if he cares about you then he will accept your apology especially knowing that it was said in a joking way. You gave him 4 years and the least he could do is have the decancy to talk out problems.

Answer 3

OK, if he is still upset with you, first let him come to you when he has simmered down. I don't believe he was really upset at the comment, but the jester was what has him upset...disrespecting his mother. This is always a touching subject, no matter if you are dealing with male or female. When he decides to speak to you again, start the conversation with apologizing to him. Then, allow him to explain why he was so upset with you. If you two have been in this relationship for four years, you know that everything will not be peaches and cream all the time. He should accept your apology because of the magnitude of your relationship and sooner (hopefully rather than later) he will realize the intent behind your comment.

Answer 4

He sounds like a sensative person who's got anger issues. But, he should have not called you a *b i t c h* regardless what you said. That's not how you a treat a lady, especially if your his girlfriend, if he can't respect you, then he has no business being with you. If he didn't like what you said & if it made him angry, then he should have approached you about it in a mature way. He should have said, "excuse me, I don't appreciate you saying that". Instead of getting all mad & calling you a *b i t c h*, now if anything....that's is disrespectful towards you. It sounds like he's got problems with communication, You should tell him you don't appreciate being called a *b i t c h* and I told you in my other answers, this guy does NOT deserve to be with you. The way you describe he treats you. Now, I know you love him & it's hard but girl, you have got to let go of something that brings stress to your life, if it's not good for you, then it's not worth holding on to. There are so many guys out there who can treat you much better. You will realize as you get older that you deserve a man who is going to treat you like a Queen, a man who will love you, respect you, talk to you maturely when something bothers him, trust you & most of all....take care of you when you are sick. I'm going to tell you something that I always tell my friends who call me when they are heart broken:

DON'T EVER SETTLE FOR LESS. especially when you know something is not good for you & that you can do so much better. Life is about growing up, learning & living with your mistakes, then knowing not to repeat the same mistakes ever again. When your involved with someone, it's no longer a relationship if they can't give you the respect that you deserve. I know it's hard to let go b/c of the feelings, but I tell you, later when you get over him, you will move on & think to yourself why didn't you leave him a long time ago? See, don't hold on to something that will waste your time. O.K.

good luck to you!

Answer 5

Your boy friend is no exception for what he has done. Even you would have done the same to him if he has said it to you. Its very common and also not a big issue after four years.

Just give him some time but do stay in touch. Call him frequently and say how u feel after that day and say how much you love him. This will definitely cool him and sort your problem.

Guys tend to get angry easily but they can be cooled more easily. It all depends upon how you talk now. After four years you and him should adjust to things. It doesnt matter who went wrong - not you or not him. Its both of you who have been wrong. So speak to him, try to meet him, talk to him in person, eye to eye conversation, then...

Your boy friend will be normal again!!!

All the best.

Answer 6

Dont worry....he will get over it. (Pehaps you have joked with him like this before and he is just tired of it). If that is the case, and you want to keep him as a boyfriend, then write him one more email and say, "I' have thought about what I said and I am very sorry. I will never joke like that again. You mean too much to me for me to lose your "friendhsip". When you are ready to talk again, I will be there for you. Love, ____." Send him this email. He will get up with you in a few days. If not, email him again in a week, and everything will be fine going forward. (Just don't bring it up again). Good luck!

Answer 7

This guy has emotional problems. Unless you're already in love with him, I'd stay away. He sounds like he could be a really controlling, abusive potential husband. Why get involved with a jerk? I think you'd be really sorry, and I know what I'm talking about. Been there, done that. :)

Answer 8

If he gets mad over something so stupid then you don't need him. I have always been able to joke around with my boyfriends and say your momma and we just laugh it off. That is not disrespectful and if he can't get down with that then who need him. Girlfriend keep your head up up up and keep laughing.....It makes the day go by better......lol!

Answer 9

What a moron. That really is a stupid thing to get pissed about when it was in a joking type of context, I agree let him cool down and don't appologize. It's his fault for not being able to pick up key points in a conversation with another person. Goodluck

Answer 10

He should have accepted your apology...first. He also did worse by calling you a B****. You were joking...he wasn't.

I would send him an apology, then let him alone... and wait for yours (apology) What is good for the goose is good for the gander.

Sounds like he was looking for a reason to start a problem, it may be time to rethink your relationship.....as it sounds like that is what he is doing.

Sorry that happened to you.... it sucks to be punished for something you didn't mean to do. Chin up*