i mean i've just finally gotten over someone who i couldnt stop thinking about but now i need to give someone else advice as to how she can do the same.
it was easier for me and i know it will be much harder for her to get over her boyfriend so any ideas on what i should say?
2007-05-09 17:18:07 · 22 answers · asked by scorpio 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and just know she doesnt see him anymore...he moved away and now she wants to get over him.
2007-05-09 17:43:04 · update #1
I've got a really good book on body language and it explains all about the chemicals in the body which make us attracted and fall in love. The love chemical is kind of addictive, and they have found out that the easiest way to get out of love with someone is to be angry at them and harsh as it sounds, to start to hate them! It stops the brain releasing the love hormone (you know the one that makes your tummy turn over when you think about them) and it breaks the "addiction"
I tried it and it works. I never thought I would get over one of my exes and i forced myself to hate him by thinking about all his faults and stuff and it bloody worked! Try it!
2007-05-12 07:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by laurasimonuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling and it's so nice of u to try and be there for her.
first, let her greeve as much as needed. if she brakes down crying don't try and dismiss it right away, gove her a couple of sec to get it out of her system, then what u should do is point out to her how gr8 she is and how one day she'll have someone who'll be there for her through thick and thin, who'll love her and never want to leave her
tell her that boys, i know u r one but say it, tend to be jerk some times and appologize for the way some of u act.
try and take her mind of it by doing thing, bowling etc, and going places that DONT remind her of him.
and help her stay happy but when she falls and gets into a down mood point out to her how gr8 she's been doing in the past ten min, day, week etc.
it's hard and some times we feel like we can't breath hard but the last thing we want to hear now is that it's ok, cuz now it's just not.
good luck (one more thing, keep a log in your mind of what works for her and keep on repeating it, but keep in mind that when we get hormonal, something that might have worked yesterday will not work in a time when we get our periods etc, why? cuz that's how we are)
keep up te good work and stay a true friend
2007-05-09 18:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no easy explaination as to how to get over someone. What works for one person doesn't work for the next.
The thing about getting over someone, is to just get over them already. Move on with your life, because if you don't you are wasting so much of it! Remind her that there is someone out there who is growing into a wonderful young man who she will someday meet. That there might be others along the way, but not to allow them to discourage her from finding the one that is right for her.
After she's been milking it for awhile, tell her that she needs to buck up and get over it! Sometimes people just need someone to be blunt and tell them how it is, instead of just continuing to allow her to mope.
2007-05-09 18:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only cure for a broken heart!! But with a kind and supportive friend like you, It will be easier. She needs your help and support right now, Someone she can talk to and share her feelings with . I know it doesn't sound like much, But your friendship and support will be valuable to her in the coming days when she'll need you to be there for her. Hope that helped and Best of luck..
2007-05-09 18:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really takes time to get over someone you love...i'm going through the same thing right now. What i'm trying to do is focus on myself and occupy myself with other things. It's not easy but time heals all wounds. Go out with friends and try meeting new people.
2007-05-09 18:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Raven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyones on the right path, get someone new. I broke up with an old flame that was 2 years running and I felt like dog crap for weeks until I sucked it up and went out and met someone new. Now all the new exciting things and changes keep her out of my mind. Goodluck
2007-05-09 18:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by Just keep breathin' 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never easy to get over someone you loved and lost, but it is possible as you well know.. First, get her involved in activities she likes, don't try to push her back into dating..Second, listen to her when she needs to talk about her pain, but don't let her wallow in it..She needs to get it out but she also needs to let go of it..Third, just tell her to take her time and relax, no one has to get over a relationship in the same amount of time as someone else.. Keep her busy and doing fun interesting things with good friends, it always makes things better to know that your friends really do care! Good luck and I hope things work out for you and your friend..
2007-05-09 18:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by brunette_godiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good way to get over someone for me...
Is realizing that your one more person away from finding that special someone who is meant for you......
Going through live holding on to someone is not only beating you up inside but physcially it can wear on your body....
Its good to think positivly and know that things happen for a reason
If you speak something and what It hard enough....
It will happen....
No regrets...
2007-05-09 18:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the main thing to show is the fact that she didnt feel that way with him from the start. She built up that feeling and with time she can have it again, if not with him than with someone else
2007-05-09 17:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by social_outlaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by getting under someone else
but really there is no better answer than time u may think yeah sure,but im 36 i know youll b a-ok i give you my word of honor
2007-05-09 17:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by chopper1971 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋